I've made many mistakes. Now in a REALLY messed up situation. Advice needed...

I would like to start by saying I am prepared to take your harsh responses. I think first and foremost that I probably deserve them.

I also want to explain that it's a little weird and disgusting. So please stop reading if you would like.

Currently in a long term relationship. Love her to pieces too, but I'll be lying if I said we haven't had sex in a long time! Whilst we did "things" together, her mental health has deteriorated, so now we don't do any anything. I sparingly see her beyong a few hours, but we make a strong effort to meet. She's seeking help, and slowly but surely getting better.

It's been hard on me. Selfish to say I know, but I want to support her in every way I can, which can be difficult. To seek some sexual stimulation, without cheating, I spoke to an online male friend (mutual interests) about celebrities we found attractive. It became a little too regular! I won't get explicit about the conversations, they were not harmful however. Eventually we have agreed to meet, both in the same state. The purpose of this was to meet and, I'm sorry to say, jerk over these celebs! Sick right? I don't find men attractive in the slightest! Yet I agreed, and we booked. I know how wrong and vile this is. It has caused me stress, a ton of guilt and shame. He's paid for a hotel and it's got way outta hand. Feel bad to cancel after he's paid. Yet it's so wrong to meet! I don't even want to particularly go ahead with it. So scared on how far I have let this go, all because I wanted some sorta sexual stimulation. Even if it was celebs.

Please help with advice! Need to sort my life out now.

Well no harsh response from me, it is a bit weird but definitely not sick or disgusting you're simply missing any sex in your life.  Wrong? vile?  just because you're having perfectly NORMAL feelings. you're bound to feel guilty because you haven't done anything like this before., but you are not hurting anyone, you're not cheating on her.

Personally I think you should loosen up a bit, meet up with your friend, enjoy your evening, go and have a drink and leave it at that, you don't have to meet again if you don't want to and even if you do want to you are not hurting anyone.

I hope your girlfriend continues to get better, she's lucky to have a guy who wants to stand by her.

Val.

Hi JW - There's nothing "wrong" or "vile" in it - it's an arrangement between two consenting adults. Human sexuality is complicated.  If you aren't into it, don't participate. 

Can’t really understand why you’re stating this here. 

Now I’m paranoid that my ex feels the same way. 

Is there not a sexual gratification site that would be more appropriate to discuss this with??