I've been depressed for quite some time

Mental health
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Don't know what to think right now. As got letter stating that man I'm married too. wants a divorce. Talk about kick you down when your try to build yourself up. Feel like taking this bundle of tablets let him have it all. I'm going to come out of this with nothing anyway. Feel used. Let down. Useless and most of all a big failure. Don't think I can cope much longer

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First your not a failure or useless are you seperated from your husband if so then something like this could have been expected please fight your corner though dont ler it get to you keep picking yourself up and stay strong

Please take care

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I've been trying to pick myself up a number of times. But keep getting knocked down. I just feel that the best option for me is to leave this world fir the next one that way no one will have to worry any more.

Thanks for replying

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Please dont think like that I have done a few weeks ago and I am glad I didn't so please you are better off here I know it may not seem that way right now but if I believe it can get better for me then I believe it can for you

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Look I know how feel right now, you feel worthless . You need to understand that it's your mind playing tricks on you . I can imagine exactly how feel right now your lonely and the person you love has left you like this . Divorces are hard but they sometimes work out for best please undertstand this !! You are worth more you clearly are a kind hearted person people like you are hard to find, because things like this ruin them , don't let it ruin you. It will hurt soo much and cry you eyes out if you have too , but you will soon come out this bubble and become yourself and learn from this horrible experience I promise . I've just had a horrendous break up I was strung along like a dog , do not let this happen to you , do not go back for a quick fix . It will make you worse . You become more attractive if you do not chase and close the door . Do it for your self if that's a 100% realistic letter . 

It it will be hard , time is hard . But thing like this improve people in the long run for the better . 

Lifesprecious

much love  

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Hi Lewis, well said, i would of said something similar.

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And let him win?  Suicide is permanent solution to a temporary problem so please don't consider that.  Of course you feel awful right now and that's quite understandable but you will pick yourself and carry on because we all do.  

With any relationship it is usually 6 of one and half a dozen of the other so don't apportion all the blame to yourself.  It takes 2 to tango you know.  

I think you should go to our doctors and tell them what is happening for you and that you are feeling suicidal.  Meds and/or counselling should help you to feel better.  Are you still living together?  Is the property owned and in both names?  Even if it is not you should still be entitled to half.  Do you have children to consider?  If I was you I would contact a good lawyer to find out your rights or you can google them.

Please don't despair - get angry instead - that is much healthier.  It is not your fault you suffer from depression.  It is a nasty illness and you need treatment.  Please seek it.  x

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Thank you for replying.  It's just that we did try again and like a fool I believed him. I gave up everything.  Now I have nothing. Have no money to buy new items with. He live with his mum who has cancer. Found out by mutual friends that he's asked for a divorce now so if anything happens to his mum I won't be entitled to anything. His mum is a very selfish lady. Does nothing for herself even though shes capable. She made herself a cuppa. As she wasn't expecting anyone home. She managed ok. She only wanted her son there not me. So I guess I was also feeling sorry for myself. In away he has won. But I'm going to try not to let him drag me down further than I am already.

Thanks once again

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Good on you Vera.  And I reckon you have learned a good lesson there.  Never give up everything for a man and always make sure you can earn a good living so you are never left destitute and depending on him.  

Well done.  x

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Hello, You are not a failure or useless ,you need to go and see a doctor,then go and see citizens advice, show that man you are strong and a fighter , dont let him think hes got one over you, I left with nothing but I found love again ,people love you and you have our support, dont let him win.

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I feel that he has already won. He don't pay rent. Council tax. Hardly any bills he's laughing at me. It seemed like he and his mum ganged up on me to get me out. I'm feeling very low at moment. Sometimes I wake up. And thing not another day. Then I thing of the two most important people in my life and that's my daughter and my mum they have been a great help to me. 

My biggest problem is being home alone when I have no one to talk to. It's not just my marriage I have issues with its a number of things. 3 deaths of very special family members. Abused by two brothers and some people tell me to get over it. The only way I have tried to get over it is to try and take my own life but my daughter seem to know when some thinks wrong an ambulance always seem to get to me in time. This has been very hard for me to put on here but I'm so not liking myself for letting this happen in first place. Life sucks at times

Thanks 

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Please don't think about taking you're life I feel you need to pack up your things take your daughter and have a fresh start I know easier said than done but you seem to be only getting worse you need to be free from all that is happening so you can grieve properly for your loss in your family and start to feel yourself again please also seek more help from your doctor 

Take carw if you need to chat about anything or just want someone to listen please feel free to pm me anytime ill try and reply straight away

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My daughter has a family of her own. I try not to worry her. But the bond we have is very strong. If I don't answer my phone after 4 attempt she knows something us wrong.  To be honest I don't think my doctor has a clue. He so laid back he don't seem interested.  Have to go back soon as I'm thinking dark thoughts again. 

Thanks

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I would change you're doctor and is it possible to maybe stay with your daughter for a little while please dont think them thoughts I have recently and I hate thinking that way 

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My daughter had her own problems with 3 children with some form a disability. I don't want to upset the house hold as she has a routine to keep too. But we talk every day.

I will see a different doctor next week as mines on holiday see if get any better.

Thanks again

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Hello,Is there anyone of your family you can stay with? I stayed with my mum/sisters for awhile they have been so supportive ,ive had marriage problems too,2 bad experiences in my life, ive had trust issues ,been told by 1 of my parents i wasnt wanted so many times,i have no confidence .You are not alone, a-lot of people think the same way but dont open up.