Hello, so a couple weeks ago I went to the doctor to check out an itch I had. The nurse took swabs and found that I had trich, chlamydia, and a yeast infection. She told me to notify everyone I had sex with within the past 60 days so I did. One of the guys told me he went and got tested and only got abnormal results for herpes 2, everything else was negative. I did not get blood drawn so I guess I did not get tested for herpes. I am devistated. Especially the way I found out. I wish they would have tested me for it at the doctors office and they would have told me not by a text message. The guy completely hates me now and thinks I ruined his life. I feel completely awful. I've tried to talk to friends but they don't know what to say and counseling services are booked for the rest of the year. I just need some support right now, I feel so alone.
Well start by taking care of the problems you have, and then go back and get blood drawn. One step at a time. Don't assume you have it until you know for sure
Noelle is right. Also, the good news is that the three things you have are all curable, and you don't know yet whether or not you even have genital herpes.
For all you know, he could have acquired it from someone else and put you at risk! Or he may have scored a low positive result, which can sometime's be false, especially if he has a history of oral herpes.
So, deal with your current issues first, then do an HSV-2 IgG antibody test and take things from there. Good luck!
Thank you for the advice, it did make me feel a little bit better. The reason I think I have it is because after I got treated for those 3 things, I got a bump under my skin on my vagina that felt like a ball. I was scared that it was gonna pop but it's actually shrinking now so I don't know what that is. I want to go get tested but it took so much out of me to go get tested last time, I don't know if I'm ready to go back and receive bad news again. Another reason I believe I have it is because the guy was tested before me and came out negative for everything and now after me he comes out abnormal for herpes 2. It just makes me feel horrible. How could I do this to myself and to others?
Did he definitely test for HSV before? It's not a routine STD panel test like most people assume and needs to be specifically requested, so I'd be surprised that he tested for that, but then he might have done.
As for the big bump, it would be best to get that looked at and tested while it's still there, even though it's another stressor. Better to get everything sorted out down below, plus it could well be related to your other problems.
I'm not sure, maybe not since I don't think he had any reason to believe he had it. He was being tested just to be safe. I had felt itchiness before I was with him though, but that could have been also caused by the other infections I had. I had just put anti itch cream on and it went away so I didn't think it was anything major. As for the bump, it's pretty much gone now.
I have another question too, how did he test negative for chlamydia and i tested positive? As for the trich, they didn't catch it either but my doctor said that there's not really a test for trich in males, so I hope he told his doctor about it and got treatment because that could cause other problems.
Did you test clean for chlamydia and trich before him? Chlamydia is a separate test, while trich is usually looked for in a routine Pap smear. (I'm ignoring yeast, because it's so common.) If so, have you only been with him or only had protected sex with others since your tests, and did your tests take into account testing window periods?
If "yes" to all of the above, then he should surely have both. Chlamydia and trich can both be tested by urine these days, by the way. Are you sure he even tested? Did you see his lab report?
Alternatively, if one or more of your answers to the above is "no", and you have seen proof that he tested, then you could have acquired chlamydia and trich from someone else and somehow he managed to avoid catching both. Do you usually use condoms with him? Condoms are effective against both, but less so with respect to HSV-2.