I have so much on my mind that I must apologise because this may get quite lengthy! I have been struggling with anxiety for about 5 years now and I feel like it is getting worse not better. I remember the moment it first started, I was on a girls holiday in Spain and we'd partied quite hard all week and then one evening I had to force myself out when I really didn't want to because I was still feeling poorly from the previous night. When we got home a week later I was invited out on the weekend and suddenly this overwhelming panic came over me, I forced myself out and I did have a good time but the fear was quite disturbing. The anxiety has gotten so bad now that I have lost all my friends because I was always on edge if we went out so ruined their night or ended up making myself sick with anxiety that I couldn't go and have to cancel. I don't see the point in trying to make new friends now because friends mean having to put myself in situations I don't feel comfortable in. I also fear that by having friends I open myself up to getting hurt and having suffered at the hands of bullies as a teenager this is also a big thing for me.
I am able I to work a full time job, drive a car and fly to Greece by myself for a holiday. So in many ways I am doing ok but I fear that in my current situation I will never be able to sustain a relationship and have children of my own which to be honest really upsets me. 6 years ago I was at University, in a long term relationship and had lots of friends and I just don't understand where I can get myself back. My parents won't be here forever to spend time with me and it is important that I start building my life back up again.
I tried hypnosis which worked in getting my confidence levels up but not in removing the anxiety. I went to my GP and he gave me beta blockers to slow my heart down but nothing is working. I took up running, I eat healthily, cut down caffeine. Please tell me what I can do to feel better!
I have a works do arranged on Friday, I am petrified. I can barely eat or sleep out of fear and I still have a few days to go before it. What can I do?
Hast du überhaupt recherchiert, was eine Angststörung überhaupt ist. Hoffentlich ist das ein Ja. Vergiss, zurückzugehen zu deinem alten Ich. Zeitverschwendung. Du wirst ein neues Ich haben und es genauso oder mehr leben. Du hast im Grunde eine Panikstörung ohne Agoraphobie. Trotzdem ist es eine Panikstörung und muss behandelt werden. Bist du in Therapie? Es gibt verschiedene Arten, wie du weißt. Eine Panikstörung ist im Grunde eine Angstkrankheit, also ja, du fühlst viel Angst. Aber lass dich nicht täuschen, du musst das nicht noch verstärken. Das macht es schlimmer. Ich werde dir sagen, warum es sich so anfühlt, als würde es schlimmer. Du programmierst dich auf eine schlechte Art. Du erstellst im Grunde Angstregeln. Die Sprache deines Gehirns sind Gedanken und die Sprache deines Körpers sind Gefühle. Hör auf und denk darüber nach. Zwei verschiedene Teile des Gehirns. Jedes Mal, wenn du auf einen negativen Gedanken mit einem Gefühl "reagierst", schaffst du eine Verbindung, eine Abkürzung, eine Reaktion, die dein Körper und dein Geist sich merken und sich immer schneller daran erinnern. Wenn du nicht eingreifst, bist du in Schwierigkeiten. Jahre davon sind viel Programmierung und viele schlechte Gewohnheiten und Abkürzungen haben sich gebildet. Also jetzt.. CBT ist nützlich, du kannst ein Arbeitsbuch online finden und das durchgehen. Wenn es dir gefällt, kannst du echte CBT-Sitzungen mit einem Berater machen. Therapeuten sind nützlich, um deinen Verstand intakt zu halten und nützliche Beruhigungstechniken aufzuzeigen, es gibt tonnenweise davon. Das gilt für die Moderation, wenn wir zu viele Namen und so etwas verwenden. Bücher und Podcasts über Selbsthilfe zum "Umschulen" des Gehirns und Heilung deines Lebens von Angst. Das ist auch für dich wirklich so eine Suche. Weil all das in Gedanken und Gefühlen basiert, musst du dich ständig an die positiven Dinge erinnern und daran, dass die Angst dich nicht herumkommandieren darf. Du musst es akzeptieren, zur Kenntnis nehmen, aber nicht darauf reagieren. Du hast einen Panikanfall, lass ihn durchlaufen, entferne deinen Geist durch achtsames Atmen. Das gibt es auf YouTube. Wenn du etwas lernst, lerne achtsames Atmen. Es ist fantastisch. Es gibt keine magische Liste, die ich dir geben kann, es ist unterschiedlich für jeden. Es ist das, was mit dir resoniert. Das ist ein langsamer, langsamer Heilungsprozess, bei dem du ständig bewusst sein musst für deine Gedanken und Körpergefühle und sie in etwas Positives oder ein nutzloses Gefühl, dem du nein sagen musst, zerlegen. Die Hierarchie des Denkens ist der einzige Schutz, den du in all dem bekommst. Es ist mächtig. Deine automatischen Reaktionen funktionieren aufgrund der Störung und weil du all die Zeit hineingesteigert hast, nicht richtig. Du kannst den Angst-Tyrannen nicht belohnen, indem du darauf reagierst, indem du mit ihm läufst und ihn fürchtest.. das ist eine Belohnung. Wenn jemand zu dir käme und sagen würde, du bist in Gefahr, weil ich denke, du bist es, und dich dann ins Gesicht schlagen würde, würdest du da sitzen und dieser Person zustimmen? Nein. Das ist ein Tyrann. So ist auch Angst. Denk darüber nach. Viel Glück und sei geduldig.
Make an appointment with your GP to discuss your anxiety. Sending you away with pills only will not be the answer.
Ask to discuss councilling and cognative behavioural therapy CBT. Say that you would like to try this first.
If you are making yourself ill thinking about the works do, then simply make your appologies and cancel. The sooner the better.
If you have taken up running see if there is a running club/group near you that you could join and make new friends. Look at ways you can meet new friends.
CBT will give you techniques to help relax you and help allieviate your anxiety so that you can enjoy life again. Wishing you well.
Firstly well done on just sharing your feelings here! I'm new to this forum and know it's not easy putting down stuff even in places no one knows you!
You are asking what you should do about the works do. Personally I would do whatever feels right for you, and if you feel you don't want to go, and feel obliged to just say you would really love to go but feeling pretty under the weather and maybe another time. But I wanted to address the treatment you are receiving from GP. Have you asked for talking therapies? They can be really beneficial. Once a week. It's a space for you to talk about your feelings with professional guidance and a safe space where you can focus on yourself with no fear of upsetting anyone. Also it's a space where you can find or uncover why you feel and respond to certain things and how to find coping ways to manage unsettling or unhelpful feelings to help you lead the life you want. I'm not anti drugs but don't think for anxiety they are always good enough on their own. Also avoiding sugars/ wheat/ booze - these groups can mess about with our sugar levels, and impact on hormones which really impact on way we feel, how we react, energy v tiredness levels wtx. Stay strong big hugs x
Hi bella72575, I have the exact same problem! I can't believe I've found this forum. I've just started this forum too and I'm glad we have a place to go to. I don't have much friends and if I do I always ask them to come over to my place, because I always hype myself up before an outing and then I don't go, because my anxiety is too much. But then I end up feeling disgusting and bad because I know anxiety again has taken yet some of my freedom.
CBT does work, but you have to remember it's gonna be hard
And your not gonna win every battle. I struggle to go grocery shopping that's how bad I am. But take baby steps, just try sitting in a restaurant with one friend or by yourself and see how that works. What ever it takes to make you comfortable do it. I think maybe if you can confide in a friend one day what your problem is maybe they may be helpful. You need to start somewhere. I'm going in for hypnotherapy soon, it may work it may not. But I gotta try. I hope you do well and good luck!
Ich würde Ihnen definitiv empfehlen, eine Beratungssitzung in Anspruch zu nehmen und zu besprechen, welche Art von Angst Sie haben, und dann vielleicht eine kognitive Verhaltenstherapie (CBT) zu machen. Sie hat mir wirklich geholfen, mein Angstmuster zu durchbrechen, und ist das Einzige, was wirklich gewirkt hat.
Thank you for your response. My doctor has recently retired so I'm finding it difficult to approach the new doctor even though they probably have a new more modern approach to my troubles than my previous doctor who fobs me off with pills. Maybe I will go private and try CBT as a few people have recommended this to me this evening.
As for the works do it's unavoidable as they are closing the office at 1 and going from work so unless I call in sick Friday I guess I'm going! My Dad is the boss and he will be there, he doesn't really understand my issues but is aware I struggle so should be some reassurance.
Thank you for your comments. I am considering going private for CBT rather than wait 6 weeks for a referral as this has gone on far too long. I am exhausted struggling with things I know will cause me no harm and having nobody who understands me to support me.
Hypnotherapy worked to a certain point for me but couldn't break through the anxiety. I hope that you get done success from it too. Definitely need to try CBT now.
If your considering private,then I would suggest a psychotherapist for therapy rather than cbt. Cbt is often offered first on the nhs as it's cheap to deliver - but it has quite low success rates. It can work for some, but to be honest it fails more often. Private Psychotherapy typically is about £50 per hour,its worth it though as private therapists tend to be more objective than nhs ones, they aren't concentrating more on the clock than what you say