Hi, I am new here and it's the first time I have really spoken about this other than with my partner.
I am 24 years old and a primary teacher. I have always been a worrier and anxious from as early as I can remember but recently with the birth of our first child I feel like I'm losing control. I know that first time parents are always worried about there child and the lack of sleep certainly doesn't help but I have found myself being consumed with what is almost fear of the worst possible things happening. It then starts to worry my partner who isn't really worried in the first place which then scares me even more. I feel like I get a really loud or hard heartbeat and literally cannot think about anything else apart from what I am worrying about. I have been waking up in the night with sweats and shakes and the first thing I think about is the worry I had before I fell asleep.
I honestly think I need help or someone to talk to but most people will say it's just silly or I'm being stupid.
Any comments would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
Hi. Your suffering from anxiety, no wonder , new added stress, etc. It can start anytime. Can be triggered or just seem to come from nowhere. I've had anxiety for years . Racing heart, constant worry, head never stops thinking worst, can't fall asleep for thinking what bad stuff can happen. Never lets up then I get so uptight I get muscle tension , can't relax, pain in tight shoulders, neck , head and jaw. Anxiety is hell but can be treated so we cope better and don't feel so afraid, as it does seem it must be something worse. Keep talking on here and you'll get more replies to reassure you. Loads of sufferers , can give tips on relaxation and coping. Also explain exactly as you have here to your doctor. Best thing I ever did . I was scared they would say just pull yourself together but my doc was great. I'd suffered alone for years. Good luck. ❤️
P.s congratulations on first baby , you're very lucky, try and think positive, all the lovely times ahead. Anxiety gives you very negative worries, see doctor, they see stress and anxiety all the time❤️
You know a few have come on here with the same scenario. Have you spoken woth your gp about this? I wonder it is some variant of post partum. Your hormones for a gew minths are all over the place too. This is real and id say discuss it with your go as soon s possible. And get into a behavioral therapy group or sessions.
if possible start jounaling. Take fiv minutesa night. But the last entry in every journal has to be five things to be grateful for. Its good for the mind to end a journal like that. Write down all your worries and any and all symptoms.
Get yourself an anxiety and phobia workbook it will guide you way better hiw to manage these thoughts as well and how to dismantlw them.
check your messages upoer right corner. Im going to send you a 20 question protocol to use to dismantle these thoughts. At least a start point for you, you dan use them on your journql enteries to counteract the negative thinking.
This is not silly or stupid. Have you talked with your physician about possible postpartum? Being that you just had a child and what symptoms you've described, this is a possibility. Hormones are highly effected during and after pregnancy. It's not uncommon for new mothers to go through this. I encourage you to see your physician and explain to him/her what symptoms you have. They may put you on medication temporarily while your hormones stabilize.
Hi thanks for the reply, my partner is trying to get me enjoy the time with my new baby instead of worrying about everything, I keep waking up with cold sweats and I do get to the point where I can't even think of anything good, I am in no way depressed but some days I just shake with worry. Is this something that the doctor can realistically help with? I don't want them to tell me to just get on with it
Seriously your doctor can help. If you describe everything as you have to me. As mentioned they may mention post natal depression (U.K.) post partam? But seriously it's sounds like classic anxiety symptoms so needs addressing, you have got a lot on your plate and worry can trigger anxiety . Can get help, docs need to look at every possibility, stay positive, get answers , glad your trying to get help , you and your family deserve it . Hope doctors reassure you and hope your finding postingvhere helpful, l do , talkbanytime❤️
P.s I also thought people would just say pull yourself together so left it a long time to ask for help. My great doctor helps. Only gives me small meds for when really shaky , anxious as easy to rely on them, offered cbt, and said talk to people who understand how this. Feels , I talk here , helps to know your not alone❤️