Hi I have been trying to deal with this anxiety for 9 months now I have stopped taking the pills I make myself go to local pool couple times a week I trying to make a friend someone who is happy to be with me good day or Bad day someone who not only being friend for what they can get off me I am on my own got two children 10and12 they are so good they love me so much but I panic as I know they will leave someday and I be all alone my life is work kids sleep I used to be so confident now I cry shake I have no family here
Awe Caroline. I know exactly how you feel Hun.
My son is 18 now but I was a single mum and spent many a lonely night when he had gone to bed...just me and my thoughts.
I don't think people realise how much of a need there is sometimes for some adult conversation and company. Just somebody to have a chat with or a vent if need be.
There are lots of genuine.lovely people out there and if I was near you then I would be your friend,good day or bad because I have them days too.
Theres a saying "if they can't accept you at your worst,they don't deserve you at your best"!!! It's true. I think through our bad times we learn a valuable lesson....who the real friends are.
Have you ever thought of doing a course with the lifelong learning centre. They are free for people on a low income and have so many different time slots so you could easily find one that fits around work and the kids.mthey are a great way of lifting your confidence and meeting new people and the good thing is..your not the newly..everybody starts together xx
Hi Gillian thankyou for replying I shall look up lifelong Learning centres you saying is so true I will try remember it and yes when kids gone to bed it is so lonely x
What area do you live? X
Hi sorry late reply I live not to far from Gloucester x
I can be your internet friend. I'm going through anxiety as wellll. Whenever you need to talk I'm here.
I'm struggling with loneliness. I live at home with my dad but he doesn't understand why I get down and thinks I should just snap out of it. I started a new job in august and I was so excited to start however it triggered a bad anxious period, I ended it with a guy I was seeing and it turns out my job is quite isolated. I haven't made any work friends, I spend the majority of my time alone. I come home from work and spend time in my room. I know that I'm the only one who can change things for me. I'm just finding it really tough. One side of me wants to hide away while the other wants me to try some new things. It's so tough :-/
I have far too much time on my own. I don't need to work as I inherited a very large amount of money. Please don't think I am boasting, in fact more to emphasise money can't buy happiness. I feel so guilty about my anxiety because I basically have everything I want, grown up kids, house, husband.
i use alcohol to help with my anxiety which is a vicious circle. My anxiety comes in episodes and loneliness is a big part. I am just coming out of a month of anxiety. My family and friends work all day. Half the time I feel like they all talk in a different language, ie hi tech, downloading, benifits of a dongle etc etc. I am more than happy to be anyone's Internet friend.
you are right money does noy buy happiness -if u aint got ur health + well being it's meaningless
Don't worry things will work out soon. Keep your faith. You should take the initiative to go up to your coworkers, have conversations. Talk about happy things. Tell them things you like, places you like to go. Holidays coming up, great way to start.
You are all very welcome to join my Facebook group if you like. A fair few from the forum have joined. It's a closed group so nobody but members can see your post. If your anything like me,I'm either here on the forums or on fb.
Its called Mental health support group(A problem shared).
xx
I wish I had coworkers to chat to! I'd be right there for a good chat. The team I work in is spread over a large space so I don't see anyone. I did pop into a school today to have lunch there so I could chat to people. I spoke to the lady who did my job before and she said the worst thing was the isolation.
I've stopped using Facebook :-( maybe if I go back on, I would def join the group
Some people have just made a account to join support groups....But defo come join us if you ever decide to go back on xx
Hi thankyou how are you today I hope to use this forum more as I feel it will help just talking to people and when I read how other are I know we are not alone x
We got each other ladies...And I know we cannot be there to hold each other's hands through the rough times but we can support and reassure on here. I've never really had so much as a pot to pee in and worked two jobs trying to support myself and my son and even though we didn't have much,I was very happy.
Im wondering now if thts has something to do with my depression/anxiety umm....He's just turned 18,out in the big wide world and doesn't need his old mum so much. That could be a lot to do with it. Xx
Hi amberstar sorry late reply I know how you must be feeling I think I am lucky as I am main provider for the kids I have to get up and go work etcetc I have started to take meself off to swimming pool I do a water keepfit class I may just be saying hi to people but it is helping is there anything like that near you x
I go to the gym about four times a week. I am starting to do more classes to interact with other people. I've just been looking at a website that has social groups in my local area so may get up the nerve to go try one of them :-)
Hi Gillian you could be right I know mine started when husband left but I had to survive so I worked so hard to keep house and look after kids now there bigger they can do some things for themselves and I now have time so I realise I have no one my age no friends and the confidence gone so I panic'sweat cry but we keep on going we must . I going try find your FB group xx
I couldn't stay in my job because that's where the accident happened that was kind of the straw that broke the camels back as far as anxiety is concerned. I do need to find something else very soon though because I cannot bare the thought of people on my back to get a job when I've never been out of work xx