Im depressed from many years of my love life .. i always feel i want to end my life. I really love him a lot.. whenever he says he doesnt want me for each and every small fight i feel like ending my life.. I have cut my hand many times thinking that cutting hand will cause dead but realised it will not.. even now i want to die. i just cannot stay without him. I dont have any reason for being alive.
I know how you feel
Me and my ex finished almost a month ago and I've been in and out of mental wards because I've attempted suicide...
Honestly, it does get better. There will be someone else, and you will love them too. I know it feels like you can't love anyone ever again because of this, but its just temporary. It will pass, and when it does you'll be so glad you stayed alive.
You've got a full life ahead of you, don't let one person ruin that :3
im still in relation wit my love.. im in this situation because of misunderstanding and we didnt give time to each other to express our feelings though we meet almost everyday and spend ,ost of the time
Talk to him about how you're feeling.
If you tell him, maybe he can come to an understanding and help you get better.
If you truly love him, you'll know what to say to him.
And if he loves you back, things will work out :3
Hi chaitra
This boyfriend of yours does not deserve you. I know in your head you believe you can't live without him and that way of thinking will leave you exposed to more threats of leaving you. We only get one life on earth which is a privilege and should be cherished. It sounds like you love this man but don't love yourself. Why physically hurt yourself because of him? It may be that things have happened in your past that make you fear rejection. But please get professional help for that. Your life and happiness shouldn't be dependent on how your partner is treating you. Next time he threatens to leave you. Say ok! Don't show him your weaknesses as that will make him keep treating you like this. Bet your bottom dollar if you don't beg him to stay and show no reaction. ... He will soon stop that behaviour.
Take it from an old lady with life experiences!! Love yourself and protect your feelings first. You can do it!!!! Please do not hurt yourself anymore and if your partner truly loves you he would not want to put you through all this stress...so he needs to change himself sharpish!!
Warmest wishes and hugs
Lorraine x
No one understands unless they have been through it. And everyone is different and are affected differently. I am just hoping to get through the 15th. Long story I don't want to go into. Besides, people just respond to their click. I wish you well and that you can get over this. It's been years and I'm still trying because maybe it's just true love. That as I've learned, is hard to get over. You have a reason to live other than him. Keep reminding yourself of all the people who do love you. Tell yourself you can get over him. It's what's kept me alive. I don't want to be with anyone who does not want me. However, it does not stop me from loving this person. Accept that you love him and that it is emotionally painful. Then tell yourself I'm worth fighting to live. It's what I do to cope. I wish you the very best! Many hugs!!!
Love is tough for humans...there is nothing wrong with YOU.
The only thing that you do have to do...is learn to love yourself.....
Doing that takes many years of counseling....I find every relationship I am in...goes sour. I'm older now...and I am realizing...maybe I wasn't meant to be in a relationship...Maybe none of us were.
There are very few couples that "thrive" together...there are MORE that don't. We can't take that personally...there is nothing wrong with us...there is only something wrong with the expectations of society...that we are supposed to be with someone else to make us WHOLE.
It is our job to make us WHOLE, to find things we enjoy, to do things for others, to be the best person we can be on a daily basis.
We can't find our identity in other people.
It is super depressing when we try to live up to others expectations and fail...then we feel like we aren't worth anything.
I was in a 6 year relationship where I learned to DO for myself. I expected the guy to fullfill me (wash my car, open my doors, etc)...He encouraged me to do these things for myself. I was angry all the time at him...but looking back...he taught me how to be with MYSELF. And to be OK with that.
Agreed. Fights will happen and should not result in him saying he doesnt want to be with you. You csnt help how you feel but you need to be reminded that you deserve better treatment s nd understanding. Time does eventually help.
You have to move on and the first step is to manage stress .
Change your life to help manage and reduce stress. Too much stress worsens depression and puts you at risk for future depression. Take the aspects of your life that stress you out, such as work overload or unsupportive relationships, and find a solution to lessen their effects. I know you are going through such pain from not moving on . You need to focus your attention in other things such as Sports or other hobbies.