I have so much on my mind that I must apologise because this may get quite lengthy! I have been struggling with anxiety for about 5 years now and I feel like it is getting worse not better. I remember the moment it first started, I was on a girls holiday in Spain and we'd partied quite hard all week and then one evening I had to force myself out when I really didn't want to because I was still feeling poorly from the previous night. When we got home a week later I was invited out on the weekend and suddenly this overwhelming panic came over me, I forced myself out and I did have a good time but the fear was quite disturbing. The anxiety has gotten so bad now that I have lost all my friends because I was always on edge if we went out so ruined their night or ended up making myself sick with anxiety that I couldn't go and have to cancel. I don't see the point in trying to make new friends now because friends mean having to put myself in situations I don't feel comfortable in. I also fear that by having friends I open myself up to getting hurt and having suffered at the hands of bullies as a teenager this is also a big thing for me.
I am able I to work a full time job, drive a car and fly to Greece by myself for a holiday. So in many ways I am doing ok but I fear that in my current situation I will never be able to sustain a relationship and have children of my own which to be honest really upsets me. 6 years ago I was at University, in a long term relationship and had lots of friends and I just don't understand where I can get myself back. My parents won't be here forever to spend time with me and it is important that I start building my life back up again.
I tried hypnosis which worked in getting my confidence levels up but not in removing the anxiety. I went to my GP and he gave me beta blockers to slow my heart down but nothing is working. I took up running, I eat healthily, cut down caffeine. Please tell me what I can do to feel better!
I have a works do arranged on Friday, I am petrified. I can barely eat or sleep out of fear and I still have a few days to go before it. What can I do?
Forst, avez-vous fait des recherches sur ce qu'est un trouble anxieux. Espérons que c'est un oui. Oubliez de revenir en arrière à votre ancien moi. Perte de temps. Vous aurez un nouveau vous et vivrez de la même manière ou plus. Vous avez essentiellement un trouble panique sans agoraphobie. Pourtant, c'est un trouble panique et il doit être pris en charge. Êtes-vous en thérapie ? Il existe différents types, vous savez. Un trouble panique est essentiellement une maladie de la peur, donc oui, vous ressentez beaucoup de peur. Mais ne vous laissez pas tromper, vous n'avez pas besoin d'ajouter cela. Cela empire les choses. Je vais vous dire pourquoi cela semble empirer. Vous vous programmez de manière négative. Vous créez essentiellement des règles d'anxiété. Le langage de votre esprit est les pensées et le langage de votre corps est les sentiments. Arrêtez et réfléchissez à cela. Deux parties différentes du cerveau. Maintenant, chaque fois que vous "réagissez" à une pensée négative par un sentiment, vous créez une connexion, un raccourci, une réponse que votre corps et votre esprit se souviennent et se souviennent de plus en plus vite à chaque fois. À moins que vous n'interveniez, vous êtes dans le pétrin. Des années de cela, c'est beaucoup de programmation et de nombreuses mauvaises habitudes et raccourcis se sont formés. Donc maintenant.. la TCC est utile, vous pouvez obtenir un cahier de travail en ligne et le consulter. Si vous l'aimez, obtenez de vraies séances de TCC avec un conseiller. Les thérapeutes sont utiles pour garder votre santé mentale intacte et pointer des techniques calmes utiles, il y en a des tonnes et des tonnes. Cela va à la modération si nous utilisons trop de noms et autres. Des livres et des podcasts à foison sur l'aide à soi-même sur le reconditionnement du cerveau et la guérison de votre vie de l'anxiété. C'est aussi pour vous vraiment, donc une recherche. Parce que tout cela est basé sur les pensées et les sentiments, vous devez vous rappeler constamment des aspects positifs et que l'anxiété ne doit pas vous dicter votre conduite. Vous devez l'accepter, l'identifier mais ne pas y réagir. Vous avez une crise de panique, laissez-la se dérouler, retirez votre esprit en pratiquant une respiration consciente. C'est sur YouTube. Si vous apprenez une chose, apprenez la respiration consciente. C'est fantastique. Il n'y a pas de liste magique à vous donner, c'est différent pour chacun. C'est ce qui résonne avec vous. C'est un processus de guérison lent, lent, de constamment être conscient de vos pensées et de vos sentiments corporels et de les démanteler en quelque chose de positif ou en un sentiment inutile auquel vous devez dire non. La hiérarchie de la pensée est la seule armure que vous obtenez dans tout cela. C'est puissant. Vos réponses automatiques ne fonctionnent pas correctement à cause du trouble et parce que vous avez alimenté cela tout ce temps. Vous ne pouvez pas récompenser le bourreau de l'anxiété en répondant en courant avec elle et en la craignant.. c'est une récompense. Si quelqu'un s'approchait de vous et vous disait que vous êtes en danger parce que je pense que vous l'êtes et vous frappait ensuite au visage, seriez-vous assis là à être d'accord avec cette personne ? Non. C'est un bourreau. C'est aussi l'anxiété. Réfléchissez à cela. Bonne chance et soyez patient.
Make an appointment with your GP to discuss your anxiety. Sending you away with pills only will not be the answer.
Ask to discuss councilling and cognative behavioural therapy CBT. Say that you would like to try this first.
If you are making yourself ill thinking about the works do, then simply make your appologies and cancel. The sooner the better.
If you have taken up running see if there is a running club/group near you that you could join and make new friends. Look at ways you can meet new friends.
CBT will give you techniques to help relax you and help allieviate your anxiety so that you can enjoy life again. Wishing you well.
Firstly well done on just sharing your feelings here! I'm new to this forum and know it's not easy putting down stuff even in places no one knows you!
You are asking what you should do about the works do. Personally I would do whatever feels right for you, and if you feel you don't want to go, and feel obliged to just say you would really love to go but feeling pretty under the weather and maybe another time. But I wanted to address the treatment you are receiving from GP. Have you asked for talking therapies? They can be really beneficial. Once a week. It's a space for you to talk about your feelings with professional guidance and a safe space where you can focus on yourself with no fear of upsetting anyone. Also it's a space where you can find or uncover why you feel and respond to certain things and how to find coping ways to manage unsettling or unhelpful feelings to help you lead the life you want. I'm not anti drugs but don't think for anxiety they are always good enough on their own. Also avoiding sugars/ wheat/ booze - these groups can mess about with our sugar levels, and impact on hormones which really impact on way we feel, how we react, energy v tiredness levels wtx. Stay strong big hugs x
Hi bella72575, I have the exact same problem! I can't believe I've found this forum. I've just started this forum too and I'm glad we have a place to go to. I don't have much friends and if I do I always ask them to come over to my place, because I always hype myself up before an outing and then I don't go, because my anxiety is too much. But then I end up feeling disgusting and bad because I know anxiety again has taken yet some of my freedom.
CBT does work, but you have to remember it's gonna be hard
And your not gonna win every battle. I struggle to go grocery shopping that's how bad I am. But take baby steps, just try sitting in a restaurant with one friend or by yourself and see how that works. What ever it takes to make you comfortable do it. I think maybe if you can confide in a friend one day what your problem is maybe they may be helpful. You need to start somewhere. I'm going in for hypnotherapy soon, it may work it may not. But I gotta try. I hope you do well and good luck!
Je vous suggérerais vraiment de suivre une séance de counseling et de discuter du type d'anxiété que vous avez, puis peut-être de suivre une TCC, cela m'a vraiment aidé à sortir de mon schéma d'anxiété et a vraiment été la seule chose qui ait fonctionné.
Thank you for your response. My doctor has recently retired so I'm finding it difficult to approach the new doctor even though they probably have a new more modern approach to my troubles than my previous doctor who fobs me off with pills. Maybe I will go private and try CBT as a few people have recommended this to me this evening.
As for the works do it's unavoidable as they are closing the office at 1 and going from work so unless I call in sick Friday I guess I'm going! My Dad is the boss and he will be there, he doesn't really understand my issues but is aware I struggle so should be some reassurance.
Thank you for your comments. I am considering going private for CBT rather than wait 6 weeks for a referral as this has gone on far too long. I am exhausted struggling with things I know will cause me no harm and having nobody who understands me to support me.
Hypnotherapy worked to a certain point for me but couldn't break through the anxiety. I hope that you get done success from it too. Definitely need to try CBT now.
If your considering private,then I would suggest a psychotherapist for therapy rather than cbt. Cbt is often offered first on the nhs as it's cheap to deliver - but it has quite low success rates. It can work for some, but to be honest it fails more often. Private Psychotherapy typically is about £50 per hour,its worth it though as private therapists tend to be more objective than nhs ones, they aren't concentrating more on the clock than what you say