HVS Type 2 Completely ruined!

Sexual health
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So I was just told yesterday from the doctor that I am positive for Type 2 Herpes.

I am completely ruined from this I almost bursted into tears at the doctors.

I had done my research prior the results and knew it was for life and that my love/sexual life would basically end.

I know it's not deadly I know that it doesn't mean I can't live a full happy life; but it isn't that it's that I am now stuck in a position that no matter what I have to tell my future partners that I have this disease. If this disease didn't have such a bad stigma behind it I wouldn't be so ashamed but because it does because so many people don't know the full story behind it, their first instinct is to be disgusted and I don't blame them.

I'm now sitting here at home no one to talk to no one to yell at or scream or vent too. I am confused I want to just die in a hole and never be found.

But I can't and that's because I know how much of a burden suicide is.

BUT WHAT DO I DO? Seriously I am so freaken lost!

I want someone to tell me so badly that it's okay and that it's all going to be fine. but I won't believe them I can't believe them.

I seriously feel like my life has just been eaten and shat back out. FML :'(

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It will be ok. I promise. In fact, it will even get to be great - once you know how to handle it.

As many on this site have found and have recommended but PLEASE REMEMBER that none of us are doctors and so what we suggest works for us - you are responsible for trying them!

1) Keep stress to a mimimum (haha!) but seriously - keep it to as low as possible.

2) Use ice packs, wrapped in a cloth, and apply to the sores to bring relief.

3) Eat pineapple - a lot of people say that "a slice a day, keeps the herpes away" - and then when you feel the start of one, eat more pineapple.

3) I take loads of L-Lysine. I take 1000 mg, twice a day, to keep outbreaks to a minimum. When I feel one starting, I take 2000 mg up to 8 times a day for the first two days, then cut it down over the following two days to about 1000 mg 8 times a day and then work downwards; this depends on the severity of the attack. In conjunction with this, eat more foods high in L-Lysine and reduce foods that are high in Arginine (check for these on the internet).

4) Alcohol is not great for keeping attacks at bay.

5) I have heard that cranberry juice is also good as well as Siberian ginseng but haven't tried these.

6) No unprotected sex from the time you feel anything sllightly different down there. In fact, friction helps the herpes so you have to decide whether it's worth it. HSV1 and 2 can be transmitted from cold sores to the genitals and vice versa so it's better to keep all contact to a minimum just for safety's sake.

7) A very important fact - none of us really know when or from whom we contracted it because so many people have it without having any symptoms i.e. you could have been infected ages ago, 4 boyfriends ago, but because he didn't have symptoms he didn't know he had it. Possibly you picked it up ages ago and didn't have symptoms until now. Just always remember that it is highly contagious.

8) Your sex life is not over - just different. And there are people out there who will accept you, warts, herpes and all, and will still want to be close to you.

So you see, it will be ok. Keep chatting to us on this forum as well - lots of support and advice and help.

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Hi everyone..

I have been diagnosed.. I can't even bring myself to write the word or say it. I feel like I am going to be alone forever. I have never had the best relationships and only the past four months plucked the courage to try dating, as I want to have that special someone. Then I was given this news, and it's thrown me a million miles back. 

I can't tell anyone as I still think there is a stigma attached to this disease and it is people's lack of knowledge that makes them not understanding.  I can't even tell my mum yet I can tell her everything normally, i feel so disgusted and am too embarrased to tell her. I don't know where to start to even deal with this. I have had two outbreaks since diagnosis and my second was the worse ever. I was crying as I was in so much pain, It hurt to walk, it hurt to sit.

I wish I had your faith sammiboiiii... How can I start to rebuild what I see as a crushed life... 

I feel guilty for even feeling this way when there are worse things in the world...

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@TryKeepSmiling

I read this and felt liked I was 100% in your boat, in terms of relationships and how the past 4 months picked up and that now being diagnosed life feels like it's over in terms of relationships.

I wish I had faith hun, but I'm only 20 years old and I'm defientaly not coping well with this, it's now my second day since the results, and still to now everything i watch read listen to have something to do with diseases, it instantly pulls me back into a deep dark hole where there's no one or nothing to help me or guide me out.

Don't feel guilty about feeling horrible, What we have may not be deadly nor actually that bad of a disease (so to speak)

But It definently still something to be emotionally torn from.

Talking to someone about it that doesn't have the disease it's self,  doesn't help at all.

I spoke to someone who isn't judgemental or is a best friend, but because she doeasn't have the disease she doesn't understand the emotions and feelings i'm getting. So to her she feels like it's nothing that serious, when in light of the fact it is quite serious, at leats to the person carrying the disease.

I just found out yesterday the person I most likely caught the disease from, She didn't know she had it but we know who she got it from.

Originally she had a blood test and it came back negative, and we thought she didn't have it which left me con fused because I was unsure of who I got it from, but just as of yesterdat she started getting red lumps in her genital area, so she most likely has it now, and before she thought she had it she didn't understand why i was over reacting sdo much to it. now she realieses she might have it she' understands.

This disease is a deadly one but emotionally it can draw you to do stupid things. People need to be educated so badly on this disease so when they get it or others get it they won't feel so secluded because of the stigma.

I'm not coping well I need someone to talk to, but remember I'm always here if you need to talk!

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Well I went for a blood test yesterday and am waiting for the results. I am in an absolute state. The stigma attached to herpes, especially for a girl!!! And how did I get it?????? This is the worst feeling EVER. Im lucky if i slept an hour last night. Im 41, been in a relationship with a guy for 15 months. Hes been really supportive but I can tell, he is wondering "how" too.

im pretty much lost for words at this stage. I suppose i must just wait and see, but i dont like this gut feeling i have

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I know exactly how you feel. When the doctor called me after my results came through he told me to come in urgently.

He couldn't tell me over the phone what the issue was, but I asked him if it were curable he said yes. Which made me believe it wasn't herpes but something else, I was so releafed; But when I went to the doctors that night sat down on the chair beside him and him told me these exact words "I'm sorry but it's what we thought it was, you came back positive for HVS T2 It felt like someone had came into my life and stole all the light, and made my world in complete darkness.

It felt like I was swallowed whole, never to escape. I was instantly lost confused shaking and nearly crying.

Even now being only a couple days from the results I'm still in shock still so upset and angry I can't I don't understand how this happened to me.

These questions will be running through your head:

How this was fair?

Why did I deserve this?

Will anyone ever want me again?

What do I do now?

What's my next step?

Who do I talk to?

Do I have anyone to talk to?

Will anyone understand?

All these questions will flood your mind so quickly you be overwhelmed in seconds and the only thing in your mind will be hatred.

I can't give you advice or anyone advice on how to overcome this or how you can deal with this in an easier way, because honestly there really isn't.

I can only suggest is if you come out positive, come straight here and talk seriously typing you feelings and issue's to me or others that are in the same boat honestly does help you a lot more than you'd care to think.

Goodluck hun I hope you're a lucky one and don't turn out positive.