Hi, im crystal im going thru some things and is getting to me allot. Im not happy with the person i have become and i dont want to be this person, i want to go back to my self. I feel like the people i talk too only talk to me because they need too. I dont like or love my self. Im not a person that can make conversation with others and is so frustrating bc i see other have a good friendship and i cant do that. I feel unwanted and useless. I dont know what to do? I dont feel confident with my self i dislike who i am. I feel like im so different from my surroundings and the whole world. What can i do to change this? I got rid of all my social media bc i would always be in it and it affects me more when i see stuff i dont want too.
Hi crystal, well u r not alone I'm feelin the same way at this very moment. I feel so all alone even though I have family, but it seems like I am their least concern. I'm depressed and concerned about some thyroid tests I have to take. This is so overwhelming for me sometimes I feel like giving up but I look at my baby and the rest of my kids and they give me a reason to fight. I jus want the old me back full of fun and laughter. I'm tired of crying all the time. I constantly asking God to help me and I know he will he always does.🙏🙏 I pray things get better for u as well🙏🙏😍
You've come to the right place, Crystal. Many folks here suffer the same feelings of self-worth.
You were right to get rid of the 'social media', that stuff can really create issues with you through virtual-feelings. I deactivated my Facebook and Twitter accounts because I was getting so angry reading stuff. It can tie you up in knots.
Depression and anxiety need to be controlled with 5 approaches-Therapy, medication (if needed), good diet, regular exercise and good quality rest. You can't skip any of them. Do you have access to Therapy or at least someone you can confide with? That's the first step. Then see your GP about an SSRI medication which may help you feel a wee bit better. The rest are self evident.
A few changes in each of those areas can reap good benefits. They don't make your problems go away, but they can make life more manageable and set you on a path for improving every day.
Can you tell us more about your condition and circumstances?
You are not alone.. I'm suffering right now as I feel weak, tired and all that. I have made myself sick over a party that I HAVE to attend. I'd love to stay home but I have trouble with conversations and mingling.. I'm absolutely no good at it and like you I see so many people relaxed and having a good time.. How can I get there? I do know that each time I put myself out there and try it is helping.. Sometimes I get lucky and actually have a nice conversation which makes me feel good.. Counseling does help as they can continue to give you support as well as good friends too...
Hello crystal first of all you are not alone my love have you family you can talk to? sometimes they are the best people and sometimes you find it harder to talk because they are so close. Have you visited a gp yet to tell him/her how you feel? I have been where you are at on a few occassions and years ago I had no support I felt I had to be strong for my family and my husband wasnt very understanding but yes I wanted to shut out the world I was miserable where i wouldnt go out I just wanted me and my children. I would shut the curtains and inside I felt lost and i lost my identidy I wasnt me any more I just wasnt anyone every thing I did was on automatic pilot. I used to drag my self out of bed every morning. roll on 15 years yes I have that black cloud over me I cried everyday for about six months I told my self I wasnt going back on anti depressants or seeing another councellor because I would have failed again. my daughter is now hitting thirty and she realised I wasnt well. My boss at work realised and both have been a tower of strength my husband is trying to understand then I went back to my gp I had a fantastic gp who referred me to cbt I had one before but was ok but this time I had a brilliant one who worked for four months with me. I was unable to unleash all the negative things that had happened to me in the past from when I was a child at that point in my life I realised I had to let go face the fears and move on.I knew I had turned that turning point in my life it only took me 53 years!!!. Im sorry it was so long but I wanted to share a little bit of me so you can see you are not alone I had a lot of hurt and rejectment in my life but I moved on its hard my lovely very hard oh I forgot to say I found this page by accident and I have found the most amazing strength and support from people on here and they are all genuine people without judgement so please when you feel particually bad one day come on here and express your self. please dont suffer in silence I know I will always dip back down but each time I am stronger and in control instead of letting the depression and anxiety control me Im here if ever you need to talk
I think you're underestimating your ability to communication, Kelly. I'm reading your post and I see an intelligent person who communicates very well. Relax and be yourself. Find someone at the party who is talking about something you are interested in, that's the ticket. You read like the kind of person who has a lot to say about the topics that are important to you.
When you walk into the party just imagine everyone is dressed only in their underwear. I do that when I have to give a presentation at work. Believe me, it empowers you and diminishes them-and it's awful funny as well! This party could end up being the most fun you've had in a while, give it a chance.
You're somebody special! Show that to the other party attenders.
Thank-you for the tips!! I know all that and even try and write out basic things such as the weather, what ppl do over the summer, etc... before the party/event but still I freeze and just appear very awkward. Unless of course I find someone who's patient or as awkward as myself.
The party was OK but I was so relieved on my way home.. I will have to work on this more by attending some meet-up groups and such..
You went to the party and the roof didn't fall in, Kelly. We who suffer from anxiety always overestimate our fears, that's the nature of anxiety. I tend to do it as well. We need to work on it every day.
Go to more parties, you'll find your stride. Within a year you'll be looking forward to them. There is nothing to fear but the anxiety itself. I have my most fun at parties by being a quiet observer-I like to watch other folks interact and mix at a party, it's really interesting!