I have felt depressed for 4 monthes and i just dont know how to cope.
oer the last 3 monthes i have stoped all contact with my friends at school because they dont understand what im going through and think its for attention.
its not.
i have also become reclusive and i have started to avoiding social activitys.
i would really apreciate someone to talk to and get my mind off things.
thank you for reading.
Hey zebra, i know its hard when people think its all for attention when thats the last thing it is, do you know what started making you feel this way?
Im sure its just because they are young and don't understand how you feel, even adults have a hard time being able to deal with someone depressed, its one of those things where if you haven't suffered from it you really dont have a clue.
Hi Zebra.
Firstly let me say that you are not alone. For those who have not had personal experience with depression it is very difficult for them to understand that it isn't just something you can snap out of. Depression is used so loosely these days. People may of felt down for a few days and given it the name depression but really they just had a few down days. They then think that it's easy yo get out of. They didn't have depression because if they did,they would be more sympathetic and supportive towards you.
Try not to overwhelm yourself with the things you are not doing. Nothing is a easy task when depressed so try and think positive about the things you are doing because each thing is a achievement. Even getting out if bed and getting dressed is major on some days.
We tend to best ourselves up because we struggle with things that at one time we could do without a second thought....Things are different now....Now we have depression.
Set yourself little goals each day but don't overwhelm yourself or beat yourself up if you didn't find the strength to do them. Some days we are stronger and cope better than others. Be gentle with yourself and try and keep talking. Talking is good when you can find the words and that is so much easier to do if you have one person who you trust wholeheartedly. I'm lucky,my family are very supportive so I can share it out so I'm not burdening one person.
This forum is great for support and reassurance so if you ever feel alone,then don't hesitate to come here and vent xxx
this means a lot and getting out of bed is becoming increasingly hard
i wake up every morning wishing i could just sleep forever and that worrys me.
i dont know what im cappable of.
thanks for the support i really need it 
my bestfriend wont talk to me because im too "non-talkative" and i "get him down"
it all started when people started calling me stupid
for a while i took it as a joke
but you can only repeat something evough for it to become reality
people then realised how vunrable i am and started singling me out
soon all my friends stopped talking to me because im "differant" and "not the same anymore"
people dont take me seriously when i say i have depression because im only 15 but i just cant cope
thanks for the support i really need it
Sorry to hear that, thats what happened to me.. It started off because i was overweight when i was that age and of course for a while you just laugh it off but eventually it starts to hurt and people single you out because they know it upsets you. I have so many problems now because i didn't deal with it well so please don't think you should just accept being treated like that, you don't deserve it.
Wish there was something i could say but just come here when you need to talk there is always someone who will help or just have a chat to.
Does this happen everyday and is there any way you can get away from those people?
i tend to go down to the music room and play my bass guitar for a while untill they find me and then they will tell me how bad i am at it and that i will never amount to anything
this happens on a daily bassis
somtimes i go to my english room and write but i get to depressed and i just feel as if anything i do write will get laughed at so i tend not to show anyone.
this place seems really nice and i will come here more often in the future
thank you for caring
Dont mention it mate, i promise it does stop as you get older and people grow up but it can have affected you a lot by then, if you are feeling this down you owe it to yourself to tell someone about it or try and totally avoid them.
Can you talk to anyone about it how you feel? Like a school councelor or something?
councilling dosen't work for me
i have tried befor
anywhere i go they find a way to find me
teachers ont tend to listen to me because these kids are "nice" and "harmless"
so i end up feeling alone with no one to talk
I know what you mean, its hard at school because you can't leave and its hard to escape, i'm going to bed now mate but keep coming here if it helps, there will always be someone here.
Wish i could be of more help but as a result from being bullied my life has been destroyed and i never found a way to deal with them. I know there really isn't much you can do to stop them unless they just stop bothering you, anyway take care mate and just realise what they say isn't true, thats one thing i wish i realised.
Okay, so maybe your counsellor at school is not crash hot, but would you consider looking for support outside school, with someone who could be truly abjective about your situation? Might be worth considering.
Another aspect is that your school administration - whether they like it or not - have a legal duty of care not only for your education but for your physical and mental well-being. Derelection of that duty os a serious legal matter, meaning that cannot blow you off and have to take your concerns seriously. Can you remind them of that?
In closing, just let me say 'kudos' for recognizing your situation and doing something about it by reaching out to a group like this. I was so ignorant it took me 20 years to discover that there really was an actual science to the treatment of depression, and another 10 years to get effective treatment. With luck you should be able to avoid many of the sorts of pitfalls that I've had to learn about the hard way.
Stay in touch!
ill try going to my local lesuire centre for help and see what they do
this site is really starting to help me feel like im not alone
thanks for the support
alright mate how are you feeling today?
im feeling around the same nothing has really changed
what about you?
Having a bit of a down day myself, just been in bed pretty much all day, luckily i finished college in june and have took a year off to try and sort myself out.
Glad to see you back, you will meet some great people here mate and i hope it makes you feel a bit better.
im gonna see if i can get any support from my english teacher tommorow
wish me luck
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You, sir or madam, are entirely welcome.
Coupla tips:
1) should this teacher turn out to not be as supportive as you might hope, don't give up
2) you are allowed to be depressed ergo do not apologize but rather present a management issue that the school is required to address.
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Goodluck mate, let me know how you get on!
depression does isolate you but I would not deliberately do this if you can avoid it. Try and stay in contact with your friends. if you can explain things to the ones that care then things may improve. Depression is a hidden illness so don't expect people to see what is going on in your head. Talking helps.
Richard
my "friends" arnt that understanding so i dont think they would understand BUT i hae taken another step and started stalking to my best friend again