Hi - I have been a member here for a few weeks and have been reading things, but I am wanting to ask or scream to know if peri-menopause is that I am experiencing. Most of the time I feel like I am losing the plot or dying.
I am 47 now but this all started a few days after my 44th birthday when I suddenly started feeling light headed and had some vertigo. That quickly passed but I am left with so many symptoms. They mostly are fatigue, daily headaches, very painful neck and shoulders, a very odd spaced out sensation and vision like I am wearing really strong glasses - everything looks surreal, I have anxiety like I have never known, I get a tight chest, a lump in my throat, my body feels like a lump of lead, spots, eczema, muscle twitches and my periods have changed with the cycle becoming shorter to 22 days and the bleeding lighter. I also get period pains lasting for a week before my period starts and painful heavy breasts.
I have had a head MRI and CT scan, heart tests, blood tests and it is all normal. But i feel so ill all the time. I rarely leave the house I feel so ill. I don't feel like me anymore. My family is suffering. I have no idea what is happening to me! And I also habe no idea what to do about it!
Hi Sally, your not on your own. I've been the same since last July. I am on HRT patches, it helps the hot flashes I get but that's it. I suffer with health anxiety and have done on and off for 20 years but it's at it's worst now. So I am just putting a smile on my face and trying to get on with it xx
Hi Sally,
I'm so sorry you are going through this, but you came to the right place
Everyone here suffering with these awful symptoms some more then others
Like you i started going through this change as soon as i turned 45 years old it might been earlier but thats when I start thinking that something really wrong with me... I had everything you described non stop everyday for the next 51/2 years,
My life as I knew it was gone...but its been 6 months now it eased a bid..
Alot of the symptoms are gone, still dealing with the health anxiety, body aches and headaches special before my period..My family thought i was going crazy, my husband was supportive but i can see after while he started getting annoyed..so pretty much i kept everything to myself! I never felt so alone, i couldn't look myself in the mirrow felt so old..and gained weight. it will get better, i don't think we will ever go back the way we were after this, but it will ease!!!
Right now i'm dealing with this sharp pain on my right site below the belly button and i thought was my overy . went to my GYNO did a pellvic ultrasound everything normal but still bothers me..so my family dr is sending me for a CT SCAN!!! I'm already so stressed about it. I don't really want to have anymore radiation in my body!! He thinks it might be a hornia but he won't know unless have the test done!!!
You will be fine!! is nothing wrong keep telling yourself that! Read a book that was my lifesaver and special at nights when all the scary thoughts use to creep in..Take a vitamin D a day it will help you so much!!
Please write anytime you want to talk.
Hugs and prayers your way!!
Yip to all of the above sally.....i just push myself yo get out....it sucketh bigtime lol.....hugs all round xxx
You sound like me. Mine started a few years back and your story could be mine. I changed my diet...completely..also my stress and it did help alot. I also do the seed cycling...and that helped a bit. google it and see what you feel. I just read all the posts daily.. and it makes me feel better and not alone. I have had tests also...so many. All are good..Thank Goodness. I try to be as gentle on myself as possible. Our bodies are going thru a major change and we are feeling it. Prim rose oil and cod liver oil..helped my eczema. Not gone completely..but better. Worse depending on cycle. Anxiety..I do Bachs flower Resue. I take a whole food supplement. Try to stay away from bad carbs, no fast foods, and more protein. This helped me also. I hope this helps you!!! Sending a big HUG!!!
Thanks so much! yeah these odd symptoms have now been constant for me for the last 3 1/2 years. Oh and i forgot the weight gain, I have gained about 10 pounds so far and I am not eating differently. It has all gone on around my waist and thighs xx
Hi Sweetheart,
Mandy here, just wanted to know if you have read what i have put on here? I can completely understand what you are feeling and going through! please sweetheart do not think you are losing your mind or dying! but yes sadly you will feel like that! I have since the age of 29, since a very early hysterectomy now 49! gone through so many awful awful times, but the last year been through hell, yes i have had MRI brain scans, lumber punture, multiple of tests, but this all comes down to hormones, I have been taken into hospital because they thought i had a stroke! couldnt talk, numb arms, and legs, balance problems, serious serious migraines which had to be treated at charring cross hospital, pains over joints and whole body that bring me to tears, chronic fatigue, serious tinitus, heart palpitations, dizzyness, complete fuzzy head, sweetheart this is only half the stuff, i am now going down the route of vitamin D, Vitamin B6 and B12, going back to doctors on tuesday for more tests, i know this can be the most lonliest, sad and frightening time, but please please know you have someone who truly understands what you are feeling, and i am here to talk to,, please please feel free to private messege me and get it all of your chest, you are not alone..
big hugs. xxxxxx
I force myself to walk the dog every evening and if I have to go out I do, but i do everything feeling so dreadful xx
Same here Sally. Awful feeling x
Hi Sally.
I so relate to your symptoms...I thought I had something very wrong with me when I started experiencing some of the symptoms you have mentioned.
I too am tired most of the time, lethargic, can't be bothered with anything and sometimes with anyone!
Thanks - I really believed i was either going insane or dying. I do eat a very heathy diet and am trying to work on my stress. Another part of this is that it seems I am unable to handle any stress at all anymore. It drains me.
I have some fish oil and evening primrose oil I need to take it though. I must get some recuse remedy. And I hae just read about seed cycling. I am going to try that xx
I too have suffered from health anxiety my whole adult life, but this is on a level I have never known before. I am a nervous wreck and I can't handle stress anymore either xx
Oh yeah I forgot about the palpitations. The fatigue makes me feel like I am made of lead and walking through treacle and the fuzzy head is the worst thing. I too am back at the doctors on Tuesday. No idea what they can do though xx
Hi Maria. The nights are the worst for the health anxiety! When is the CT?
I know what you mean. I avoid going out as much as possible and when I do I don't have the energy to really try to look nice. I really don't see too many other women looking like I do at the grocery store. When I do, I think ah ha my sister in peri. I am sitting in my bed eating chocolate right now! 😂 Having my own little pity party. Please don't feel alone. We are here for you to talk and listen. I am on here a lot. It helps to know there are others who feel like I do...as bad as that sounds. I don't want anyone to suffer! ((Hugs))
Hi Sally. I'm 54 (pretty well post menopausal but my body's not entirely sure yet! 
) and I started to have peri symptoms about 46 - my periods became very erratic (sometimes 3 weeks, sometimes as long as 10 weeks between!) and much lighter. Around that time I started having random dizzy spells which were very annoying (I perfected the art of kneeling down in public to 'find' something in my bag!) and they continued intermittently for several years. I didn't see my GP although I'm sure I should have (they never happened when I was driving, oddly enough, or I definitely would have made an appointment), but they just stopped of their own accord and virtually never happen now. I also had the 'spaced out' feeling which is totally weird, it feels as if you're not actually part of what's happening, although you are! You feel as if you are almost somewhere else, if that makes sense? It's almost like looking through an invisible fog, very odd indeed. The only other thing that happened was anxiety, for which I started taking Evening Primrose 1000mg capsules once a day, and they helped massively. Apologies to anyone else reading this, as I keep banging on about EP, but it really works amazingly well for me and I still take them now.
All I can say about the other stuff is that it will pass, and you should be very reassured about the test results. Good luck, and give EP capsules a bash! x
Yes one of my main problems was dizziness not to bad now that I'm on HRT and same for me I'm fine when I'm driving. My stomach reflux gets really bad to with the menapause and anxiety x
Me too!!! feeling so overweight and nothing fits right! but don't loose hope i start feeling lighter the past month my belly shrunk and again i'm not doing anything different!!
Hi honey!!
it doesn't stop! When I start saying things looking up here i'm again with the scans!
Next Friday a CT SCAN w/ contrast..i never had the dye and i'm so scared right now!
i wish this little pull feeling and pinching will disappear before then
How are you feeling? any news yet?
Hi Sally, also have very similar story to yours, the spaced out/crash fatigue happened to me at work (I'm literally hanging on by a thread at work) the other day..was truly horrible...and not sure if it caused paranoia but felt like the team of girls I was in got nasty towards me as I was literally sitting there like a zombie not knowing what to do or what to say). Recently started taking Royal Jelly, Vitamin D3, and sage and nettle tea all of which have seem to be helping with my extreme anxiety and i think as a result calming down my chest tightness...I'm also (from great advice given) constantly telling myself that it's just new sensations I'm feeling...I'm OK..trust my body it knows what to do...again it's starting to help during the really bad bouts. Xx