Im back and about to go through next ops

Hi all

Some of you newbies might not know me l hope some of the long timers do.

I had my 2 hips replaced 1st in dec last year 2nd in feb due to OA. This forum was my lifeline when l went through both it helped me so much and l met loads of great people. I have been missing for a while as my life has basically been ■■■■. Not because of my hips as it the best thing that l had done as it took away so much pain l had went through for a year previous not knowing l had OA but thinking l had a pulled mucsle then after no inprovment my gp and l thought it might be actorn tendon but l went on suffering taking painkillers just so l could get up and go to work.

It all became to much when it reached november last year when l was lying on the ground in tears trying to put my jeans on. My husband seen me and said enough is enough. So l went back to gp this time l was sent for xrays and a week later l was sitting getting told l needed both hips replaced as they were beyond repair bone to bone on both sides. I was in shock at 42 years old it was the last thing though l would be told. However l am lucky enough to have private medical care as a benifit from my work and within no time l had my 1st appointment to get left replaced on december 15th. So l had it done and my recovery was textbook l was very lucky thats when l foundcthis forum and realised 42 was not young at all to be having it done there was a lot more young people who had been through it and were about to go through it that had a much tougher life than me and had suffered most of there young life. So l am not going to complain. By week 4 after my 1st lthr l was desperate to get other one done. I felt ready l wasxdriving again a could walk without aids but don't get me wrong l suffeted the pain at the begining just like everyone else and all the lovely stuff that comes along with thr's. Lack of a normal sleeping pattern days of feeling really down andchust crying. I experianced them all yet this forum helped me through it as we were all going through it together.

2nd hip replacement done 8 weeks later in feb as my doctor warned me it might be a totally diffrent experiance from the 1st and it was. I cannot explain the diffrence it just was. I was able to move it right away , not like my 1st where l woke up and felt like my leg was a dead weight and the pain was awful for the 1st week. It was much easier still sore but l was ok. I was only in hospital 4 days this time instead of 5.

So recovery has been hard l have been off my work since november. I was stuck at home and tbh thats where a wanted to be. The only contact l had was this forum it keotbme sain. There wre days l just cried and other dayscl was ok butvl madecgood frriends. As times went by l have got back to a more normal life but whenl was walking aa part of my recovery l noticed my knees were getting really sore and swollen stiff. Back to the gp where ll was sent for more xrays in my hips and knees.

Great news again......i need both knees replaced now. So since then my life has been ■■■■. Asxsome of you oldies might remember my mum got cancer in her lung even though she has never smoked and lives really healthy..

My life for the last month or so is been hectic l have been with my mum through every test scan and appointment. Final outcome she has a mass in her left lung that is covering her broncial branch and main artery to heart so they can't operate or remove lung as she would justcdie because of where cancer is so shevis getting a treatment plan done just now to give her chemo and radio or a combinationn of both depending on how she reacts to that. So l jave soent day after day trying to keep her posative and say she had hope and she just needed to fight it all the way. Then 2 weeks ago my husband got sick we thought it was just a flu or something he had a high temp and was really sick. Long story as shortvas l can he ended up in hospiral as he had a virus that attacked his brain and lost control of what was real and was confusedvlike he had severe brain damage. They treated him with the strongest antibiotics you can get for like meningitis and other brain viruses. I really thought l had lost him. So my time fir past 3 weeks has been hospital home hospital mums hospital hospital hospital. I don't knowcto this day how l coped. But thankfully l have my husband bacj he is home and recoveing. My mum is still needing me more than ever. And to top it all l have my 1st knee replacement next tuesday. I was going ti cancel it but l aam not delaying it as l srill have other ine to get done after and its time for my big brither ans sister to take some of the stress off me and step in and help althiugh my mum just wants me and my husband as we have been there from day one. The quicker l get my op the quicker l can get back to normal.

I have no idea what the future holds if l wiill still have a job after being iff for so long but its all about prioritys just now my health my mums my husbands. I am scared stiff about the knee op as l have heard its a lot more pain. But hey l can do it.

Sorry for the very long post l just wanted to tell you all l will be back and whats been happening. I know its knee replacements l am going through now but the hip.forum is my home.

Hopefully things can only get better now.

Hello to you all that l have missed talking to. Renee Linda and thete is loads more. I have sarah and cels andcsoos that know that l dont neédcto updatecas they all know.

I wish l could take my sarah with me but she is always there for me and my other. All of you 😊.

Well think l have wrote enough to make you all sleep.

Wish me luck in the knee rep time..

Talk soon

And hey to all the new hippies or just about.to come hippies.

Laura xx

Hey Laura, so lovely to hear from you. Of course I knew about your mum but what about your poor husband. Glad to read he's on the mend but it must have been a very scary time. I bet you've been thinking how all this crap can hit one family. It's now time to let your brother & sister step up & help with your mum. You will need to focus on getting well after your first knee op & you will have all the support again from all of us here. Everything you have all gone through over the last year will make you stronger, it may not feel like it now but it will. Sending you big hugs & best of luck for Tuesday, a big hug to your hubby & an extra big hug to your mum xxx

Hi Laura

Sorry to hear our pain is still going on but I know you are strong enough to get through it.i wish you all the good luck for next Tuesday and hope it goes well. You know you've got your good friends thinking about you and we'll be Eagre to hear how things go.

i hope you will tell your brother and sister they need to take some of the burden off you with your mother. You are needed to look after yourself and husband. Please let us know how you get on and I send all my best wishes to you and hope you all have a speedy recovery.

Brenda C xxxxx

Laura,

So nice to hear from you again, and so sad that you have suffered a truly awful time lately.  

Like hip replacement, Knee replacement surgery and recovery can also be very different for diffent people.  I know two people who have had it, and their recoveries and outcomes have been so different.

You will need to do yet more exercises, and not over-do it........ I'm sure you will recover fine and get back on the road to health again.  I hope everyone else in your family gets better soon too.

Best Wishes

Graham

Hi Lors.  My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I know the knee replacement is not something you're looking forward to. However, look at what you have accomplished already! You've got this! We are all here for you! Cindy

dear  awesome Laura, 

I don't have anything to add to all these lovely responses - we have been here for a while, haven't we .. you are amazing -

I am happy to see that you found liz who just had her TKR - just stay here with us hippies and visit Knee forum once in a while ...

keeping you, your mum and your husband in my circle of Reiki so that healing is taking place where healing is needed the most ...

Sometimes all what is left is to surrender and have faith, darling ...

thinking of you and keeping you close,

big warm hug

renee

 

Good morning! I am new to this forum, and am so glad I found it! It is helping me cope with my trhr I had July 18. Wishing you the best and prayers for you and your family. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🤗🤗

Dear Laura,

What an awful year! I know you have to be a strong woman to have made it through recent months. And I totally agree that others have to start shouldering the load.

I am very glad that your husband has responded positively to the arsenal of antibiotics but my goodness the journey of that alone ... and with your Mom's own journey with cance, it is a wonder that you are still battling as wonderfully as you do. There is a reason you have so many frIends herei.

Too many of our lives' experiences echo each other and my knees have also been troubling me for a while (pre and post surgery) but my surgeon is hopeful that my 2nd new hip will help with this. But if not, you will have blazed yet another trail for me.

Please know that my heart and prayers are with you and your family. You have gone through so much together and I hope your husband's recovery is a turning point for you all.

PS - please give that lovely friend of yours (Sarah) a big hug for me. She is a 'lovelie'! Perhaps she would be good enough to give you one for me as well.

Big hugs Laura.

L

Thank you all so much its great to hear from you all again and hello to the newbies. You will find this forum such a great source of help and support l don''t know what l would have done without it when l was going through my 2 hip replacements it helped so much as i.ee basically can say and ask aný questions and not be embarressed about it as we all have been through the same. Even our toilet habits came up as its part and parcel of hip replacements when you are discharged as we all know lol.

At least l can still laugh although its been a helllish time l am still here and l am a fighter l just take each day as it comes now and try to stay posative.

I apptriciate all your support and you will probably hear a lot morecof me now that l am going back through surgery to become terminator woman in the end 😂.

Thank yalls

Love

Laura xx

If there is anyone who doesn't need more bad, it's Lors. I'll be thinking of her hard on Tuesday. Her siblings need to grow some balls. For her sake, they'd better. Hugs & much aloha, dear.

- Soos

I wasn't there for your hip replacements but I just have to say that I'm so sorry about what you're going through.  You must be very strong as all of this would completely overwhelm most people.  So glad your husband's home and recovering.  Mine has been a huge support for me and I can't imagine not having him as my 2nd replacement is soon. 

As for your Mum, I pray it goes okay.  I can relate as my Mum unfortunately passed away from pancreatic cancer right before my hips gave out.  I was with her every step of the way - she called me her guardian angel, and I wouldn't change a thing.  I did appreaciate the rare times my sister stepped in though!

Good luck with your knees.  I'm sure you'll put in the work and will do great!

Take care,

Fiona

Oh my goodness you and your family have had a terrible time. You sound amazingly strong though. Sending all the very very best to you and your family. XXX

Hi Laura;

So sorry to hear you are going through so much. I remember talking to you when I first came onto the forum. You have had a terrible time to say the least. Is good to hear from you and will be rooting for a quick recovery from your knee surgery. I am glad your husband is doing better. What a scare that all had to be. I am sure you are so worried about your mum, but you have to take care of yourself also. You need to take care of yourself to be able to take care of another. I learned this the hard way, took care of my parents for years. Lost my mum 8 years ago, and took care of my dad until last March when he passed. I let my right hip go because I had no help with my dad and couldn't bear to think he would have no one while I recooperated. Problem was the left hip went bad also about 17 months ago. It has been really rough trying to take care of dad his property, and business and my own family and being barely able to function. I had my rthr 11 weeks ago, and having the left done in 5 more days. Would rather have not went through this so close (not as close as yours were), but have no choice as I can barely function still. Anyways this isn't about me, just wanted to let you know I know where you are coming from and how you feel. It can be so overwhelming. Please know you will be in my prayers (and your mum and hubby). Wishing you well..Hugs...Barb

Hello Laura, glad to hear you've gotten both your hips done and they are good. I am a newbie here RTHR - 10 days ago - didn't find this forum till after surgery. It really helps to hear from other people going through hip replacement. You sure have more than your share of challenges, your brother and sister need to help, and it sounds like you have lots of friends here. I've had both knees replaced, June and Sept 2014. This hip caught me by surprise. Three months ago I was walking about a mile a day with no pain, to not being able to walk a month before surgery. Anyway recovery is coming along slowly. Just wanted to let you know that I thought my knee surgeries were actually easier than this hip has been. My knees were really bad before surgery, on crutches for at least a year before and pain for many years. Both surgeries went well with very little pain and was up an using new knee within days. Now you need both knees working before you can really appreciate how much better it is. I had heard that THR was easier thanTKR, not really true in my case. I wish you the best, will try to answer any questions you might have about TKR. Dave63380

Hi

Thats great posative news you have just gave me you are the 1st person l have heard say that your knee surgery was better than your hip as all l have heard so far when l went to knee forum was orople saying that hip surgery was nothing compaired to knee and that the oain was of the charts that just scared me so l never went back l have been through a lot in my life l think knee's l will manage as l coped with my 2 hips no problem. Well l coped the first week or so was hard. Unfortunatly everythiing else in my life has took priorty over my hips and l forget most of the time l.have had them done now just the odd niggle and l get very sore backs if l lie to long in bed. But its became my life now and my new hips are great. I am hoping l can eventually say same abt my knees but thanks for sharing that it makes me feel better.

Laura

Its great to hear from you all again and ti know that you still are there for support. Even the new hippies all your support counts. Thanks again everyone. And its nice to hear from you all again and to know a lot of my old team are still about. And all the new people are part of this grouo too xx