Hi new here - would love some advice about my husband who has been diagnosed this week with depression (i made the appt with his GP for him as he did not do it himself). GP prescribed Citolapram. Husband in denial - says hes not depressed(said this as soon as he left the GP with the diagnosis). Says he was embarrassed about going to GP and being made to talk about stuff, embarrassed about getting the drugs and feels disgusting taking the meds. He says hes not depressed and is only taking the drugs to shut me up. He says he does not love me and is leaving me and our 2 young daughters. He is applying for a job up north (4 hours away from home) and we are not part of those plans. I think he is making a big mistake and should not be making life changing decisions given that he is ill at the moment (I think he has been depressed for somewhile - months maybe years). I love him so much but he believs that he does not love me. I cling to the hope that it is the depression talking. He said he has felt suicidal. Our marriage has not been a hollywood romance - 2 young kids, financial pressures, both working. Life gets in the way. I think this is our chance to save our marriage but he wont take part in it. I think its the depression but he refuses to accept the diagnosis, despite saying to me once that he is depressed and actually taking the meds. I want to support him but he is leaving me. I know much of this are symptomatic of depression - but he has a go at me for putting everything down to the depression. My life is falling apart and I love my husband and I want to help him and I want him to be here for his girls. Can anyone offer me advice. Maybe this is the wrong forum....
This is correct forum but you may wish to also visit the Citalopram forum at http://experience.patient.co.uk/discussion_list.php?d=99
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Hi or just type citalopram in the search field, good luck and hope all goes well
Hi,
don't know if it's a \"man thing\" but I can understand how your husband feels about talking to GP and collecting drugs at pharmacy, other people will know I'm depressed and will label me.
I am new to this as well. I put my family through HELL for ages before I eventually went to speak to doctor but it took a long time for me to admit that I was the problem. There are some tests on line that may help convince your husband that he needs help try
http://www.psymed.info/default.aspx?m=Test&id=63&l=3
which certainly opened my eyes, there are other tests on site also.
My GP gave me Mirtazapine which I take at night and not sure if it's helping only been on them 1 week. Don't know if this helps you but at least through this forum we know we are not alone. Maybe you could get your husband to read this ???