Is there anyone out there who truly suffers from depersonalisation and derealisation. I cannot find anyone to talk to about this and It is driving me insane. If there is anyone out there who is going through this I would love to talk one on one about it so I know I am not alone. Please help. Anyone
Hi.....will you please explain what those are?
Dear RM -
You are definitely not alone in this battle!
There are thousands of fellow warriors who battle with DeP and DeR on a daily basis.
As a sufferer myself I know it could be really challenging sometimes! For me the worst thing was how different I felt everyday. Everyday was a different reality and there was no way for me to control it. Imagine my plight with a high pressure corporate job.
However, every tough enemy has that chink in their armour. And so do DeP and DeR. Here’s how I tackled it (with decent amount of success I would say) - I found the key was in the name.
My mind was forcing me into new realms everyday. I was just not connected to the self that I knew as me. I had to deal with a new reality concoted by mind, each with a very different manifestation in the physical body.
And that’s when I decided to detach my reality from my mind. I used many tools to do so. Scripting was a very effective one. Just write a short note to yourself before you go to sleep reminding you that you are absolutely sound and totally ready to face the bext day however you have a child in your mind and it could throw a tantrum tomorrow. Just read the note to yourself 3-4 times a day to ground yourself in the reality that its just your mind playing games.
Another technique that you can try is Anchoring. Its a basic mindfullness tool that tries to anchor you to something that is undeniably real and purpetual - your breath (you can find a lot of youtube videos as well as apps on how to practice anchoring).
Also, try defining your circle of love and care! That is who are the 10-15 people who really matter to you and try and focus your attention on those bonds!
Avoid digital distractions like social media as they catalyze the minds ability to concoct alternative scenarios.
And finally seek help from a Psychologist for some counselling and even a Psychiatrist for some SSRI support if you might need one. Remember its a tough battle but you have the arsenal and an army of fellow warriors to win it!
Best!
S
Hi keri its so hard to explain to someone who hasnt or isnt going through it. There are so many aspects to it that it would take a month of sundays to write them all here. Maybe you do and internet search which will explain it so much better than I ever could. Take care
Hey are you ok I suffer from both too I’m always here if u need to talk and your not alone I’ve got it too
Hi Shan thank you for you advice but to be honest the way im feeling and the weird things that I am feeling I am not even sure if this is what I have. I just dont think anyone would have the absurd things going on in my head. The include feeling like I am in a movie that has no ending. Memory flashbacks but not just the memory but the feelings I had at the time when that memory took place. Everything I see outside triggers this weird memory feeling and I keept getting these weird feelings when I imagine what my future would look like. I constantly obsess about the past and wanting to go back and do it all again to a time when everyone was together as a family and I was loved and wanted and my kids needed me. Looking at a sunset or the horizon intensifies these feelings which makes it so hard to go outside. When I look out the window I dont feel like its really there and then more memory feelings come flooding through. I have fleeting glimpses of feeling somewhat normal and then I try so hard to bring the weird feelings back just to see if they are still there then i try so hard to get those normal feelings back and this is the battle in my head every day. I have problems with change even the smallest change makes my mind go weird and its even worse now. Just eating different food sets my mind in a spin. I had this first when I had my first child but its much worse now. I have had many losses in the last 10 years and I am probably repressing my emotions and I know I have unresolved grief .I have to wonder if its hormonal because the real anxiety started at 14 even though i have been suffering nervous conditions since I was 11. Then again at 25 after the birth and again now I am older. I have no family or friends in my life anymore as they have all abandoned me so i have no support and no one to talk to or go visit when I am feeling really bad. I am alone 24/7 which makes things worse and I have been seeing psychologists and psychiatrists since I was 11 and I have taken so many pills that did not work so i gave up. I am so lost and alone and losing my mind. I am so scared that this time I am going to go into my subconscious and not come back. But one consolation is that if this doesnt go away soon I can end my life and end all the heartache and pain that I am suffering from now. I my have no choice I just want to feel normal
Hi Matthew thank you and its nice to know I am not alone. I would love to talk to you about it as I am so worried I am going to go insane this time . Maybe private message?
Aww your not going insane and yh that’s fine I’ll send u a private message now
Omg ive been feeling like this too like if im not here like im outside my body and a robot has taken over me . i feel so lost i cant concentrate on anything for to long my mind goes blank my keeps racing thoughts like it wont shut off. I feel like im dying sometimes like i cant breath its so scary to me ive been looking for someone like me who feels the same way.
Ive been feeling like this since my dad died of lung cancer and my mom died in a car accident .we use to always go to my dads house he had barbecues and partys my family always would go over there but now since my dad died everybody just went there separate ways dont see each other anymore. Alot my family memebers and friends have been passing away so theres mostley just my older sister and my half brother which have there own kids to take care of so i dont see them anymore like use to. So i feel very depressed and cry alot cause live isnt the same anymore i keep having memories of all of our get togethers and start crying like crazy and have thoughts of not wanting live anymore. But i have two sons who are the only reason im still here on this planet or i think i would be gone along time ago. But i just keep moving forward until its my last breath on this earth. So i want you to know you are not alone in this there is alot of people going through this also ive felt so much better after finding this site that im not alone either. Please if you need someone to talk to anytime im here please message me if you like. Take care .
Hi crystal thanks for messaging me. First I would like to say sorry for your losses and that things have changed. I cant handle change not even a little bit. I hate how life changes and people leave us or move on. Ive never felt so lonely in all my life. Never felt so unloved and unwanted. I mean I can handle being alone but just having no one in my life at all is pretty much killing me. My son and my dad were all that was keeping me here on this messed up planet and now they dont want me I have no reason to go on. I have no purpose in this life. If you need to talk I am here for you also.
Please get a counselor to help you. They know all about your issue.
here is a number you can call 24 seven that is confidential. It is a national hotline. 800-273-8255. They may also be able to provide you with resources.
you need to speak with someone and vent everything that has been troubling you. Don’t try to do this alone. There’s lots of help out there! 🌸🌸🌸🙂
Hi Jan thank you for your help. I do see a psychologist and have been in and out of psychiatrists and psychologists and therapists offices since i was 11. Been on so many meds that never worked. Also I am in Australia. I just want my family and my friend back. Thats one of the reasons I am feeling so bad right now. Everything has been building up for awhile and this has just tipped me over the edge and feels like my mind is shutting down to stop the pain and heartache.
Thank you Rydia i cant stand change either like i said since my dad died ive never been the same my sister dosnt invite me over anymore because her twin kids left to university far away from her so she shut down on me and my kids so i feel like she dosnt want us in her life right now. And my kids dont hardley talk to me cause of my illnesses they dont understand why im always crying and depressed .so they stay way from me and my husband has no clue so he just leaves and drinks somewere.so i feel alone too. Thats why im on here trying find a friend to talk to ive seen a psychologist and a psychiatrist but nothing is working for me.
Hi Crystal I was wondering if you would like to chat on private message might be a bit easier. I am not sure how to do it so I you would like can you send me a message. Thanks
are you currently taking any meds? I'm going through something very similar.
Hi Keri no i am not on meds as I have tried so many and they just dont work for me. I am sorry that you are going through this its so horrible. Are you able to tell me about your symptoms of this terrible condition.