I should be normal, but I don't think I am. And I don't know who to ask why.

So, really, maybe it's a bit presumptuous of me to post this under depression. I have no clue if its actual depression or me just conjuring things up and putting a name to the nameless emotions i go through, simply because some quizzes and tests name it as such. But I thought that maybe, just writing it all down may help me organize my thoughts just a little bit.

Sometimes, like now, I simply look around my room and i see static at the edges of my vision, like i'm putting in the barest effort necessary to see the things around me, and even that is just giving me a headache. My hands, while typing this, feel heavy and sluggish and trembly. But that could just be laziness, or maybe even explained away with me being a drama queen. Am I? I don't know. I could be. I definitely do think that sometimes when I try to rationalize what I feel, that it is way too over-dramatic. Like the way sometimes my eyes just fill up with tears that make me feel so tired. Like the way I would stay cuddled up in my blankets, with all these ideas and things I really want to get a start on buzzing continuously in my head but in the end, never really conjuring up enough energy to even move the barest muscle to do it, which just makes me feel even more pathetic but even that doesn't prompt me much and time just gets wasted again and again. Like the way I look at my roommate, who's been sitting silently immersed in whatever she's doing for a few hours now and I just get more and more worried over the silence thinking maybe it's my fault or that maybe I'd done something stupid like I always end up somehow doing and now she's ignoring me or something and then I work myself up into a frenzy and throughout it all, i selfishly just want her to pay attention to me. Me. Because clearly I'm selfish and really stupidly believing it's about me when most probably it's not.

See? Dramatic.

And the truth of the matter is, it's not like I'm trying all that much to gain her attention anyway. So, why do i still have expectations? like an idiot.

Sometimes, I feel chilling apathy. I worry myself into a frenzy with the smallest of things and feel self-pity but for the big things, somehow i detach myself from it and everything just seems to be happening from a distance. I should be feeling way more, I know. I should be reacting way more, I know that too. I should be not numb or indifferent, is the end line. But.

I worry over that too.

I think I'm attention-seeking. I wouldn't be surprised if someone thinks that. Hurt, definitely, but not surprised. I almost always think I'm being dramatic--i don't know if it's because that's all i've heard about such reactions due to a certain stigma attached to the concept of a mental illness or whatever, or because once i read this from a rational, 'normal' point of view, then maybe it is. And I feel sick whenever i realize that a small part of me does want someone or the other to realize that I'm not okay, not really, even if I do joke and smile and act crazy. I feel sick whenever I realize that I do want someone to look at me all concerned. it's selfishness at its finest, maybe. Wanting to drag others into this mess, but not strong enough to do it yourself. Because who can I ask if what I'm feeling is normal or not? if wanting attention but at the same time wanting to hide is normal? If looking at life in such a blase and indifferent way at times is normal? if sometimes even the roots of your foundation isn't enough to stop some thoughts or perk yourself up is normal?

And the most idiotic part of all this, is that I don't even have the 'excuse' to say that i've even gone through anything deeply traumatic or excruciatingly painful or life altering to even be feeling all of this. There's no true reason. I have a beautiful family that supports me like no other, friends that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world. I'm studying something that I thought I'd love, even if it was something my parents were a bit against, because doing anything without passion is like a slow death, and i naively thought i had enough energy for passion. I have a livelihood, i have money, i have food, i have love, i have laughter--in the eyes of some, i really have everything.

But then, why did writing the last bit of that paragraph, instead of making me feel even a smidgen of contentment, make me instead breathe in deeply to ward of another spiel of loathing?

Hello Betty,

I don't know enough about your circumstances to be able to understand why you feel this deep sense of need, of longing to be cared for, and an underlying sense that you don't feel OK. I do know that if you feel that, it is much more likely that it does come from somewhere and is not you being a drama queen. Counsellors who work with the inner child, recognise that even small little traumas, such as not having some needs met as a baby - for example a need for comfort, can result in some quite real issues in later life.

I'm glad you've been able to write and I hope that it has helped a little. 

I wonder if you should seek some help from professionals? (I wish I had so done so a lot earlier than I did!)

Sue

Betty

Try not to look at what is around you and get on wit your life, I cannor understand if you are happy wit your Studies or not and if you are carrying heavy luggage from that so good life at home. To be honest I do not feel that you ave any form of Mental Illness.

You need to become accepting of your life and look out for the positive without questioning the negative. I would suggest you ask yourself why you took the time to write this script and what you wish to achieve.

You are not in any way unusual or different than anyone who are trying to educate themselves with the help of an instructor of life.

Give yourself a break understand people have their own issues and to try and understand those thoughts without asking is basically impossible for you to comprehend.

Live and let live, move on there is a world awaiting for you to live it without you banging your head against the wall

BOB

Hi, you're obviously intelligent which makes your inner reasoning go haywire! There's so many reasons why we question ourselves relentlessly and the root cause may always remain unknown. Maybe there's an invisible pressure to succeed you might not have registered?

Can you be glad just to have the capacity NOT to be normal??

You've described amazingly well the feelings that everyone on here can really associate with, and struggle with daily... and we are the Special Ones, actually! xx