I am so fed up, today has been horrible my head/neck hurts, my ears are ringing, I feel lightheaded, moments of panic its never ending, what I would give for one day of feeling normal! I am really finding the lead up to christmas hard this year, I lost my mum 5 years ago and my dad in June of this year, with perimenopause on top of it all christmas is just a nightmare. Everyone is happy and excited and im anxious thinking how the heck am I going to get through each social event. Please tell me there are other people dreading it as much as me xx
Hi caroline, Bah humbug! I am not in a merry mood either…as far as I am concerned 2018 cannot be over fast enough! Still feel lousy, still not working…seriously…I would have to be delusional to be happy about that. Some would say we have our health! OK! if you call this healthy…ha! Anytime people see me I get the sympathetic head tilt and questions of how I am feeling…so glad it is just my hubbie and kids.
You are not alone on this…I suspect many of us will be faking it to make it!
Hi Caroline,
We aren’t bug Christmas people as it is just my mom and I for the holidays, but I can sympathize with the panic. I have had a few episodes today. I am still feeling anxious now as about 30 minutes ago, I caught a bit of light in the eye. I tried blinking several times and could still “see” it. I immediately thought it might be a migraine aura started and went into full panic mode. It’s a terrible feeling living in fear and being scared all day. It is exhausting. Just think, Christmas will be over in two short weeks.
BIG not bug ^
Good God yes Caroline, I think we all feel that way even if you have the hormones of a 20 year old. Christmas is super stressful, but when you feel lousy but still have to shop, wrap, stuff, wrap, smile and make nice it’s made even harder. I always think I can’t get through it, or worry that I won’t get it done but it always comes together regardless of how I’m feeling, and it will be the same for you. Think when you’re menopausal you go into anxiety overdrive, when in reality you’ll cope cos you always do! My plan is to get everything done by next week, and just spend the rest of the time drunk… It seems to work 
I had a day like you today, throttled in the grip of the ghost of Christmas menopause, thought I’d faint, then crying, then shaky, then tired and somewhere in the middle I pickled onions so can’t be much wrong with me! Try this year to see the faith in yourself that everyone else has, pickle some onions and if all else fails get drunk 
xx
Caroline you are not alone. Right now I’m on stress/depression/burnout leave. This year has been really bad for me with menopause. Usually I have enough good days where I can push through. I’ve been on leave since November 28. I’m scheduled to return to work January 2, 2019. Already know I don’t want to return. I had already been thinking about leaving before I had a meltdown in my Supervisor’s office. I see a therapist once a week. She said to use this time to heal and let it out. If that means crying all day, do it. If it means staying in bed all day do it. She said my body is going to do what it needs to heal. Woke up Tuesday with frozen shoulder. It’s better now, but if you Google it, it says it last for years. I was scheduled for a massage and she must have worked that shoulder 30 minutes. Today it’s a little sore but I can lift my shoulder over my head.
Caroline do you ever feel like you’re slowly dying inside? I’m dealing with that now. I talk to God all day. He saw I was hanging by a thread and this time off is a HUGE blessing.
As far as Christmas, my sister is having brunch and she said we could even come in our jammies. That helps me. No all day thing and I don’t have to dress up.
Hi Caroline sorry to hear this . I was feeling like this for ages just panicky hot flushes headaches ,i was so fed up then by chance was in holland and barret and saw some tablets called menopace i thought i would give them a try as was desperate and i can honestly say after a month of taking them i feel so much better i hope im not just imagining it give them a try i hope they work for you they are not expensive either they just give your body all it needs at this time . Hope this helps x
me me me!!!i was in bed the last two days (again) with motion sickness and combination of flu feeling .. felt like SH*t!!!
of course i already have anxiety and this crap just pushes it into over drive!!! and i also have ringing in the ear!!! drives me insane!!!
my daughter and husband had to put up the tree without me… but i still have no desire to put out decor…’
please know you are not alone and praying for you hugs hugs hugs!!!
I’m not excited. In fact, every year I seem to be in a ‘bah humbug’ mood.I want to be old and alone and not have any expectations. Everyone is out happy and stuff. I just can’t wait till December 26th!! I know it’s sad and each year I remind myself to relax and enjoy.. I had hubby put the tree up last night because I wanted no part. It’s pretty even with just lights. I think the key to get thru is be good to yourself and go with the flow..
I’m not excited. In fact, every year I seem to be in a ‘bah humbug’ mood.I want to be old and alone and not have any expectations. Everyone is out happy and stuff. I just can’t wait till December 26th!! I know it’s sad and each year I remind myself to relax and enjoy.. I had hubby put the tree up last night because I wanted no part. It’s pretty even with just lights. I think the key to get thru is be good to yourself and go with the flow..
hi juanita… praying for you.. im post meno 
felt like crap for 3 years now… i had frozen shoulder too sadly mine lasted a year… could not move my arm at all .. it was fun getting dressed, washing hair etc… the bra was the funnest.. had to clasp it in front then somehow get it turned around… hugged with one arm.. etc.. it did finally got better… still a tiny bit sore but a million times better
hang in there!! hugs
Hi caroline I feel the same was doing ok until may this year started with head ache stomach problems, tired all the time joints ache not sleeping an anxious
The last 2 week have been bad , doctor give me different HRT but not helped
Now going to see a private doctor to see if she can help .My doctors are not that helpful
I have been perimenopausal for 4 years never thought I would feel like this again not been to work it just so hard
Take care
Paula
Please let me know how you get on with your private doctor, the doctors I have seen just won’t say any of my issues are down to hormones, so then you start thinking there must be something else wrong, so many women on here have the same symptoms, a lot of us have been to A&E thinking we are having heart problems, why don’t the doctors put two and two together, Im sure if we just had some reassurance it would really help x
I am going to get some today and see what happens, I have been taking starflower oil for 2 weeks but havent felt any benefit yet. xx
Im not working at the moment I just find it hard to do everyday things, I have been thinking about seeing a therapist for some advise, I like the healing yourself thing I never thought of it like that. I just wish I had a friend who is going through the same thing but nobody seems to be experiencing anything like me that I know. Love the idea of having christmas lunch in you jammies x
Love this! I think one of my big issues is that I have lost faith in myself. I used to be a really together person but now Im just a emotional wreck! You have inspired me to wrap my presents today. x
Thats it living in fear, every twitch, ache, noise makes me feel panic, what the heck has happened to us? x
I think if we could all have some reassurance that this wont last forever it my help but lets face it nobody is going to give us that. x
What is it with these lightheaded dizzy feelings I wish someone could just explain it so we can stop worrying. I could cope with everything else just the head stuff I find hard to deal with x
Its so sad a lot of us have lost are excitement I wish somebody could wave a magic wand and give us our joy back x