I just recently found out I have type 2 herpes ..I cried for days wondering what I did to deserve this and how I was going to come at ease that I have to live with this for the rest of my life! I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and I trust him to know that he did not cheat on me and I've never cheated on him. He was very comb after breaking the news to him and very understanding but I don't get how I even got this if I've only been with him the past year and only 2 guys before we got together. Went to the doctor because I was experiencing a outbreak and didn't know what it was a week later the doc told me what it was. Why am I experience a outbreak now? I've been tested the beginning of our relationship and we were both negative for everything? He is going to the doctor tomorrow to get tested to see if he has it since I've tested positive he never experienced an outbreak or anything so I fear for my life that once he finds out he doesn't have it he will leave me I live in fear since day one after being diagnose...I also fear of spreading it to my body my face I just constantly think the worst in everything now and I need advice please let me know everything will be okay
I feel for you, because Herpes is not a pleasant thing to suffer with.
You were asking why it has only just broken-out, and the answer to that is that Herpes can and often does lie in a quiescent state for years before it 'breaks-out'.
Your doctor should be able to prescribe suitable medications that will help you, but I feel that you should seek-out and converse with 'feelbroken' on this forum, who does know a great deal about this condition. In fact I am going to pm them now with your contact details.
On a final note, yes you should encourage your partner to visit a GUM clinic for a full STI (including Herpes) test.
You don't state whether it is HSV 1 or HSV 2?
If 1, you probably got it from oral sex from him. If 2, he's probably an asymptomatic carrier. Of you trust him, don't fret it too much. It'll be OK... I promise. :-)
She said hvs2
I found out almst a week 1/2 ago honey and i imagine everyone feels the same their first time but please dnt stress that will make things worst you and your bf should try to find out info on it together i knw it sound lik alot but really its not your first ob will potentially be the worst and mayb only everyone is different
She did put me on medication but I'm still freaking out...my boyfriend went and got tested but no word back from the doctor and he is avoiding to have sex with me now i Dont know what's going through his mind now he's acting weird! I am still confused...I need advise if you think he has it or not I know this whole year we have never used condoms and I am just now having outbreaks and never noticed anything until now? I'm not sure how to feel or think right now. I noticed he has been iching a lot down there here lately but he never has told me if he noticed anything different down there. We haven't had sex since we found out what it was but once when the outbreak was going away but it was on my buttocks while we had no idea what it was and was still waiting to find out by the doctor and that's when the docotor called me and told me it was herpe type 2..so after that he's avoiding sex with me I'm confused
She did put me on medication but I'm still freaking out...my boyfriend went and got tested but no word back from the doctor and he is avoiding to have sex with me now i Dont know what's going through his mind now he's acting weird! I am still confused...I need advise if you think he has it or not I know this whole year we have never used condoms and I am just now having outbreaks and never noticed anything until now? I'm not sure how to feel or think right now. I noticed he has been iching a lot down there here lately but he never has told me if he noticed anything different down there. We haven't had sex since we found out what it was but once when the outbreak was going away but it was on my buttocks while we had no idea what it was and was still waiting to find out by the doctor and that's when the docotor called me and told me it was herpe type 2..so after that he's avoiding sex with me I'm confused
She did put me on medication but I'm still freaking out...my boyfriend went and got tested but no word back from the doctor and he is avoiding to have sex with me now i Dont know what's going through his mind now he's acting weird! I am still confused...I need advise if you think he has it or not I know this whole year we have never used condoms and I am just now having outbreaks and never noticed anything until now? I'm not sure how to feel or think right now. I noticed he has been iching a lot down there here lately but he never has told me if he noticed anything different down there. We haven't had sex since we found out what it was but once when the outbreak was going away but it was on my buttocks while we had no idea what it was and was still waiting to find out by the doctor and that's when the docotor called me and told me it was herpe type 2..so after that he's avoiding sex with me I'm confused
Until such time as all the test results are in, both of you would be well advise not to be involved in any sexual activity with anyone anyway, so maybe he is doing what he has been asked to do by his doctor - ie refrain.
Have you considered just asking him if this is correct, or if there is there some other reason?
I'm willing to bet he passed it to you, he's just an asymptomatic carrier. I will respond more later when I get a chance.
How long ago did he get the test ans did he specifically request for herpes?
I think I know exectly what you are thinking.
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No he didn't ask the doctor he told to doctor to check for everything he got blood drawn so I told him we were going to have to start wearing codons and he told me he Dont like to wear them.
He got tested about 4 days ago
OK, well again, when you tell a doctor you want everything checked, that is equivalent to a full STD panel. Due to the words herpes never leaving his lips, can't be sure he was put in it. His blood was drawn for HIV. Question would be, ask him how many bikes did he had drawn?
Well if it's only been four days, then teats aren't back yet.
So let me get this straight, he seemed to not want to have sex w you after your diagnosis, but now doesn't want to use condoms knowing you have herpes? Hmm.... Doesn't that sound strange to you?
Yeah that's what I told him I asked him why didn't you say herpes that what I have and I knew I should hVe just gone with him to the doctor! Yeah that's what I thought weird how he doesn't want to usecondoms now and is avoiding have sex with me I'm concerned he is going to leave but he isn't acting any different as he was before I was diagnosed just wont have sex with me now I love him and just wish he would tell me the truth I feel like he's hiding something...if he doesn't like wearing condoms then he is probably the one who gave it to me! Before we got together he were just hooking up and never not once used condoms so I'm highly concerned
Never cheated and i never feel like he cheated...and after a year and three months bam I have an outbreak...don't understand
My first outbreak ever!
I am so sorry for typos. I type fast from my phone and I'm not proof reading before I submit.
Well just know, condoms only provide about a 30-50% protection against herpes or HPV.
His behavior is strange, but wait for the results and ask to see them. He may be in denial. If he won't show them, that's a red flag.
Listen honey, if he leaves you over this, you don't want him. He is not marriage material. Men who are marriage material, abide by the saying "through sickness and in health" concept.
My ex husband found out he had genital warts when we were tested for STDs before sexual activity 3 months into our relationship. I loved him at that point, but still did not have sex w him for another 5 months after we were married. I was young and knew it wasn't meant to be, but was in denial. I tell this story, because I loved him enough to stick around regardless of his situation and knowing I couldn't possibly have had it, being we hadn't had sex. Someone who really does love you, won't walk away despite the risk . oh BTW, he walked away from our marriage by having multiple affairs, not me.
If someone can leave you over something non-life threatening and so minor, can you really say they love you? Do you really think they'll stick it out when life gets real hard? Nope... Doesn't seem like it now, but you'll be surprised at how much herpes will expose the sincere, to the not so sincere men in your life.