Hi,
My experience of ReA is different to yours. I'm an active mother of three boys 13, 10 and 7. I'm 41 and looking after the kids/paying for their needs on my own for the most part. I have continued to be an active mother throughout my experience of the disease, but thankfully my kids have stepped up to help with bringing shopping in and putting it away ect. There were times that I was unable to hold more than 800grams in my hand because my wrists couldn't hold the weight! Even taking the wet washing out of the washing machine was difficult.
I sprained my right ankle one week before onset of ReA back in June 2017. Nothing to do with the ReA except that my ankle has only recently returned to normal size (has been swollen and delicate for 4 months!).
I woke up one day in early June with ALL of the joints on the right side of my body swollen and sore. My fingers and toes, knee etc and ball of foot.
I thought it was a strange reaction to the sprain...
I thought that would be the worst of it.
Over the next few days I found the rest of my body followed and I was swollen in every joint in my body. Although my neck and shoulders were fine.
I went to the doctor after a week and he suggested that it was reactive arthritis. His suggestion was that I take ibuprofen regularly as described on the box and paracetamol when the pain was bad. The two can be taken simultaneously as long as you take them in the recommended doses. This recommendation from my doctor suited me. I prefer to try the simple option before engaging in more difficult drugs.
Somehow I managed to get through life during the following 4 months... I ended up having to take a lot of time off work... Almost four weeks if you put the days together. Some days I could get out of bed, send the boys to school and make myself go to work. Other days I would force myself out of bed, send the boys off to school and almost collapse in pain!
After about 3 months the effects of ReA started to recede. I visited Alice Springs just as the ReA seemed to be diminishing and was able to climb Telegraph Hill (a rocky outcrop in the centre of Australia with loads of uneven rocky steps). I was amazed! Just three weeks before that and I wouldn't have even thought about trying.
My ReA has not gone away. I still have pain in my wrist if I use it to push my body up. I still have pain in my feet. And I still can't sleep or spend time with my elbows or knees bent... I used to go to sleep with my hand near my face, I now have to sleep with my arm extended to at least a right angle. If I don't do that I feel pain in my elbow and wrist within minutes.
I recently went to a physiotherapist to ask him to help me strengthen my wasted muscles. Neither of us realised how little I have been using my muscles and so I did too much on the first try.
Please remember to take advantage of any time you can when you have reactive arthritis to do strengthening excerises. It hurts, but if you don't you will end up like me. Starting from the beginning. I used to play volleyball. I had really strong legs. After doing 20mins of strengthening excerises they still feel like hot steel three days later! Keep up some sort of strengthening excerises in legs, wrists and core so that you can walk away from this body attack with an ability to get back to normal!!!
Rxx