about 5 year ago i had to move somewhere i really didnt want to live because my partner was from there, i had no friends to start and spent every night sat in drinking a few cans after 6 - 8 month i started felling anxious and within a month full blown anxiety! sleepless nights, racing thoughts etc, after 8 month we had to move house as was getting demolished and new one built in its place, so we moved out the area and started feeling better and better had nearly 2 years of no anxiety then in march last year we moved back to brand new house where we used to live but in brand new house then summer last year it started again just the same way as last time now had full blown anxiety again since september 2014 i quit the booze, caffine, its a little better but all i can think about is how much i hate this area! when i leave to go shopping or visit friends i feel fine untill i remind my self i will have to go home :-( ill also add me and my partner had a son 5 year ago and was very stressful, lots of arguments etc we are a little better now, i also have next to no friends round here and im still stuck in most nights but have started goin to gym few nights a week which kind of helps, all i want to do is move back to where i came from but she wont move and i dont want to leave her and my son just because i feel like this, So i guess what im trying to say is can a area you hate so much make u anxious?
I believe it's due to the fact that you are not happy with where you live. The fact that you don't have your loved one close by and you are not constantly worried about suffering from anxiety again makes it easy to start experiencing all of the horrible side effects.
If moving is an option, I think you should let your partner know how unhappy you are and the toll it is taking on your life. Hopefully s/he will understand and make the change.
If moving isn't an option, I'd suggest start making new friends, do things that makes you happy, laugh. Laughter is the best medicine I have found. Find things to keep yourself occupied. As difficult as it sounds...it makes a huge difference. Go out jogging, watch your favorite comedy shows..YouTube maybe? ANYTHING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY WITHOUT HARMING YOURSELF.
Wishing you all the best xoxo
Hi Steve,
Not meaning to psycho-analyse (I am NOT a psychologist or have any kind or professional training I might add!), but I wonder whether this is an in-built issue because you didn't want to move to the area in the first place?
Having no friends is no fun and no help when you feel like this. I bet you felt really trapped and alone.
What did you like about the area that you moved to? Is there something there that may help you pin-point what the underlying issue is (because I think there must be one).
I wonder whether moving back to the new house, (which I read to be on the same plot of land - sorry if I have misunderstood this bit) means that you don't really feel like you have moved to a different place?
Also, is there something specific about the area you are now living in that you don't like? If so, it may help to identify what it is - you may be able to help yourself more if you can identify this factor.
I would also ask (rhetorically - it's none of my business of course!) why your partner won't move. Is there any reason there, or is it just because she does like the area, or because she's familiar with the area?
Does she realise how anxious it is making you? Have you actually told her, or have you just hoped she's picked up on the signs? (Us partners don't always pick up the signs that you hope we will I'm afraid).
If it is making you that unhappy and she will not do anything to help then you may have to think very carefully about where you go from here. If you love someone you will love and support them, so if she can see just how unhappy the area is making you, it may be worth asking her why she is not willing to help you by moving somewhere that you both like. Compromise is key to a successful relationship afterall.
I hope that this helps and that you don't feel that I have spoken out of turn.
yeah i never wanted to move to the area its a new house but on same plot but horrible estate drugies, alcoholics etc but its where she was brought up and her friends and family live there, when we first moved there she would go to her friends and parents every night i felt so alone being left by my self, i do have a few mates local but none i can really say im popping round to his for few beers etc, she thought my anxiety was a laighing matter till a few weeks ago when i explained what it was like (she is not really the type of person you can talk to stuff like this with) but anyway she has agreed to look at moving house when we get back of are holiday in june, i dont want to move out of the town just this area. for me june cant come fast enough!! :-) thanks for replys i really think this is the issue.