Hi all, I'm a 23-year-old man who has mild cerebral palsy and Asperger Syndrome (a type of autism). I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 months. We have only very recently started having intercourse, but there's one problem; I cannot orgasm. I have no issues when doing it "solo", but I've never been able to when having intercourse with her. The whole activity seems incredibly tiring and physical, and I don't seem to experience a build up of arousal, certainly nowhere near to allow orgasm to occur - it feels very different to masturbation. Fortunately, my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind, but it's bothering me, as I come away with it still "hard" and have to finish myself. I'd really appreciate any help. Thanks, Will
Have you tired not masturbating for a while?
Hey,
Your girlfriend probably thinks you’re the ideal man, especially if you have the stamina to quays give her an orgasm.
For you, have you tried having her on top, so you can lay back & enjoy?
Also try other foreplay and mix it in with intercourse, maybe that will raise your excitement too. Maybe masturbate until you feel very excited, then return to intercourse.
Ask your girlfriend to masturbate you as well, share the fun.
Feel free to dm me if you want.
Rob.
Thank you, both.
@She09402, I have for maybe about a week, but I do tend to find that the urge is too hard to resist, maybe I should just give that up all together now we’re having sex.
@Rob5151, hi Rob! I haven’t given her an orgasm yet. I don’t expect her to have one, because well unlike guys, girls aren’t expected to, plus she gets a lot out of it without having one. I have tried having her on top, but I think every time we’ve tried that, we have already tried the other way, so I’m already exhaused. It sounds like I should prioritise this way first. In terms of masturbation when I’m with her, she has tried a little bit, and that has generated the most arousal for me so far, but by the time I’m getting close to orgasm, her arm becomes quite tired (it’s not that she’d been doing it for a while, just that it’s something she’s not used to doing). I have done a little bit myself, but I feel it’s a bit odd for me to do it whilst she’s with me, however from what you’ve said, it sounds like I shouldn’t be too embarrased/unsure about doing this. She has said that she’s happy for me to do this if it helps me. I’ll send you a DM, thanks.