I feel like I've been hit by a train. I can't breathe I can't think .I don't know how to tell my boyfriend .Or my mom .I feel like they are going to think I'm disgusting and dirty . I don't know who I can turn to
You and me both are in the same exact situation sweetie. Just found out I was diagnosed yesterday . The 15th . Never been so depressed in my life . Have no idea how to tell my daddy or my boyfriend .. Never been so scared either.. Don't know where to go with this or how to deal with it , the fear that it might get worse frightens me also...
How old are you ? And not to get too personal but do you know how you got contracted it ? Does your boyfriend have it ?
Well in terms of telling your boyfriend..are you sure you got it before him?
I'm 20 years old .This should not be happening to me .My boyfriend has to get tested every month for work but I don't know if he gets tested for herpes as well .I think I might have had it before then if I'm being entirely honesti just didn't think anything of it back then .
Yeah, he has to get tested every month .I'm not sure if herpes exam is included when they test him though .
I actually got it while being with him from a female , me and him have been together for going on 4 years .. I'm 20 also . I'm too young for this type of news.
But now days herpes is overlooked so often. I guess you have to have your first break out to be able to know ...
What type of herpes do you have ? Type 1 or 2?
Where does your boyfriend to where he has to get tested to much ?
If you had it before that's even more dangerous .... How did you find out ?
He works with the government .But I found out because a couple days after having sex I found some sores on my butt and they were like open sores so I got worried about them and I looked it up so I kind of already knew I had it .And then I went to the gynecologist today and she told me I was starting to blister and she gave me medication. And she said it was going to get really bad and I'm so nervous for that. Because right now it's uncomfortable but I'm nervous for when it'll be really bad .I'm nervous as to how he will react when I tell him .I'm expecting him to get angry and blame me
Hi lady,
I am 34 years old and newly diagnosed with hsv-2. I initially was horrified, but went to pph with a list of questions that were all answered with clinical facts, I suggest you do the same. I'm not so scared of it anymore. I took the antivirals and they really help, as well as lysine and a daily suppliment. My mother was the first person I told, and her response was a relief, she said she would never stop hugging or kissing me, and this doesn't change anything other then the fact that this virus is an uncomfortable rash that can be spread unless taken care of properly. This is NOT the end of the world or your future, you are still you right? You can still move forward in life and do anything you put your mind to. This is such a small event in the grand scheme of life. Stay healthy, don't smoke or drink, and although it may seem hard now, don't stress, it can make things worse. As far as the boyfriend thing goes, just be honest and you will mist likely be suprised at the response. Your not a dirty person and you never asked for this. Stay positive, goid luck,
I mean I don't know how people get it without being sexual , especially if you have type 2..
I have type 2 but the female had type one ..
From the sounds of it you have genital herpes. I had my first break out aw man it's get horrible. You blister up and peel and you gotta wait for your skin to heal over and all types of ■■■■. I looked over mine because me and my boyfriend thought it was a chemical burn / 2nd degree burn .. But come to find out when I went to get tested it was herpes. Worst fear come true and it doesn't help that you can't get rid of it either.
How long have you and your boyfriend been together? I'm going through the exact same thing you are no lie, I have no idea how how I'm suppose to tell my daddy either. I ended yo getting a bacterial vaginitis that's how bad it got , I couldn't wipe or wash down there my boyfriend had to do it all for me . But a&D ointment was like my best friend and helped me heal quick . It burns when you pee because it gets on the raw skin aw man it gets bad BUT they have suppressive medicine for it and everything that's my next step I just hope my boyfriend doesn't have it .
You're taking it better then me it seems like
When I got diagnosed with it I cried I'm still crying . It's a scary thought to know that you are going to be stuck with this for the rest of your life
Like why me
If you get suppressive treatment / therapy you won't have hardly any breakouts ..,
I think cause I've been expecting to hear this for like the last week so it didn't come as a shock .When I found out I got in the car and I couldn't stop crying until I calmed myself down and told myself that it's just a skin condition. Yeah I have genital herpes, I'm just waiting to see how bad it will get .She gave me valtrex for the rest of the week and lidocaine cream .
Already said this, but someone with Type 1 cannot give you Type 2. Better look at your actual test results or ask your friend again...
They normally don't test for herpes during a regular std check
They say your not suppose to do anything when you have a major breakout .
I hear a lot about valtrex , and it's a lifesaver ....I would say wait until you think you are having another break out and start taking the medicine and see how it ends .
When Are you planning on telling your boyfriend ? Are you being sexually active with him ?
They say it's just a skin condition and when you make it sound like that it doesn't sound that bad... But yeah
No no I am definitely not being sexually active with him right now. So far I wouldn't consider myself havinga major breakout but it's barely coming out. I'm nervous as to how it's going to look . I plan on telling him this week when I'll see him .
Thank you so much! Your message really made me feel better .I wish my mom was as understanding
I seriously doubt he tests for HSV monthly. I'm incredulous that he even has to test for anything monthly! That's one very odd govt job he's got there... In any case, you probably got it from him. In most cases, the cause is the most obvious. Find out your hsv type. If 1, then it could just be from oral sex. Does he ever get cold sores?
What does your mother say about your situation ?