I have been having panic attacks that have now developed into panic disorder for over 3 years now and I am exhausted. My relationship means everything to me so thats where my intrusive thoughts tend to come from, I know deep down that there is nothing weird going on with my relationship but I cant help think what if. Its started to upset my partner and I really dont know what to do anymore. Please help
Hello Banka420. Just try to focus on the positives in your relationship and in your life. Don't dwell on the "what if's" - I mean what if the world blew up tomorrow? So, don't worry about that. Sure, have plans for various outcomes in life but try very hard not to dwell in and allow the "what if's" to sweep you away. Focus on the good, the positives. But if you can't do that, then it might be a job for the psychologist and the counselor. All the best.
Sorry Danka420, I misspelled your name. My apologies.
Danka
Have you seen your GP about this and been introduced to a treatment pathway. ?? If not I would advise you make an appointment, a double appointment and you write out a list of your concerns and the dynamics of your family etc.
I went through something similar when engaged to someone who was not who She said she was and the relationship become increasingly sour. I am not saying this is what is happening, just I understand how we may feel and how a relationship can be stressed or distroyed
You mention your Panic Disorder with intrusive thoughts, these thoughts need to be addressed, you also need to try and understand where these feeling have come from as generally people who loose trust have reasons why they feel that way. You need to address this problem and move on
Can I suggest you do not discuss any of your distrust before bed that just turns of any romance you may have. It is a real problem if you cannot button your lip, and prevent your concerns you need to be able to walk away to another room before starting a row. Try explaining why you are doing this thing making it a way of telling the person how much you feel for Her and you are so happy to be with Her, you are frightened to loose her.
You really need to talk with someone not related, a stranger looking in is more responsive they see something in a different way.
Talk to your GP, ask if a course of CBT would be helpful
BOB
Thank you so much, I've been to a few counsellors but with no real success
Thanks for the reply!
I have been to multiple doctors and counsellors and have tried a few different medications but none have helped in the long run. I am very aware of my anxiety and what it can do and where it comes from. My problem seems to be that I am so sensitised to fear that the tiniest thing could set me off for a few days, its the set backs that are crippling me right now and that has a huge affect on my relationship