hi guys so ive been having symptoms for about 5 days now and i went to the gyno and she told me that it was herpes… I started off thinking it was just my skin rubbing off together creating a rash and couple pimples between my vagina and anus… then i took monistat because i thought it was a yeast infection… 5 days later these red “pimples” are all around the lips of my vagina and some of them have even popped. Looking at pictures of herpes online - mine looking nothing like them… can someone help me? I dont wanna wait for my swab tests 
heres the picture i took the 1st day i noticed them and today…
i just want to add to this - i have been in a monogamous relationship for about 6 months. i dont know if my boyfriend has ever had a cold sore but hes never had an outbreak like this. Im scared to tell him what i have and how he’ll react… please someone just give me some peace of mind cus i cannot stop crying…
you have been with him for 6 months and this just happened 5 days ago? i dont think its herpes if youve never had this before. if you wax/shave this could be the result of these bumps. honestly you should just get them swabbed ask for them to expedite it and get the results in a couple days.
dont cry! i think you should be fine
herpes can lay dormant and flair up for the first time when it wants really!
he doesnt have to have had an outbreak to pass it orally or genitally most people dont know they have it! this is how it spreads so easily!
to be it doesnt look like the typical herpes but herpes is difficult to visually diagnose!
keep calm and wait for you swab results if you got some! although herpes seems like the end of the world it really isnt! there is worse things that can happen x
I honestly used an old shaver before i shaved last week but the doctor seemed pretty positive she knew what she saw. thank you for the peace of mind.
I have genital hsv-1 and it didnt look like this but it also didnt look anything like a classic case. 2 doctors even told me it was nothing to worry about but my test was positive. So there really is no way to visually tell. But either way just relax! I know this probably isnt what you want to hear, and I know that right now it probably seems like your world could come crashing down, but IF its positive I PROMISE you wont feel like that forever.. Just keep reading about it and educating yourself…“honeycomb forums” is another good forum group and so many questions can be answered by surfing through there… As for your boyfriend, odds are IF its positive for herpes its from him. Like others said, yes it can flare up whenever, but if its active hsv2 and this is your first outbreak you most likely got it recently… Transmission rates are about 10-15% with type 2 when no symptoms are present, so it would make sense that it would take a ton of sex with him before you caught it. Don’t play the blame game but you should ask him if hes ever had a cold sore as a child, and if he says no, ask him if hes ever been blood tested specifically for hsv. They dont test for it in routine std testing, only if you ask for it or if you show syptoms. Also, most people that have it dont show any symptoms at all. So it would most likely be from him.. You should tell him and maybe even show him whats going on and that you havent gotten your results yet and you would like him to be tested too.. being on the same page and going through this together, rather than you just telling him could take a lot of stress off of the disclosing part, in reality since this is sexual health related this is both of your issue not just yours… Im not sure how old you are but if its a serious relationship and he is mature it probably wont be an issue… If you need to talk feel free to message me! I read sooo much after my first outbreak.
Thats what I read online, but even my doctor asked me if he’s been down on me in the past 3 weeks - which he has not… I have had multiple sexual partners so i wouldnt be surprised if its not from him.
Do you think I should wait for my results to tell him or tell him now? We honestly see eachother every day and I cannot even fathom holding this in with him… I feel more bad for him than I do myself. but thank you for the response, really helped calm me
I just want to say I am so thankful for people like you. thank you for the suggestions/tips, i will most certainly not be playing a blame game… And im 19 years old so this is kind of a traumatic experience. I will actually keep you in mind if i have further problems which I am hoping these tests come back negative
hi, this does look like herpes. what other symptoms do you have? headache? fever? are they painful or itch? it can lay dormant for a long while and pop up espcially if you have bv, yeast infection or anything else that can lower your immune system. i would not tell your boyfriend until you get the results. but do NOT have sex or anything until you do get answers.
It can lay dormant for many months before an obvious outbreak occurs. This has happened to a couple people I know.
Even if it is herpes, trust me, it’s not nearly as bad as things may seem. Don’t give yourself PTSD over this when it’s completely not worth it.
The affect this has on you if it is herpes in terms of value as a person, attraction and desirability by men is negligible to ZERO. Trust me on this. More people have herpes than don’t, and many of them don’t realize it. Thousands get diagnosed every day; it’s incredibly common. Take deep breaths and whatever it is, just deal with it and move on and focus on things in your life that actually deserve the focus, not dumb old herpes, as annoying as it may be.
i had a couple headaches last week right before they popped up if that counts as any other symptoms? everything else has been around my coochie area. it can sometimes be itchy, sometimes they will sting, and peeing will sting depending if its on a open blister or not, and i do have discomfort when i am sitting and walking.
If thats the case - do you recommend i get a blood test to see how long i’ve actually had the virus (my gyno said they could do this)?
I think i’m having a hard time processing everything because I have known nothing on herpes until literally my diagnosis.
Its still a shock so i will be doing a lot more research to make myself better.
keeping my head up for this. thank you.
yes headaches are common for people with herpes since it affects your nervous system. when did you get swabbed? a blood test would tell if this infection is new or not. If the swab comes back negative, I would wait 3 months then go back and get a blood test. Im hoping the best for you though!
personally if it was me, id say something to him what your going through! i have HSV2 and just have taken the approach to be open from the start!! But i know hard it can be!
Go with your gut! He may be really supportive for you which will really help!
But if it is something and you tell him after all this time he may not be happy!
No problem! feel free to message me if you need to x
I got swabbed 5 days after i noticed symptoms (yesterday morning) she said the results should be in friday morning, if not, friday afternoon(about 2 days). I will definitely be looking into doing a blood test - will a blood test show anything if I am not experiencing outbreaks/symptoms at the time? Thank you for replying !!!
No problem! Keep us updated! We are here to help 
iam in the same position as you im to scared to tell my partner i think i deffo have it and mine looks the same it all started through friction of sex i hadnt been with any one for a year before my new partner and had all std checks so thought i was safe
i know during my first outbreak, I didnt get swabbed until 7 days after i noticed symptoms. it still came back positive but i also had new sores forming when i got checked. a blood test will tell you if you have it even if you show no symptoms
Did you go to the doctor to get it checked? you should get a swab/blood test done. Herpes is not one of the things they check for in a basic std check - usually you would have to ask your doctor to check more.
what did your herpes outbreak look like?