Can i just say i have had the most pleasant surprise this morning, john came to be gave me a kiss and cuddle, said i read some of the book gca, and i know what you are feeling, i could have cried, so ladies your man can come around , , sorry to be a pain but i wanted to share this with you all, he asked how are you today and i ttold him, and there was no funny faces or words like stop moaning, it was lovely .
Wonderful news, Margaret. I'm really pleased for you. X
Good to hear that the male side has some sympathy - from a male PMR sufferer. My wife, who is a specialist nurse and 23 years younger, sometime things I have 'man flu' !
Hi Margaret, am delighted for you, it really makes a difference when someone close to you understands. Great news. Regards Pat
Am so pleased for you Margaret; things will be a lot easier for you now, that John is starting to understand what life is like for you....we can only try the same, and knowing that our loved ones are really there for us, makes it soooo much easier all round....it has amazed me too, with my children especially noting when my jaw is playing up...even make small jokes re "do you want us to puree your meal for you, Mum?" Not yet, please.....Bron
well done you you got there at last. i got a similar reaction at first from hubby
only because he cares and tends to panic but he is ok
That's so wonderful!! Brought a happy for you tear to my eye.
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on no i can vouch for that, you take care
thank you
thank you bronwyn, hope you are well love, take care, big hugs
yes that was john problems.
thank you mrs mac,
Hi Oregonjohn: as having been in the health profession too (and in a specialized area as well), I can understand how you are viewing things...as now being on the OTHER side, have realized where the Gap starts....when we are working, our aim (even unthinkingly), is to get our patients better, and home to their families. However, since then, I have learn't a Big lesson...there is more to getting them better...as there are so many different issues that the patient/person faces at home. I did, first, learn this 34 years ago, after having a CSection...I couldn't get out of the bath....all hospitals have showers...just an example. Does /has your wife ever had a similar experience, or is this something she still needs to learn..that life outside the hospital fields is completely different? Although she specializes, as you have said, has she had the time to research your PMR?...as Margaret found, by her John reading material re her condition, he began to understand some of her issues....no-one understands/feels unless they have experienced inner pain...it's sooooo different to even a condtion notably treating, or able to been seen, as in a Huge Suture Line/ventilation etc...??? Keep trying, and she may start to learn, as our families have done>> I wish you all the best in this quest. Bron
She is not that bad! But when you don't see any visible signs (e.g. broken leg) it always difficult to understand. Chris works for the NHS as a case manager in occupational health so deals mainly with trying to get staff back into work usually after long term sickness or disabilities. Also now privatisation is around a lot of contract OH work with two universities.
Yep understand; you may have to become a "little more female"...when my hubby ses me "bite my lower lip/even cry", he then asks "are you in pain", as he does know me well....as in last night when he rang (working away from home at present", and realized that I wasn't replying, and mumbling repsonses that I did make...said same...and not "to talk, he'd do the talking"...am awaiting a mouth brace...Really hope that helps me...hoping you ok today? Bron