I feel like my life is worthless and over?

Mental health
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I'm a man in my late teens who is hoping to go university this year. I used to be very sporty, happy, motivated and successful. However, that all changed.

In the last two years I have suffered from setback after setback.

I suffered from mild bullying. For example, somebody posted a picture of me on social media secretly in which the image would put a very negative tone of me. This didn't help, as I used to suffer from bullying as a young child at primary school.

So I tried to make myself happier by restarting college by trying to do well in education. Everything was going great & I was on my way to becoming a successful sportsman, but was denied the opportunity after a career-ending injury. It ot me down again, and STILL I wait for an operation.

As I was a year behind in college, I had very few friends left during the year.

On a holiday, I met a girl across social media who appeared to be lovely and nice, who stayed in the same resort as myself. We spoke for months and months, I wanted to help her with her lack of positivity and she seemed to like me 'in that way.' So I tried to make a long distance relationship work and make a beginning, but then she cut off contact despite all of this effort, trying to make her happy, she never spoke again. This was coming from someone who 'really wanted to like me' and thought was amazing and special to her. I was gutted, and in tears (without sounding embarrassing).

So a few months later my exams for entry to university came, and I feel my results fluctuate. In some, I feel that I've got around 95% correct, others about 50%. So, I'm worrying like hell that university won't let me in this Thursday (results day).

So, I'm asking kindly, what I should do? I feel down a lot, no motivation, and always worrying and hurting myself. For example, I keep looking at my 'potential girlfriend's' social media because I miss our friendship. I want uni to be a new beginning but I'm worried I won't even get there!

Thanks for your time

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hi schoes ur young u dont know what will happen yet reguarding uni fingers crossed for you.. u dont need her think of ur future fingers crossed for you..try not to worry if u fail which hopefully u wont u can try again . julie

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Thanks Julie! I hope it turns out well, I just feel very down!

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Hi Schoes,  If your results aren't good enough for the uni you wanted, they may be good enough for somewhere else, also, you can retake exams if they aren't good enough to get in anywhere.

A breakup with someone can be really devastating, but you can move on and find new friends.  Perhaps it wasn't meant to be and someone better could be on the horizon.

Having what you reallty wanted to do taken away from you by an injury is also devastating, but you've picked yourself up from that and are trying to get into uni, which shows you've got guts.

It may be a good idea to see your GP and explain how you are feeling and he may be able to get you some kind of help, but after a while, you may feel better naturally anyway without his help.

Good luck with your recovery, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and you are still young.  You DO have a life ahead of you.  I hope you make the most of it.  One day you will probably look back on it all and wonder why you were so upset and worried.

Marie

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I am a 16 year old girl and i felt like i would never find anyone with the same problems as me..I have bipolar nd so i can relate in the way that you feel pesamistic abut future events. The way i look at it is, do what makes you happy and positive! First of all, whatever happens with your application will happen for a reason, but to try and calm your nerves about it i will pray for it to all go well, as i know this will probably improve the anxiety. About the girl, if it makes you upset that she cut the relationship off then don't make yourself invloved with it. Delete her from all social media and have a fresh start as it is clearly not making you feel happy thinking about her all the time. Surround yourself with positive people, i know this may be hard as i have ad to do this before. I realised that the people who i hung around with just brought me down, and so a fresh start really helped. Try taking up new hobbies, you mentioned that you lie sport, and i find that going for a quick run really helps me to clear my mind, i also read alot and try to paint and listen to as much music as i can as it calms me and takes my mind off of things!

Ella x

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don;t let relationship or exam stress get you down.  Don't try and do it all at once you will wear yourself out.  Take a step back and try not to let lifes worries affect you. if at first you don't succeed persevere but take your time doing it. You have your whole life ahead of you.

Richard