My birthday is in about a week and I'm turning 14. My mom keeps trying to get me to have a small party bc I haven't had one in a few years cause I was sick. Anyways I really don't want to have a party and I don't want it to be my birthday because it's like a day for everyone to pay attention to you but i don't want attention. I don't want anyone to sing happy birthday or give me a card and I don't want to go to school cause at my school they still say the birthdays on the announcements (I think it's stupid but its elementary school so little kids love it) but I don't want any more attention than usual and I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense I just really don't know how to say any of this. I just want it to be like any other day where no one cares about what I do and they just go along with their day. I'm just realizing now that the way I've said all this I don't think anyone could give advice but if you somehow can please do or if anyone else has experienced something like this let me know
I also put this in anxiety disorders cause I didn't know where else to put it
Hello! My daughter is 16 and loves musicals too! She also has an anxiety disorder. I completely understand where you are coming from. It took her a long time to be comfortable coming out of her comfort zone. She doesn't have many friends and so birthdays are uncomfortable. Have you talked to your Mom about how you feel? Moms love to celebrate our love for our kids with parties...but love our kids more. I am sure while she may encourage you to have a party, she would want you to be happy more. The announcement thing is tough. Try to breathe through it and just say thank you of someone wishes you a happy birthday. I do know that is easier said than done. Make a tiny goal for the day...one thank you at a time. We support you! You are not alone!