I can't handle it anymore

I've been suffering from anxiety since i was a child, as far back as i remember. I guess it probably became about smaller things when i was about 15 and from then on has gotten progressively worse to the point where i'm at now where i feel i can't handle day-to-day life, every action is a struggle. I'm constantly trying to make myself relax, sometimes having baths 3 times a day, i bought soothing sleep oil, ill watch feel good films, ill try and keep busy, ill try to do nothing, ive also been trying self help techniques such as releasing tension in muscles as well as breathing exercises. I'm on medication, sertraline and beta-blockers, i was on diazepam for 1 week my doctor doesn't want to prescribe it regularly. My antidepressants have been upped, and the beta blockers are 40mg propanolol (if thats how its spelt) 3 times a day. It does nothing, i'm depressed, i'm tired and my anxiety is just getting worse. I had a panic attack at work yesterday, i was in hysterics, which is unlike me, i usually try and hide that side of me in that setting. Today i tried going into uni, i should of been there from 9-5 i couldnt sleep so i was up from half 5, and i managed to stay at uni for 3 hours, using breathing techniques. However, palpatations continued, the panic and pain in my chest would not settle and i had another panic attack. Afterwards i just sat rom about half an hour just staring and went home, i thought being home would calm me down but its continued all night. i don't know what else to do sad i need to quit at life 

Klaire I feel for you pet, you sound like your going through a really tough time.

depending on how long you've been on the medication you could do with going back to your GP and tell him/her exactly what's going on. A phone call to the practice or practice nurse will help and you could ask for the GP to phone you back.

If you've just gone onto the meds they could be side effects, or need changing, only you and your GP can decide. Referral for CBT is an option. 

Is there a Uni nurse you can speak too, or even your student rep anybody who can provide some help, guidance and support.

keep posting! N

Thank you,

I've been on meds for about 2 months now they just don't seem to be working, my GP is monitoring me closely, i have an appointment with her every thursday at least to check on how things are going. the more things i try and the more they don't work my expectations are just falling, i feel like it'll never get better. sometimes i think because of me always being an anxious person, it was easier when i was younger cause everything was out of your control anyway, however now i'm in the world on my own, i dont have parents, i have a partner whom i live with but it's hard for him to support me he doesn't know how to handle it. i worry that it'll get too much for him, i worry its my last year at uni and i always fail at the last hurdle due to my anxiety. i feel like a failure because i've become so overwhelmed by it, that im frightened i'm going crazy. When i'm really anxious, i hear things, smell things and feel things that aren't there and everything is intensified, like the smallest touch can hurt me. if i quit my job, i'll have no money, if i defer my final year for a year im frightened i wont return and i couldn't bare to be working full time as a waitress. I've tried speaking to my dissertation tutor, however she is brand new to the uni, so she doesn't know what she can do for me. I contacted my head of department, she said for me to meet her, but i got the email too late and then she didn't reply. I'm too scared to speak to people about this, it's embarressing, the only reason my GP knows is because she got it out of me after going due to fatigue and pain etc. it's all too much!

i can understand how u feel-my anxiety wld not stop + wld go on for days + nights,i was at the point where i cldn't take it.my meds have settled things after 5 wks.I am not a gp but 2 months + no improvement? either increase or change perhaps-the hardest thing is sticking with the meds due to side effects so after 2 months you cld nearly be there.For me i felt crap one day + woke up feeling pretty good,as if a switch had been turned on-bizarre.i have been told this by friends but did not believe them,so it may happen any day with u as meds take 6-8 weeks

Oh you are going through so much, and I see you have tried so much to help yourself.  Please keep trying and don't give up.  I wish I knew what could calm us, as we would not be here on this site.  We do try to help each other with hints.  Is your anxiety continual, or do you have better days sometimes?

I know I am not much help.  I wish I knew the answer as then I would be able to help myself.  You are so young.  I do hope things improve for you.  God bless.

thanks for your reply, my anxiety is pretty continuous, it often jumps from things. as a child, i had to worry about my mum doing things to herself (overdose, cutting herself, cutting her hair off etc) so id stay up and help her to bed and then she died suddenly when i was 10. since then, my anxiety had changed focus to things like not being able to buy things myself in a shop (no matter which shop) in fear the person at the counter would judge me, this has improved, i feel nervous when i buy things but i'm fine. then it switched to things like talking to strangers after getting my first job at 15 that soon changed too. but now, without any focus points my mind is constantly looking for something, a work collegue said if you dont get your hair cut regularly they have to cut all your hair off and i hadn't had mine done in 2 years so for the next 3 weeks i spent a fortune on hair products, i would stare and stare in the mirror thinking my hair looked terrible and then splashed out on a 50pound haircut, if someone comes to close to me in a shop or something ill feel like my skin is crawling and i wont be able to control myself, im incapable of making decisions ill worry about money, and the future, and whether people like me at work, if they say things, if ill die young, if my boyfriend will leave me. i feel like a failure, because i can't seem to overcome this and there's not a lot of people around me, it's hard and i think there isn't really a cure for this. im scared.

Dear Klaire, oh you worry about so much.  I am so sorry.  Life is very difficult for you.  A therapist might be able to help you change how you are thinking, as it is all so negative.  Have you tried turning the negatives into positives?  I am so sorry about your Mom and your difficult childhood may be the cause of how you are today.  You really need to talk things over with someone.

Has your uni got a counsellor, or can your doctor recommend a counsellor to you?  

Oh chic, iknow how you feel, im totally at the end of my tether and ive only been suffering since the start of the year but it seems so much longer, dizzy 24/7, cant sleep, feel sick, headaches the list goes on, ive been off work for about 8 weeks and just dont want to do anything or be with anyone, I feel for my family as im a right pain in the butt and getting worse, I like everyone else on here just want my old self back, im also on propranolol 40mg twice a day but dont think its helping any more, take care and hang in there it just has to get better at some point smile xx