Hello, I got married at 25 of my age, I got pregnant with my elder daughter next month after my marriage. Soon after she was born I had to resign my job for taking care of her. For our first anniversary she was already 3 months old. I rejoined my work by her 1.5 years of age. After that I got pregnant with my second daughter now I'm home taking care of both my kids. My husband is partial alcoholic and sometimes even hurt me physically as well as mentally. I'm mentally as well as emotionally disturbed as his main problem is he is giving me food and accommodation, I don't do anything I stay at home good for nothing... I scold my kids when they do wrong... for him kids are scared of me... I'm worst wife and mom for my kids feel like ending up my life... I know this is mostly faced by all housewife world wide. Is there any remedy to get through the frustration. Please help me out.
hi jisha, what is wrong with men who did this with their wives and the mothers of their children? abuse in marriage is WRONG in this country, very wrong! your husband can’t do this, it’s called abuse! ask your doctor for help! you really need to make sure you and your children are ok. being drunk doesn’t look after you or your children. please ask for help - now!;if you call your doctor they will listen to you. good luck.
In my opinion, the remedy is most definitely to take yourself to a safe place and immediately start proceedings for divorcing an abusive partner.
There are shelters for women like you and you will be allowed to take your children if you feel that is necessary. I’ve been in these domestic abuse shelters and they are extremely helpful with a social worker resident who will help you every step of the way.
Please do not remain in a household with an abusive drinker. And please don’t say “oh he doesnt do it that often”. These men ALWAYS escalate their abusive behavior. It gets worse and worse over time. The time to get out is now !