Well scared, I'm sorry to hear about your diag, but your numbers for hsv 2 are indicative that you are in fact infected w hsv 2 and it's a rather newer infection, from the low values. I had a friend who tested negative 3xs over the years, but she knew she had it.
What will help clear that up quickly, is soaking in lavender Epsom salt baths nightly for a good bit, until they're just red flat dots. Has made the difference of sores or a bump hanging around w no baths for over a week, to turning into a flat red dot in two days after taking those baths.
I know this can feel scary, but I can assure you, there is nothing to be scared about. A time will come, where this is as annoying as when you get a few pimples on your face.... Anotherwards, a minor annoyance.
It feels like your life is destroyed now, but I can assure you it is anything but. I know so many people in my circle of friends who have it. When you're out in public, count the females like: 123 Herpes, 123 Herpes, because that's the reality if the situation for women. 1-4 women have it and
1-8 men have it, so count the same as I did w the women. You will then realize in a crowd, how so unalone you are and how they are living their life w smiles on their face and enjoying all the same things as you. Your life being ruined is someone who becomes a paraplegic.. It's hard not to be dramatic about our diagnosis, we all are like this when it first happens.
It's not the virus that ruins it or makes us feel this way it's US ALLOWING societies stigma of it to effect us. Tell me what you can't do any different now that you have it, vs when you didn't? What? Have casual risky sex, where you were bound to catch something anyway at some point? People w herpes still have casual sex. There are sites to meet people w the same condition as yourself and support groups.. They have get together weekends and such. . so now the only difference is, you are dealing w someone who knows your status and they know yours.
So now that we cleared the casual sex out the way. Tell me how else your life is ruined from this? How has your life now changed or is going to change, other than casual sex and having to disclose?
1. Your HSV 1 value indicates you do not have oral herpes. A positive test reading is anything above 1.1. So you do not have to worry about passing it on to your family. I can assure you, your mother likely already has oral herpes.
2. You can't pass hsv 2 to your family. It is a myth that you can get it from toilet seats, clothes and towels... Best practice is not to share towels, but why would anyone want to share a towel to begin w? No you cannot spread it in hot tubs or pools either.
3. Why wouldn't you be able to date? You're still the same person. It didn't transform you into a hideous monster. It just now forced you to slow your roll. It forced you to take your time, get to know someone, like really know them, before becoming intimate. You are no longer strictly driven by your lust and hormones, but now w the head between your shoulders. You will spot red flags, your lust normally would have caused you to ignore it. Google H opportunity, really great support forum for people dealing w herpes and having the disclosure talk. Like a social networking herpes community. It has pamphlets to download and to print out to provide to your partners, along w the low transmission rates.
4. Of course you can have kids. I have 5 female friends, all of whom, have delivered multiple babies vaginally being herpes positive and it was never passed to the baby and they're all healthy. The having kids is more of an issue for a female who gets herpes, not for a man. Of course if you end up w an H negative partner, if she's pregnant and gets inflected during pregnancy, that can be cause for concern. That's putting the cart before the horse, so don't focus on what's not a problem yet.
5. What do you mean infect someone w your fluids? Please understand that condoms only provide about 30-50% protection from herpes or HPV. So the myths about using condoms and you only being contagious during obs is not true. You have periods called asymptomatic shedding. This means you do not present any physical signs or symptoms, but the virus is at the surface of the skin and is contagious. You are most contagious right before an ob, during and right after.
6.blood: no ; saliva: yes, if you had oral herpes, but you don't; semen: yes, it is possible during reactivion of the virus; urine: no; tears: no
Herpes I can assure you will not prevent you from having a wife and a kid, I can assure you of that. What prevents you from that, is being a bad person and treating women poorly and that doesn't even deter women at times obviously, as plenty of j*rks are married more than once.