I have had a tough time over the weekend. So have my family because I have been grumpy with aches and pains in diferent places other than my hip.
The main symptom is a stiff neck. It hurts when I drive and feels tense and tender. I also have lower back pain which I think is just muscle weakness which needs more exercises to strengthen it.
The biggest symptom is feeling fed-up and negative about Christmas. No enthusiasm for it at all.
Just want to hibernate and come out when the festivities are over.
It's so tough isn't it. It dawns that although the hip is better, it's not going to be perfect. And I think if the arthritis is bad enough in the hip for a replacement, it's going to be bad in other places. It's my hands that are getting me at the moment. So sore esp at the base of my thumbs.
I am trying to enjoy as much as I can. I try to really appreciate whatever is good, to notice it and enjoy the good feeling. And I'm trying, as much as possible, to ignore what I don't enjoy. It can help if at the end of the day I remember 3 things I liked.
I'm also trying to hold my tongue. I need those around me even more than ever, and I want their goodwill in the years to come when I'm even more disabled than I am now. So I'm guarding my relationships.
Its depressing isn't it. I wasn't expecting this battle at this stage of my life. And I'm finding the battle is so much against my natural tendency to depression.
I know exactly what you mean. I was hoping to be pain free in time for christmas but it is not to be. I hope I will be in a better frame of mind for next year. I do feel so let down and I know that even though he tries his best other 1/2 just wont be able to cook the cheistmas dinner as well as I can and just supervising and not being able to see what he is doing doesn't help. I am going to try not to let things spoil the day by trying to get him to follow written instructiomns. He cooked a chicken last weekend and it tasted as if it had been cooked in petrol yuck.
It's a real roller coaster ride isn't it - I have never ever suffered depression of any sort, I am always the upbeat and happy one. Now however I get regular days of dispair - how can I be in this position etc.
It is tough, and we all have different reasons for being 'down'.
The only thing I have found is looking back at my blog, I can see how bad it was in the early stages, and how good I am now compared to then.
Sadly I also know that I have to go through them again in less than 4 weeks time when I go in to hospital again for revision.
The hip pain is better but now I have all sorts of aches and pains in the rest of my body. Thinking it might be fibromyalgia even.
I am just miserable and grumpy and don't want to be bothered with Christmas. Told the family ages ago I didn't want to cook this year but they wouldn't listen. I end up in the kitchen doing all the work while they sit in the lounge, well lounging. They will be opening piles of presents and moaning at me to come and watch when there are stacks of jobs piling up for me to tackle. No use asking them to do stuff as they make such a mess for me to clean up it just isn't worth it. If I ask husband to do anything useful he just says "Leave it" That means "Leave it until I've gone back to work".
That is so hard knowing your back soon. I feel bad for you Your first paragraph is/was me....here is my dispair....yesterday I had a great day, absolute wonderful, then today absolutely terrible. That is what I don't understand at 4 weeks post op. Pain again down my thigh, neck pain from cane....blah blah I could go on.....I just don't get how this happens. Disheartening....I was so happy yesterday as I drove for the first time!! So I am not alone with pain coming and going.....?