I just found out at the beginiging of the week that i was diagnosed with herpes. Its very hard to cope with i've gotten better over the last couple of days because of my parents support. But i really have alot of questions to those of u who have that & have been living w/ it long term. Im a 20 year old female. Could someone please help.
Which type? HSV-1 or HSV-2?
I'm 20 years old also ..,
Just found out no to long also ., so its taking time to adjust to this ..
do you know how you got it ?
I know it came from my ex boyfriend. He's only person I've had sex w/ in months & i get tested very frequently he doesn't & i knew he was having sex w/ other people but it was a complicated relationship we've been on & off since i was 16. How are u living w/ it i feel so disqusting & unwanted now. Ion know how to even look at another guy
1 & the doctors were no help very non interested like they just told me i have a cold they didnt explain anything to me really. They just told me to go puck up my prescription & wen i asked could i come back to ask some questions because i want to know wat i can & cannot do they said no.
I'm guessing it's on your genitals? I have HSV-1 as well. It's not the end of the world. Many say it's better than getting the second one. It is also easier to explain to future partners. It takes time to process honestly..it's an emotional roller coaster at first. That will pass.
I dont want to live w/ this i been thru enuff in life. Why do i have to face this now. My brother who was living in my apartment has it. & i smoke with him often could it hsve come from that.
My ex boyfriend said he doesn't have it & i didnt believe him becus he wouldnt show me any papers but he just sent me a voice memo of the hospital calling him saying his results were negative. So i really need to know where this came from its making me depressed i dont want to live like this. Now he's back w/ the mother of his child & i have nobody .
If it's on your genitals then you didn't get it from your brother. I know it's hard. No one deserves it. I thought the very same thing but it is what it is. Your ex-boyfriend..I would demand a print out of his results. Did you have an outbreak after having sex with him?
Yes i did everytime after we've had sex since october my symptoms got wosre but i didnt think they were sexually related becus u never felt anything like that. Until the last time which was about 2 weeks ago. 2 days after we had sex i had burning while i was peeing & alot of irritation i thought it was just Bv because i get that all the time from the soaps i use. Til i seen a bump i went to the er the next day. But he keeps changing his story which makes me think he's lying 2 weeks ago when we had sex i noticed 2 small pimple looking bumps under the head of his penis & when i told him we just go get tested& why he just snapoed on me. First he said they were hair bumps but they were under the head of his penis no one shaves right there. I just keep catching him in lies & he's the only one i had sex w/ in months & i always get tested so wouldnt it have been come up? All of this is confusing me
But thats what i was telling him , even if some how i did get it first which i cannot see happening i only have unprotected sex w/ him even thou u can get it while using a condom . I only had sex w/ one other person than him since september & i did not give that person oral only person i've given oral to is him . & its in my mouth so if i was to get it first some how. How does he still not have it? Im confused.
Its ruining my life i haven't been to work or school since i've found out. & he constantly texts me and tants me him & his baby's mother
Truth is he very well might be lying but you'll never really know unless he says it. If you did have it first it is possible for you not to have passed it to him. It's harder for women to give it to men and if you're not having an outbreak it makes it even harder. But the bumps under the head of his penis sounds suspicious. Stressing about whether he has it or not at this point is useless. It won't change anything and it might be just giving you extra stress.
Ok firget abt him . How do i know when this first outbreak is over. When do i know when i can have sex again? Can i kiss ppl while having an outbreak? How did u deal with your first outbreak? They gave me medicine that lasts a week but i've read stuff that says this can last for 20 days in sone cases becus this is my first out break. Im scared to toych down there so how do i know when its over? & how often do u have breakouts if u dont mund me askin? Do u have a partner? If so how did u explain to them that u have? How did? They react?
I feel the same way I just recently told my boyfriend about my diagnosis and It is really a challenge .. Like I don't want To be with Him no more because I feel like he can do so much better I want him to be able to be in a relationship where he can have sex whenever he wants to and not have to worry about outbreaks and all this .. Before I got diagnosed with this we were sex fanatics all the time and we rarely ever used a condom because I was and still am on birth control , but I don't want him to be with me .. And I'm trying to break it off . He doesn't get how different things are now that I have this virus , I just don't want to put him through this and I can't picture myself dating anyone else I refuse to go through that whole process again .,
The person I got it from didn't even tell me and just like you were saying they tried to make it seem like it was all on me and my fault , even tho before I hooked up with em I wasn't having no type of issues ,
I can just sense how tense he is and I don't know why he doesn't just break up with me and move on .. Call it quits
I can honestly say my breakout (my one and only so far) was beyond horrible one of the worst pains I've ever experienced in my life.., but A&D ointment was my best friend . It last about a week and half I couldn't wash down there I couldn't wipe down there nothing it was horrible my boyfriend had to help me with it all , and you have to keep it really lubricated when you don't it can seem to be even more painful..
I have many unanswered questions and I actually plan on going to planned parenthood tomorrow about it .. See whet information I can get
The person that infected me hasn't texted me or nothing all day
I mean how can you just infect someone with a disease and play like nothing happen . At the least I could've got an apology . I'm still beat up about it
I'm considered tainted and damaged goods .. I don't know where to go from here
But baby girl after everybody rainstorm there is a rainbow and karma is a b**** !!
The meds will help slow up the outbreak..give it a week. If you have outbreaks in your mouth no do not kiss anyone during. If it's only on your genitals then kiss away. Wait atleast 3 months after your outbreak to have sex again. I would look at mine with a mirror or my phone to see the progress. You can also tell by the amount of pain and stuff. I'm on suppressive therapy so I haven't had another outbreak. My only complaint is around the time of my period I feel tingling where my initial outbreak was. I have someone I'm talking to and interested in having sex with (he isn't the person that gave it to me and does not have it). He has been very loving and patient. We have prior history so I was very very afraid to tell him. But when I told him he said it was okay and that he was still interested in being with me. He took it very well.I'm taking baby steps in the sex area. He's ready but I'm sometimes afraid to do so. But I'm getting there!
Ashley I think the first thing you should do is get rid of that guy from your life. Doesn't sound like he's very nice to you or smart about his health and others health. I would also tell the mother of his child to be careful as she might get it too.
Have you read the post that is pinned on this forum? Lots of good info in there.
You are lucky to have type 1. Do you only have the sores on your genitals not your mouth? If so then you can't give it to anyone through kissing only through sexual contact. And you still can give it to people even when you aren't having an outbreak.
I have only had it, type 2, for less than a month and am still crying almost daily. I believe it will get easier I just don't know how yet.
What type of supression meds do u take that make it stop like that. How long have you had it? & thats great im really happy for u i really hope everything works out with you guys. I've been talking to a boy for a couple montha now but i feel really blessed to have him in my life he has been nothing but there for me since he met me. But we stopped trying to be in a relationship becus the guy who i've been messing w/ for so long wasn't completely out of the picture. But i have really been stressing out like really bad & he knew something was wrong & after my ex texted me earlier beging disrespectful again i was getting depressed again i just told him & he was very understanding & said that he still looks at me in the way . Im scared to try to build something with him now becus im a little insecure . But are there any pointers u can give me to have clise to no breakouts at all for whatever relationship i have next.
I mean supressive therapy I read that wrong. Wat is that?
I've had mines since October so I'm still "new" I suppose. I take one valtrex a day. Some don't suggest it for HSV-1 because the outbreaks are less frequent but I decided it would be best for me to take it for a while then come off and see what happens. I know how the insecurity can eat you up..that began to happen to me. But remember you are the same beautiful woman you were before this whole thing happened. Your ex is a jerk. The other guy seems nice..I know it's scary but give it a shot. Stress isn't good for you! Everyone has different triggers. Some certain foods or activities might trigger an outbreak. Luckily the suppressive therapy has kept everything at bay. Also my doctor told me it lessens the chance of me giving it to a partner that doesn't have HSV-1..which was very reassuring.