My ex is diagnosed with both forms of herpes and we did have both unprotected oral and protected vaginal intercourse. When I first found out I’d her diagnosis , I supported her & stayed with her. I did research and learnt herpes isn’t a deal break to dump someone. I stupidly stayed & accepted the risks, thinking I’d have someone around if I were to catch it. No I’m not blaming anyone or expecting a favor from her. Long story short, she dumped me so I got more scared of rejection. I read that I should wait 12-16 weeks before getting an IGG test done. I’m half way there but I stress easily. I’m figuring out the best time to get tested because I know I’ll be nervous and down and out for a while if, it turns out bad. I’m going on vacation in August, I’ve ruined vacations in the past with stress and I know this one could take gold.
I’m thinking, after I return but that’s my birthday lol & school reopens. Now the semester ends in December but I go on vacation in January lol. Can’t afford any stress again.
I am casually talking to this young lady (a friend of a friend) & we are taking things so slowly. I’d hate to get her involved in my drama. I want to get tested & move on with her sooner or keep things going slowly.
At the same time, I’m trying not to build up animosity towards my ex but it’s hard. We don’t talk.
I am confident & have faith that I will come back negative & will definitely be more careful next time. We always used condoms but I guess I know the risk exists. She once begged for us to have sex when I had no condom but I refused to ; & looking back, boy I’m happy I didn’t crack!
Any one else in post exposure window?