I lost my mum a 1,5 ago , thinking I'm still greaving but all the simtoms could also be menopause is well , sometimes is so hard I stayed in bed for days but then I still have to drag myself to work what is wrong with me help
I'm sorry for your loss! It sounds like your symptoms are a mixture of grieving, Peri and anxiety and depression. You should see a psychiatrist to see if you need to be put on meds for the depression . I'm praying that you feel better soon.
Peri & menopause effects mood and anxiety greatly, going through traumatic experience can heighten how you feel. I would speak to your doctor. I felt the same (without the grieving) no interest in anything, anxious etc I took anti depressants which have been fantastic but you must decide what is best for you.
Take one day at a time. TAlk to your doctor. I hope and pray things get better for you. I am sorry for your loss.
I can relate when I loss my mom I just started going through peri the sweats anxiety feeling doomed it got worse after losing my mom I had been through so much in 99 I lost my brother 2000 I lost my sister 2001 I lost my dad 2004 I lost my mom in 2005 my grandma 2011 my brother in law 2012 my daughter in law she left me with 5 children to raise 2015 I lost my sister in law that was living with me for over 12yrs at the begining of 2015 I took custody of my sisters children lord it's been a rough road and when my anxiety kicks in it's overwhelming I feel like I just want to run away but I have to just pray ask God to help me get through this so I truly can relate it gets better in time but please hang in there I remember when mom died I stayed up for 7 days straight finally that 7th morning I passed out on the living room floor for two days never knew anything that went on around me I kept praying and gid kept strengthening me I pray that you find comfort because I won't lie I went through hell and high water with the anxiety I still have attacks but not as bad the panic attacks we're there worst I would be talking to one person and it felt like a thousand people we're around me I would have to go outside because it felt like I didn't have enough air in my home I knew it was the panic attacks because it made me feel like I couldn't breathe well I know I wrote a book but I just wanted you to know your not alone God bless I'm praying for you
I have so many terrible symptoms, don't know which is meno and which is health issues. You do need to talk to your doctor. I finally, after begging for months, got my GP to prescribe me a temporary script for anxiety, but she wants me to start taking antidepressants, which I really don't want. Hope you find help soon. Hugs
My god monique, your strength is admirable x
I want to say god bless you, Monique what a strong lady you are after all you have gone through god gave you that strength for a reason and your post is an inspiration to others
Debbie, I had such awful anxiety during the Peri stage I could hardly ever leave the house or even just move around it. I was put on antidepressants and after a couple of months they did start to work, and I feel much better, alot more stable. I was initially taking Sertraline, but that didnt help alot, so my Dr changed it to fluoxetine, and I found that much more effective. It can take a couple or even more attempts to find out which one is right for you. Its a practical matter, and aas long as you otherwise stay fit and healthy, there is nothing wrong with antidepressants. Really, they can help!
Went to see go this morning he was not very helpful but he put me on fluoxetine 20 mg so a I'm hopping that will may help x you guys are amassing thank u so much xxx
Hi Wilson...on day 5 of Prozac top...let us know how you get on x
Wow Monique...i thought i was having a bad day but you put it all into perspective. God bless you....you are a strong woman. Xx
monique after reading your story I admire you for you courage and endurance.
Hi,
Drs do tend to want to just get you out of the door if your'e depressed and stick you on something that will hopefully help.
I am on 20mg on fluoxetine a day - have been for about a year, and feel pretty OK really. No more feelings of doom or panics - such a relief. They do take a few weeks to start working. You may feel a bit manic for a couple of weeks when they do - but this soon settles down.
GOD Bless you
Hi Wilson,
I am so very sorry for your loss. This is a very difficult time for you and I understand what you are going through.
I lost my son, my only child, in a car accident almost 9 years ago. I was 46 at that time. For the first few years I pretty much stayed in the house with no energy and no desire to do anything. The depression lifted as I worked through the grief with the help of an amazing support group but the other symptoms continued over the years....fatigue, head pressure headaches, nausea, anxiety and more. I know that a lot of it was grief but looking back at it I'm sure that this horrible thing happened right at the time of my life that my body started with peri menopause. I was attributing a lot of how I was feeling to a prolonged grief but now see that, in all the unfairness in this world I was having to deal with these two major life changes at the same time.
You may be in peri menopause as well and compounded with your grief over the loss of your mother it's difficult to know what is causing your symptoms.
In my opinion, the best thing you can do is to be gentle on yourself, eat a healthy diet and go for walks when you can. It would be good to talk to your doctor so he/she can maybe so some blood tests to be sure you don't have another reason for why you are feeling like this...like maybe low iron or B12 levels.
I'm sorry you are feeling like this and send hugs to you☺
Thank you so much for taking time to talk to me I do appreciate xx Zoe
I believe a lot of general doctors dont know how to deal with grief/anxiety/ depression and i have come across doctors like this they dont understand what its about and yes the first thing a lot of them do is write the px for antidepressants I was so lucky the doctor I had was so understanding but also I am going through the peri she sat and listened while i was sobbing my heart out and explained my symptoms to me with the depression and the peri yes she gave me antidepressants and beta blockers but she had me back every couple of weeks for about two months I was then referred to my cbt councillor who has also been brilliant she explains everything and the physical and mental symptoms as well as helping me to work through my anxiety.I know im very fortunate but about twenty odd years ago I went through losing my mum having a critically ill baby and looking after my father in law so I crashed My health visitor was brilliant she recognised I was ill and i saw councillors and had meds but i didnt feel i had the help back then as I do now. Ive been at that point where you dont want to get out of bed and just want to sleep all the time with no motivation at all. I promise you with the right help you will get through this although there is no time limit for grief you can get the help to support you through this and I keep saying it on here, it is a fantastic forum that will help support you because everyone on here will know exactly what you are going through please keep posting if you are up to it im sure in time you will find the support and comfort you need. its still early days with your mum, my love it took me nearly three years for mine but I got through as you will x
Hi Wilson, sorry you are feeling so low hun. Coping with grief is bad enough on its own, let alone dealing with menopause symptoms too. You have done absolutely the right thing by going to your doctor, & he, although not helpful, has actually done a good thing by putting you on fluoxetine. this particular anti depressant is effective in "softening" peri or meno symptoms (many ladies have posted on here about it, & a friend of mine in her 50's is on it & says it really helps her meno symptoms. so not only will it hopefully help your depression, but also your meno symptoms. You are quite likely to have initial side effects for a few weeks like increased sweating, poss increased anxiety & perhaps feeling a bit "fuzzy minded", but they will wear off in the coming weeks as your body gets used to it. If you find it too much, you could split the pills in half & do 10mg for 2-4wks, then increase upto 20mg. Lots of lovely ladies on here to talk to if you need to , ask questions, advice, or just vent. Take care & hope you begin to feel better in the coming weeks hun. xxx