HELP

Mental health
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I, I'm really sorry if I am taking your time, reader, but what is happening to me is slowly killing me.

i've recently went through hard times, because I'm a student and I had some problems with my friends during the summer holidays, I lost contact with them, because I wanted to take it chill and just have great time with my family. (Friends stress me out, I have no idea why, I'm just scared of being with people, except my family, I'm pathetic, I guess.) 

So when I went back to school, they ignored me, and now I'm here. For now I am 'alone', but it's pretty great, I guess. i feel like i'm more under control of my life. But here isn't the problem.

i am a shy girl, and it is really hard for me to interact with people, make friends, do oral presentations... and that's the problem. Thinking of something linked about doing something alone stresses me out. Like, eating, I always stresses me, because, I don't know what table I'll eat at, nor who's gonna judge me while Imm alone at that table. I can think about a thing that for a lots doesn't matter, for hours, because for me it's the scariest s**t ever!

these days I feel like my heart is constantly at the max speed, I'm always 'shaking', I always feel uncomfortable.. And I feel like I'm about to get in depression ! Even while reading this, I feel like my head is leaving my body, it's prettty scary, and I'm even wondering, am I becoming crazy ? Imm.. I don't know what to do, help me, please. 

 

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Writting* sorry for all these mistakes. I can't even concentrate on what I'm writing

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Hi Nanabel,

Have you been to see your doctor yet about your feelings as perhaps they could refer you for some talking therapy - not sure where you are based as I'm in the uk and I know it's different in other countries.

I can't imagine how hard this must be when you are at college age as socialising is almost expected of you and if you want to keep yourself to yourself it's viewed by other studients as strange. Sometimes when I was at school/College I would hang around with people I didn't feel very comfortable to be around just for the sake of not looking like a loner or having to sit on my own in the lunch hall. Have you got somewhere quiet you can go on your breaks and perhaps eat a packed lunch there so you don't face the anxiety of going into the lunch hall on your own? 

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First of all, thank you for answering me

Well I'm in Canada, but I already tried to get a therapy with the therapist at my school- it scared me more than anything and the minute before, I cancelled the appointment.

No, there is no quiet place to eat at my school.. The only way I could eat without being stressed out, would be to eat in the washrooms, but, you know, that would be a little weird. And yes, I tried to go eat outside, but there ain't a lot of place, it's in the middle of a city.. And even if I could, winter would stop me, because of the snow, so the only place I can eat is in the lunch hall.. I really tried to find somewhere that I could eat but, I destined to be stressed out for the next 3 years.. i don't know what to do, I feel like I'm the too much to everyone, I think they don't like me, I even asked to eat with some girls the other day- they ignored me.. So I just acted like nothing happenned... why am i so suddenly inexistant ??

 

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Oh my goodness you sound like me when I went to college.  I hated presentations and eating at the cafeteria..  Just made me nervous.   But there are so many people who are just as nervous as us..  I kid you not-- half aren't even paying attention because they are focused on own problems..  A deep breathe or two helps--  I always look around the room not at anyone really just the back wall.

I also know about chilling without friends..  Yes, I'm sometimes more comfortable without them (depends on my mood). BUT friends are so important in our lives.  Do what you can to reconnect and stay in touch here and there with them. I still get together with a few friends from college here and there.

Also on campus I'm sure there is student services where you can talk with a therapist/counselor.  Make an appt with one..  Honestly you will feel so much better when you talk with someone.  I joined a group therapy at school and it helped so much..  : )

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Thank you.. gonna try it out

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Hi Nanabel

It sounds as though you are having anxiety attacks with the shaking and fear.  As suggested I would make an appointment with student services and talk to them.  They may be able to come up with some suggestions of a quiet place that you can eat and spend time in to help with your anxiety. 

Also are there any small groups that you could join to try to get you used to being around people.  Also that is a good way to make some new friends.  Real friends don't fall out just because you haven't spent time together all the time. 

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Girls at this age can be very clicky and ignorant of mental health issues. Don't take the actions of others personally - they are immature and unaware of your situation. 

You could try explaining to the friends you had before the holidays why you haven't been in touch over the summer as perhaps they think it's because you don't like them. I'm sure if you explain to them that it's because you have been unwell then they might be more supportive. 

Speak to a teacher who has some authority such as a head of year/department and see if you can eat in a classroom at lunch time - you could also get a supporting letter from your Doctor to do this xx

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Hey there. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I can understand your concern. I think the problem here is that you are getting too much anxious about dealing with people and as far as being with other people is concerned, see everyone is busy in their own lives, they won't have time to notice whatever you do or not do, right? I think you should consider spending time with someone you trust for example, your siblings or your parents. It may help you become more confident towards dealing with others. For your physiological symptoms, you should consider approaching a therapist who can help you in overcoming them. I had consulted eWellness Expert. They can help you to overcome your mental and emotional problems. You will be okay, don't worry. Hope this helps.

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Hi, It sounds like you may be suffering from some form of anxiety disorder. There are medications that will help you feel more balanced. Maybe think about getting a therapist to talk to who is open minded and non judgmental. This is no way to live. I feel for you..you are suffering. I think that professional help is definitely the way to go in your situation. Please know that most people are insecure about themselves, and are very critical of their own selves. The ultimate goal would be for you to eventually learn to love and accept yourself. You sound like a nice person, and deserve a good life