Title says it. I've been with this utterly amazing and perfect guy for a year and a half. He's adorable, nerdy like me, and all around amazing. He helps me through panic attacks and my anxiety disorder. Hell, 2 months in I got the stomach flu, was home alone, and he came over to hold my hair back while I puked. I have no idea what I'd do without him. But of course, anxiety has to show its ugly face, right? I'm just sitting there watching a movie with him, when my brain goes "what if you don't actually love him?" And I mean, I know I do, but a thing with my anxiety is that I hyper focus on things like this. I can't get it out of my head. It's horrible taking too, as we are about to leave for a 10 day trip. I guess I'm looking for comfort. Logically I know these are nothing but intrusive thoughts that aren't real, but my anxiety thinks "what if they are?"
Hi Chloe
With what you have just described, this is exactly me. I fixate on certain particular things and i find it difficuilt to know what I truly want. i suffer from anxiety and OCD and the past 1 1/2 years have been awful, the worst it has ever been.
I have thinking of in something particular that has been bothering me for the past 5 months which i have latched onto and torturing myself trying to decide if it is something i truly want or if i am just fixating? i have been extremely harsh on myself by saying that
I dont want to feel as if i am running away from it therefore very confused about which part of my thoughts i should listen too.
I completely understand where you are coming from. I am really sorry that i cannot help you however it does sound as if being with this person is the right thing. I only wish i had someone to share my time and love with.
Everytime those thoughts come, try to bat them away.
Best wishes
Tammy
I have come to a point where I just make decisions based on the facts and I write down the pros and cons. if the pros outweigh the cons, I know it’s a green light. I would write down all the pros and cons with this guy and then see what the balance is. That is your facts to go by. it forces you to see things as they really are. if you have a lot in common and you’re happy that’s awesome but just test it with making these lists so you know you are on the right track. also, a 10 day vacation with anyone should be very revealing as to if you guys can go 10 days together and still come out getting along fine. I would make the lists again after your trip too to see if your feelings have changed at all. if the pros still outweigh the cons, you are doing really good in my opinion. good luck!
lol it happend to me so many times !!
are you on any medication to help with intrusive thoughts