I have a hobby that I absolutely love and, because of work, had to leave for the best part of 2 years. During those two years, I started something with somebody from there thinking it was never going to turn into anything. My work has brought me back to the same city as my hobby and so, naturally, have returned to doing it.
Unfortunately, the person I started a thing with was looking for something more causal than me and so we ended on things on a friendly note. It hurt to see him around, but on the whole we got on absolutely fine.
I went out with everyone from this hobby a few nights ago and found out that he was telling out things about me and showing pictures. At the time, I was so drunk I laughed it off and even joined in but in the cold light of day I'm so hurt and embarrassed he's done it when I thought we were handling the whole situation really well.
To make things worse, I slept with him that night too.
I love going to this place where I do my hobby and hanging out with everyone but now that this has happened I just can't relax. I'm sure everyone is laughing about me (mainly because I remember him making some comment about it that night) and I just don't trust them.
There's no point in me going somewhere else because it's such a small circle, I would run into him again anyway and it would be so obvious as to why I left.
I can't decide if I should leave (and therefore walk away from something I love when I was only getting back into it) or if I should stick it out and ride through the rough times.
Please help!
Hi. I'd say stick with it. I think that most people will realise in the cold light of day that he's at fault for showing the pictures. When you see some of the other people you could say what you've said here, that you were so shocked at the time that you didn't know what to say but that you feel hurt that he did that. It would also be worth talking to him and asking him to delete the photos. Maybe, if he was drunk as well he's regretting what he did. Don't leave something you love becasue of this. The worst has happened now and it will have made him look bad, not you.
Hi Laura,
Hold your head up high, you have done nothing wrong, also his silly comments, if
Indeed he made any, will be a one day wonder,, please do not give up something
You enjoy because of this, take absolutely no notice of what others think, and in
All honesty, I should think that he comes off in the worst light... just carry on as is
Nothing has happened, be very polite to him when you see him, and I am sure it is
His loss, remember, hold your head up high, you are worth it... both your friends,
And I am sure he does,.!! Know that you are worth it.xx
Best wishes, take care, DEIRDRE x
Thank you both for your help. My GUT instinct is to leave it for now and take a break but I don't know if that's fear or not. His friend also tried it on with me that night and I found out he's twisted what actually happened. I just don't deserve this but hate running away because I look so guilty. I saw his friend tonight and he was acting as if I'd done something wrong and being so shifty. I just don't trust any of them and I'm so miserable with it all right now. Can I take a break and go back to it or is it worth sticking it out? x