I contracted genital herpes when i was 16-17 i’m now 20 i’ve only had 2 relationship since the but my most recent one i was scared to tell him about it, we had protect sex twice and we were only 3 weeks in, then one night i came over and i was going to tell him… but first i needed liquid courage and i might of had too much because i blacked out i get a bit rowdy when i drink (this is important because i apparently i suggested having sex) i don’t remember the night but we had unprotected sex… and i didn’t want to have sex at all because well i was having an outbreak at the time.. lets just say he got symptoms straight away 5 days later i told him because he was complaining over text we spoke mostly over text so everything came out on that he was so upset and angry it was horrible and i believe it’s mainly why we aren’t together anymore this happened a year ago and we only recently broke up. it was an accident right? and if i didn’t blackout nothing bad would of happen right? or was he wrong for not using protection? he blamed me and of course he should but he used it against me to make me do things for him i felt like i had to do and be everything for him so maybe one day he would forgive me guess it wasn’t enough.
despite all this i think i’ve grown and learned to be honest but i’m terrified of this happening again i don’t wanna ruin someone else maybe i should be alone that way it’ll never happen but if i do find someone how do i approach it? what do i say? should i wait until the time comes and before anything goes far just tell them? what if i want to have a one night stand i don’t want every person to know about me, i live a small city you know everyone knows eachother…
i think in the future your best bet is to tell them before having sex at all whether you suggest using a condom or not.herpes is still passable with a condom the chances are just slimmer. no he’s not to blame for not using protection. be more honest. i know its gonna be hard but rather be safe than sorry
you dont have to tell someone on the first date i would say. but def before you become intimate. educate yourself and this way your confident in what you say. you can take suppressive meds that lesson the chance even more. and if someone really likes you they will stay and then they make the choice for themselves and its not on you