its been month now ever since me and mt girlfriend broke up.. i cant help but just feel so empty still… she tells me that she still loves me… not as much before but she still does… i still love her as much as i did in the relationship…even after all that shes done to me. (no she didnt cheat.) i cant help but feel so connected with her.. still love her so much. she doesnt want to be in a relationship rn.. shes going to start hormones soon (shes transgender mtf) and tells me that once she starts her depression will be worse and she doesnt want to put me through that… i just want her so badly.. i miss her… i want her… i feel like ill never find love again… not like the type of love i had with her.. i feel like ive done as much as i could to forget about her…
i try to keep myself busy. i got rid of everything she gave me. its just so hard when she was so important in your life for so long… i dont know what to do…
Hey…
I’m not sure what to say, but perhaps a person going through something kind of similar might help.. It’s not the same and it’s still very different but.. Me and my best friend.. my ex-best friend now.. I had never felt so connected to anyone in my life before. Somehow, along the way he started distancing himself more and more.
Now he barely chats once every two months and it’s not like before. I no longer feel like his friend. It’s just that such moments are hard, but I think finding new friends has helped me. Maybe you can look for other relationships at the moment? Just good people, good friends and surrounding yourself with them. You don’t know what is going to happen, but I’d say it’d be best to just respect what she wanted. It’s probably time you go your way. Yes it will hurt, but probably what may hurt is you thinking you and that person won’t have similar moments like the past… But in a way, people change all the time so, accepting that they may not longer be that person may also help. I don’t think my ex-friend is the same… I don’t know what new people I may find on my way, I may find many wonderful people I wouldn’t have if we were still friends… And that’s ok. I hope this maybe was somewhat helpful.
Ah yeah, and different may not mean worse. It’s just a feeling that you’ll never find someone new, but once you start going around to new places and have your eyes open, you may just find different, amazing relationships.
Hi shay, the gap in your heart will be unimaginably huge, i have lost someone who i thought was the one too, it will take a long time to remend that gap in your heart. Love is on a fine dividing line between this and hate. You need to grieve for the person you have lost, including loathing her! Good luck, tough journey ahead but not unmanageable!