How is everyone today? I had a huge blowout with my family today. Have always been so calm ( even letting insults slide off my back) but today I flew into a rage.Issues have escalated so much that I cannot even take back what I said. Feeling sad. As I am growing older I seem to lose more people in my life Sorry needed to tell someone. This forum is like my family, reading posts helps me feel I am not alone so here I am venting Take care all
Hello Patti,
Sorry you’re having a rough day! True, you can’t take back hurtful words said to others, but you can always apologize if you feel you were wrong.
One thing you mentioned is that you can usually let insults slide. If they are true insults, better NOT to ever let them slide and address the person with assertiveness before it blows up into aggression.
It almost sounds like this may have been something brewing for a long time and you hit the end of your rope with it? It’s one thing if someone is kidding with you but insults shouldn’t be tolerated. I think it’s a form of emotional abuse.
So now you are in peri or in menopause and the hormones are making you on edge as they are with the rest of us. All you need is someone getting on your case and then “bam” a blow up… it’s understandable.
I’m Sorry to hear this and hope it ‘blows’ over. It’s family and I’m sure they understand. I’m ok .. SIGH Just not feeling the holidays-- I just feel really odd and weird — I don’t want to participate this year-- just want to hide somewhere..And yep, I was a little crabby to the kids today but it’s OK-- I know I’m tired and stressed… Trying to make some stupid side dishes for tomorrow.. Hopefully tomorrow will be better for us.
Patti, I’m in the same boat with family and such. But don’t be hard on yourself it wasn’t you it was the inside raging hormones that are JUST impossible to control ! For some reason family just don’t see that or want to support us in a time we need them most! YOU are not super woman during this time and added stress and issues from all around its no wonder you lost it! BUT know it was out of your control and get a glass of wine and chocolate cake and call it a day! (If they love you and I’m sure they do) they will eventually come around and on a peaceful day (which we women don’t get very often) you can explain that theres days you need support from them and no pressure that you love them but you are in a stage of live that the imbalance hormones in your body is controlling everything in you for now! ((((((((HUGS))))))))