I feel like it is never going to change

Mental health
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I have had a bit of a turbeulant life, I was brought up by born again Cristian views (men first, women second, very stricted) and just recentally my father has been dignose with aspergers sydrome after my mother finally coming to see that he was emotional abbusive and phiscally (to my mother and brother) They are both still together as my father has done alot of rebuilding and changing. My brother is currently in a mental health home with aspergers and pure OCD, and this as your would imagine massivly effected all my close familys life. 

 Myself, I was in a abusive realenship from the age of 17 to 20, where I moved in with him and started doing drugs from weed to MDMA with weed being like ciagreats to me. I work two jobs as he went to uni, I like my mother finally found out saw the light on this realenship and got out. with also quiting drugs all together. 

   With all of this (and bits more with being bullied) I have suffred from depression and anixty from the age of about twevele, i'm now twenty two and I have been more mentally ill then healthy and I literly cant take any more, I started university last year which I thought would sort it all out however it stayed the same. 

I have done counciling but find it personally a waste of time as I am very experiance on mental heatlh and the reasons I have got these issue.

 Please can somone give me any suggestions, 

I'm currently on summer breck and have no car and live in the middle of no where, and friends are very few and far between. So the lack of motavtion and tirednest is overcoming me.

I have got a new job which I havent started yet, but I want to start the healing process again before I do

Thank you very much for your time x

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coll10, 

Don't give up!!! Welldone on giving up drugs and getting out of a bad relationship!! That's really positive!! 

Sounds like you have had a tough time. 

My first suggestion would always be therapy - specifically cognitive behavioural therapy as I feel that is much more effective than just talking to a counsellor smile Have you seen your doc about it? 

I am going to link you to a discussion where I put up a list of tips, you might find them useful. 

Know that we are here for you anyways to talk to whenever 

Agirl xxx

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See tips here: https://patient.info/forums/discuss/-golden-list-of-tips-for-depression-anxiety-270877

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Hi there it sounds like you have had a really difficult start to life but you have done so well at making the right decisions to move away from that life, getting out of the relationship with the wrong person was your first step to take back control of your life and starting university last year was the next step it must of been hard going back into education but your first year is over your bound to feel tired and listless it's time to have some you time to get your strength back before starting this new job try to be kinder to yourself we always put ourselves last but give yourself a chance to see how much you achieved so far and feel good about it, I agree with you we do know a lot more about our mental health issues than the counsellors who have not been through this illness. Just keep on telling yourself you have come this far and that although you may have a way to go you are on the right route good luck and lots of love

sue