Hi I'm 26 years old and I just had my first boyfriend this year, I got herpes a month ago, I am usually very positive in life, but now that I have herpes, I am always emotional. I felt I'm deprived of having good things. While the person who gave me the disease is having the time of his life. He can go to gimmicks up to wee hours of night (while I cannot because lack of sleep can trigger my herpes back) he can be exposed to sun ( we love raveling but this can give stress on me ). I am afraid that I cannot go back to my old active lifestyle. Told him that he should consult a urologist so that we can know the precautions if we can still have unprotected sex, but he told me he doesn't want to spend Christmas that way, I told him , he needs to have himself check up because it is for our future health. I felt that he doesn't really care for me. We are in our 1st year anniversary this January 2015. I want to feel that I am not alone in this battle. I feel dirty, I feel that if our relationship won't be a success, no one would love someone like me. I'm too submissive to a guy who doesn't care for my welfare. I had a Debridment procedure on my right foot, after the surgery the herpes outbreak happened.it is because the surgery, my low immune system triggered the herpes. It is my first time to have a boyfriend, to engage in a sexual intercourse and this happened to me,I feel like I'm a loser. I tried asking help for a counselor, I'm still a work in progress I'm trying to change the way I think so that I won't be feeling sad, rejected or alone. I also became more prayerful. I just wanted to hear stories from people like me. I kept this herpes situation a secret to my family, the two persons who know this is my boyfriend and my counselor. I hope to hear from you guys, it's good to have websites like this so that I can let my feelings out. Thank you for reading
You will be able to be active, don't worry. You have to wait now... I know, it's really hard. If it's your boyfriend who gave you herpes, why don't he understands your situation?
If he has no/light symptoms, maybe he just don't understands what herpes means for you. Try to talk with him. He have to face this problem too.
Don't live in fear, try your new limits. Maybe sun doesn't triggers your herpes, maybe you can have less sleep once a week. It's so different to everyone.
And talk with a good friend, you need to have someone to be able to talk about your problem.
Listen baby doll.. You are far from a loser! Do you understand me!? Never say that ever again! This or any situation never defines you and never will! This obviously is not something pleasant to deal w and yes, the vast majority of guys have it easier... But you are no less worthy than you were before this. Do you understand that? I don't want you ever to repeat those words again about calling yourself a loser, you are far from it. You are a young, intelligent and beautiful woman!
I too am like u and cannot go all drinking all night w out an ob. 1. Give your body time to adapt. 2. I recommend daily supprant. If I take before I stay out all night, I don't break out. 3. take a lysine supplement daily.
If your bf is that insensitive, time to get rid of him! You deserve only the best!
I know how you feel I am only 20 and I got it from someone last year this person still denies giving me it and it is very frustrating. As long as your partner is standing by you as well as friends and family thats all you need, I was scared to tell my parents but they were very supportive and still are.