My boyfriend broke up with me over two weeks ago,Because He was going through a tough time I don't know what happened. He was suddenly acting different three days ago before we broke up It seemd like he had some financial issues. He borrowed money from me three times I called him and asked why and tryna help but he rejected.Then he started ignoring me one night I asked him why he told me I deserve someone better and he still wanna be my boyfriend, and he still loves me I was completely confused .He said lately he has drinking a lot like sometimes the night become a big blur he is not sure of things he does or he might has done,he might not be the same person after going through a lot of setbacks he is not sure he can bring out the best of him to me when he got a lot to deal with in front of him.I was shocked when I heard that,So I composed myself and decided to call him the next day. Then I called him and told him how badly I wanna help but he turned me down. He turned so cold and aggressive. He said he can't keep me anymore and don't put myself on him. I was crying and begging him to keep me he was so cold to talk with .late night he texted me "it is tough decision making it's best we stay apart".I asked him to take a break , but he rejected me again, and told me his feelings have faded away . He finally compromised till I said be friends. We are friends now, but we barely talk. You know, he's more cold and aggressive now. And i'm kinda afraid to talk to him. Plus, I don't want to be annoying. Last time he told me he's beating himself up, but he doesn't wanna talk about it and ignoring me again I really wanna help him, no matter he loves me or not, but he's so aggressive, and I don't know what to do. we are friends before we become lovers. I can't believe that he's feelings have faded away. He chased me for an half year, He was so nice no one treat me like he does. We were so happy together. What's wrong with him? Does he have any mental diseases. I can't quit him I love him sooo much, but I don't know what to do next I am in another city I'll go back to him after a month..And we have a chance to meet,but what should I do what should I say to win him back?
First thing i would say may sound harsh, but - if he wants it to be over, then its over. Its that simple. Whether he is depressed or not, that doesnt mean he isnt capable of making a decision, and having that decision respected. In fact it would do more harm than good if you were to somehow infer to him that this isnt the case. If you wished to make such a decision, you would want that to be respected - the same goes with him. These things happen unfortunatley, and whatever reasons he may have are his own, its not a nice thing to hear and its hard to accept, but im afraid you must accept it and move on
Thanks a lot!😊
Hi bebe - sorry to read of your heartache. Spend the next month not contacting him - no matter hoe much you want to. When you go back to where he is, comtact him to see if he will meet. If not, then you need to accept that the ship has sailed. You need to think about what you are going to do to move on and accpet that this is probably the reality. It's extremely difficult when we are in love with someone, and a shock to realise there is nothing we can do to make someone love us. It's cruel, but unfortunately a part of life. You have mentioned in your post several times that he has become 'aggressive.' I would be wary of that - verbal aggression can lead to physical aggression. If he has mental health issues he needs to recognise that and seek help. That, however, is entirely up to him. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself, don't blame yourself for the turn of events and try to remember that life is journey of many experiences and that includes different partners at different stages. Things will get better.
Thank you wanye❤.I told myself over and over again just quit him, my man is no longer exist.But I can't....cuz I still believe in us.But if he doesn't love me anymore what can I do is just accept it and move on,I think I will be fine.