Today I find that it’s spread.scared stiff. My husband and I are pretty much alone in the world. He’s had 2 heart attacks. I wish my doctor would get back to me.
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Sorry to hear your news, i to have breast cancer that spread to parts of my spine.I had to have a major operation on my back to stablelise it as well as taking medication and radiotherapy to treat the cancer. I was 3 months ago that the breast cancer had shrunk.Be positive and you will get through this hard time.
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Hello Ro, firstly big love and healing to you and your husband.
I was diagnosed this time last year, on my 65th birthday 
. I was extremely lucky, it was early, small and dealt with within 2 weeks. I took a chance and didn’t take the radiotherapy and letrozol (I have my reasons).
You have to remain positive. Don’t go imagining anything. The doctor will get back to you as soon as they can. There are so many options available these days and with good results. It won’t be easy, but there is such a huge support network available, make good use of everything offered.
Love and healing 
x Amanda
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I am sorry to hear your breast cancer has spread, have they said where the spread is? There is such good treatment out there, I am sure you will be well cared for.
My breast cancer had just spread to the lymph nodes
There are a few breast cancer groups, one is Breast Cancer Now, who were excellent, there was always a breast cancer nurse you could talk to. And on fb there are a few good supportive ones.
They will soon start a treatment plan for you.
I’m so sorry to hear that you have breast cancer and that it has spread. Being scared makes complete sense. Being diagnosed and living with cancer is an impossible situation that no one should have to experience. My husband had colorectal cancer. Waiting for a doctor call or visit is agonizing. Hang in there! You are doing great!
Actually nothing is official in terms of the spread . I just I just found out I have breast cancer about three days ago then I did a scan and they said that they saw some. I’ve already got a problem with my T1. It’s collapsed, but I thought it was osteoporosis but they said there’s something up by T1 and they think they see metastatic damage there, but haven’t received anything official to my doctor. He’s on vacation now until Monday. I’m sure that’s right though you know I read that breast cancer goes right away to the spine C1 T1 C7 type thing so I have appointment with the breast surgeon at Northwestern on July 7 July 14 so pins and needles then till then I guess for a day if anybody cancels can I get in there sooner because everybody says you know this is the worst possible time the diagnosis in the waiting and when you go to see the doctor hopefully it’ll be a good one then they have a plan.
I saw the spine oncologist and he looked at an x-ray and he said he didn’t see any cancer there, but I think after that scan I had the other day that they pretty much said there was metastasis there he was just trying to make me feel good thanks.
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Oh man! I know that my life changed forever when I heard the “C” word. It was my husband, but my life was turned upside down. I’m not going to pretend that I understand what it’s like to be the patient receiving a cancer diagnosis. Waiting is so so hard!
What you’re dealing with is unimaginable, and not having answers and having to wait for results and surgery consultations is painful! The internet can be your friend in research, and it can also be your worst enemy.
Great to read of someone else who refused treatment after a lumpectomy because I thought very few people did. I first had b.c. when I was 82 only trying anastrozole and the side affects were horrendous so stopped it. Then it came back last September but still refused treatment - Why would I want to go through that at 87. Annual mammo on the 2nd September. Having been told at the hospital - it will be back sooner rather than later - I await results.
Thank you Penny. It is scientifically proven that toxic treatments make the situation worse, not better and, as you say, why would you put yourself through so much more pain and suffering? The fear factor that’s driven into you by the “caregivers”. I was told it will be back and likely in the other breast too, they tried really hard to bully me into it. If it’s meant to be then it will be so, with or without treatment.
I watched my partner die a long slow extremely painful death after 1 round of immunotherapy because they didn’t know what to do when his immune system went berserk and started eating him inside out. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith. Sending you much love and healing x
So lovely to receive a reply - from someone in the same boat thank you. Can I ask if you are currently “free” and if so after how long? The annual mammogram is next Tuesday - the 2nd Sept so, after being told it will be back sooner rather than later waiting for results won’t be good because I’ve been told another lumpectomy won’t be carried out (after two) - it will be a mastectomy and I don’t see why as there will be nowhere to go plus it can return even so. I refused radiotherapy having learned it often pushes the cancer lower down. By not accepting treatment after the first diagnosis it gave me another comfortable four years so I’ve been lucky. So many young women under the age of 50 are now dying because cancer wasn’t suspected so not treated. Do hope you will keep in touch. Big hug xx