is it human nature?

Does everyone actually use someone one else to get them through tough times?

Is it the real meaning of life? Do we actually really only use people as a tool or aid

from friends through to relationships it seems the same set of rules apply

we want them when we need them and they become a thorn in the side when we dont are we all really a crutch?

I wonder whether we kid ourselfs behind the I've no hidden agenda statemate, of course theres an agenda its self-serving!

Maybe we dont realise it but its there for why have friends at all if not to make yourself feel better the desire to be wanted and loved is our own we use people to obtain the feeling of security when really we are so vulnerable its an illusion one that we are happy to indulge in as reality much like a child beleiving in santa it makes Christmas all that more exciting

whenbyou realise santa isnt real the fun goes the mystery shifts to disappointment the deciet from the ones you loved (parents) sits heavy and like most things turns into a vicious circle its the first time we figure out we have been lied to and cabt trust everything we hear even fron thise that we love and love us

and yet we do the same to our children instilling the first experience of deciet

then i guess it becomes the norm its socailable exceptable and infact encouraged its become the norm

its actually sad when you break it down it how we learn to mislead others

people are not born liars or selfish its a taught process and the sad thing is they are taught it by the ones they are loved by it opens up a whole loads of pain suspiciousion and doubt

Santa is not real! !!!

You are not loved!!

you are peoples crutch!!

A leaning post to take a break from reality!!

You are infact alone in life!!!

Do yourself a favour and realise it before its to late for you too!!!

I am currently wondering the same thing.

I feel so needy and pathetic at the moment. I don't want to NEED anyone. I want to be able to stand alone and be counted, not hide behind others as I have done for 48 years.

I'm going in for five days intensive therapy tomorrow and that will be something I'll be working on - how to be more self reliant.

Yeah I agree too. We are alone in Life. We can only trust in ourselves. Everyone else is for themselves. Only Family, mother, brother, sister, really have your best interests at heart. It's pure Love. Love that will not vanish it will always be there unconditionally. Others are selfish and only think about themselves. It's not about you. It's about how they feel. That's why I like being alone. Well with family. They always have my best interests at heart. You sound like you were used by someone. You must love that person to feel this way. It's heartbreak at one point or another everyone goes through it. Some rather be alone so that won't happen.

We all need people so we take as well as give,  or we should.  Avoid people who only take and also those who only give.  The last might sound strange but a relationship like that is uneven and unhealthy and can't last. 

Don't forget it's not only others who take - we all do even on here.  Or maybe especially on here?