I can't deal with life anymore, I'm so confused and scared and frustrated. I don't want to die but I feel like it's the only way out. I'm so confused about everything and I just feel so lonely and sad all the time. I'm sorry
Ross I hear your pain. I wish I had a magic wand to make all the pain go away. Have you gone to your doctor? Sometimes the right medication makes all the difference. Also some people benefit from therapy. Please try these things before giving up. You said you are confused so maybe talking will help you sort things out. Take it one day at a time. Look for anything no matter how small that is positive in the day. And keep talking on here. We care!
i feel you ross, i do not want to die yet but i keep thinking if i was i would be better off.. but there’s one thing holding me back, but i just don’t know anymore. i do not have particular goals in life, the future seems bleak, it seems it is only worth it if you have someone else to go into it with, otherwise you die a lonely pointless death, what is life?
Life is tough - it's meant to be. We do have free will, and that means we are usually able to get up and change things. It takes courage, effort and discomfort to do it, but it's what makes the difference. If you are depressed, the first action is to see your doctor and honestly describe what is happening. Meds may be prescribed, but there should also be a referral to a counsellor/therapist or psychologist to discuss what is happening in a safe place with a professional, to dig down to any issues that may be causing depression, bringing them to light, learning to recognise triggers, and learn coping skills to deal with any future episodes.
It's still not that easy - sometimes the doc won't listen, and if not, get another doc. Discomfort with the therapist is natural for the first few appointments, but if that discomfort persists, get another therapist. The medications will take time to be effective and some people will have negative reactions to certain meds - if that's you, demand the meds be changed. The whole journey is not easy, and it seems unfair that we are burdened with something as insidious as mental health issues when everyone else seems to be living an exciting life - but the fact is most people are suffering in one way or another, hiding it behind smiles, laughter, meme's and/or wealth, claiming they are living the dream. Usually they are merely distracted.
Our job in our situation is to explore every possible avenue to find peace in the here and now, to not only experience the situation but also to observe it. Giving up is not an option. We don't know where that might lead. Imagine if you had to come back and do this all over again with even more piled on the plate? Our situation is temporary, and I believe everyone gets a turn. This time it's ours.
Not so sure I agree about the temporary. My situation has been at a crisis for almost 10 years. Each year worse then the other. I do know what mostly had caused my depression but that is not enough. My heart is broken.
Please go to the drs. Meds and counselling will hopefully start you on a road to recovery. Its a hard long road but with the right support network you can do it. Good luck.
Ross
How old are you ?
How can I help ?
What has happened ?
BOB
Hi ross 08472,
We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.
If you are having these suicidal thoughts then we strongly recommend you speak to someone who may be able to help. The Samaritans offer a safe space where you can talk openly about what you are going through. They can help you explore your options, understand your problems better, or just be there to listen.
Their contact details are on our patient information leaflet here: https://patient.info/health/dealing-with-suicidal-thoughts , which also offers lots of other advice on how you can access the help you may need.
If you are having such thoughts then please do reach out to the team at the Samaritans (or the other people detailed in our leaflet) who will understand what you're going through and will be able to help.
Kindest regards
Patient
Jesus can change your life. He can give you peace, and make a brand new person please reply back if u want to know more
Do you know that Jesus can heal you from depression. The root of all of this depression, is love. Well God is love. Please let me know if u want this peace
Lilly - the root of depression is anger turned inward. You are babbling.
Deb - sorry to read that you are heart broken. My reference to "temporary" is that this entire life is temporary.
i couldn’t have said it better wayne. the reason people hurt is because they are alone and have no one to talk to so their frustration builds up and turns into sadness. at least I think it’s like this for me..
Hi Ross, I don't know how old you are but something must have gone drastically wrong for you to feel like this. We all feel down at times but true depression is totally misunderstood. Have you got friends, family or any else you can talk to about this, or might help you. I just hope you get some support somewhere. Good luck.
Ross - please will you respond to us. We would like to know how you are.