Hey guys
I hope you are all well.
I am in need of some good hard advice on how to overcome the worry and depression that comes with joblessness. Currently I am studying an MSc in civil engineering part time, with the hope of combining it with work.
However for the past year/two I have not had a professional secure job. This has made me feel hopeless, with depression even starting to swap in about it. As I am living with parents, for me it makes it even worse as they constantly go on at me and make me feel worse about it.
What do I do? I feel like this is a mountain I can't climb?? Please help.
Hi Adam,
The devil finds work for idle hands. That used to scare me when I was a youngster-what did it mean.
Now, I get the point, we build mountains in our way, and complain when we can't climb them.
Lower your sights for the near future. Okay, you know what you eventually want but sitting at home with your parents doing diddly squat won't help you. Take on a job to keep you focused, then give yourself a target you can reach, a small hill-not a mountain.
Mike.
Hi Adam - it's unfortunate that our worth as human beings has been tied so closely with what we do - the first question someone asks a stranger (apart from directions) is what do you do? It's also a fact of today that the expectation of a job-for-life is a pipe dream. The world changes so quickly now and the advent of the digital age is changing the face of work all over the world. You are not hopeless. You are not alone. Your parents are not helping with constant criticism and the fact that you are stuck with them in the interim.
First, stick with your studies. It may seem a world away, but one day you will get that qualification and no-one can take that away. It's a target to aim for. The second suggestion I would make is that you see your doctor. Explain what you are feeling and see what he/she suggests. Depression can be a debilitating disease, and if you suspect it is advancing, it would be wise to deal with it. I wonder if you are able to explain to your parents how you are feeling? Perhaps writing it down?