Yeah so today I found out I have herpes although I've known I had it for maybe 4 days I caught it off my boyfriend who I am still with!
It's on my genitals I'm having my outbreak my doctor said it wasn't the worst outbreak she saw and told me it was alright!
But I am so depressed right now I keep crying and I feel so disgusting and disease ridden I feel like I am so different from the whole of society!
I was happy with my boyfriend before he gave me this but now that I've realised this it's making me absolutely petrified he will leave me! I know that if I'm not with him I won't ever be with anyone else because I literally could never tell anyone!
Does this depression and anxiety ever go? I'm going to be taking the suppression therapy daily!!
Any advice how to cope with this I really am depressed I feel so isolated
(I suffer from anxiety and depression anyway)
Hei, I know exactly how you feel. And even though I'm still hoping every day that new medication will be invented soon to help us get rid of it once and for all, I start to learn how to live with my diagnosis and just don't over think it too much (it took me more than a year though). It's something you cannot change anyways, so the only thing you can change is your attitude. Try to appreciate every beautiful thing you have in your life!
Do you have HSV-1? or HSV-2?? I found I has HSV-1... but I'm hoping it's not genital cause I haven't had an out break!
I don't know haven't got that information yet! It was just diagnosed by the eye of the doctor I'm guessing 2 because it's on my down below
I really do think is the second one
Im so scared too and I live in America. They're so judgemental here. My anxiety is going crazy and all i can think about is committing suicide. That's all I can think about. I can't sleep, I can't go to school... I'm tired.
Do you have it as well Olivia?
I'm contemplating suicide as well but I could not leave my parents they would be devastated!
I have a plan of staying with my boyfriend for as long as possible
I'm going to start trying for a baby (it's safe) and then I'll have a baby so I won't give a crap if I have a man or not because I'll have a child to look after! I really want children!
Don't kill yourself olivia we will all be okay
How are you coping with it?
I'm only 18 though. I had sex one time. I don't deserve this. I guess I have HSV-1 but idk if it's orally or genitally. I have to small bumps down there but they're not herpes. I think I've gotten a cold sore. I'm fine if it's orally & ive probably always had if but idk i've itched for 5 months. I'm at school right now and I just can't do this. Everyone seems so happy and I'm just here in pain. I'm really thinking about doing it.... who would wanna be friends or date a girl with HSV-1??? I'm so tired. I should have stayed a virgin forever like my dad told me... and i never wanted to do it it just happened. I'm also adopted so i know they'll miss me but i've always wanted to be with my real parents. Idk i think i'm going to go through with it /:
are you all from the U.K.?
Yeah I am from the UK
And Olivia you really shouldn't be over thinking it so much especially since you have HSV1 it's really not bad what so ever!!
It's harder to get and you get less out breaks 85% of the population have HSV1 even my mom has it!!! And my brother!! And a few people from work!!
My mom doesn't even know its herpes she's clueless she really doesn't care!
Just tell people you suffer from cold sores
But I know how you feel I'm scared to be alone!
I think it might be genitally though. I don't want it to be. And my parents are wanting to take me to a therapist and a hospital. I've gone crazy. I can't do this. I wanna do it tonight... There's nothing for me to live for anymore. I've always been sad and depressed so this is just making it worse. I need to be with my real parents and hopefully god. I'm so terrified that I'm leaving school right now. I can't breathe.. I've given up.
Please Olivia don't do this! I guarentee because of statistics there are a lot more people with this skin infection than you think in your school!!
Least your parents know
I haven't told my parents anything because I'm so disgusted
Please don't kill yourself
Hi Oliviya, I am so sorry that you are going through this. you can do type specific IgG test to make sure which one you are infected with, but you need to paas the window period for more acurate result. I can understand how depressed you are with your comments here. I just want to tell you that it gets better by the time. I live in UK and I am a guy who fall in love with a lady who have HSV2. So trust me there are lots of good men out there who will aceept as the way you are. Give some time and you will be fine. Dont do anything stupid to your self. I am sure you are more stronger than that. try to find someone to talk it really helps. Hugs xxxxx
Hello, I'm only 18 and am diagnosed HSV-1. For a bit, I felt the same until I decided tell my boyfriend. If he really loves me he would accept me. I was expecting a disgusted face but instead, he was so accepting. He knew what it is and he was very open. HSV-1 is in more people than you might think. Come to find out even my co worker has it.
What's the window period? I'm just so broken. I don't know why because I was careful! So take the IgG test? What's that going to do?
Did you do the swab test? this is the most acurate test.
Window period is the period wich takes your body to make detectable antibodies which is normally 3 to 5 months from possible expose. in this test it check for antibodies in your blood, so you dont have to have an outbreak for the test and you can clearly find which type you have. you can do this test in NHS sexual health.
Most of people in here not infected with their chice for sure, you were just got unblucky for once, but it is not the end of the world. May be you are not infected at all.
Drop me a personel message if you want someone to talk. you are not alone and everything is going to be alright. x
No i didn't because she said i didn't have any symptoms or the bumps. I have ingrown hair a lot and they just itch they don't hurt at all and I pee fine. I think i'm fine. I just got my blood test and i talked to my nurse and she says that i don't have it down there. I do get a lot of sores in my mouth or near it so that's probably it. I went to go get checked after 4 months. My ingrown hair itched me but now they're gone. I'm honestly fine now. I saw what blood test was done so it's better. My friend gets cold sores a lot so maybe i got it from her cause we share drinks a lot. I know I don't have it down there. I trust the blood tests. Thank you for your help! But i've been so worked up that i have tingles and twitches all over my body but never near my groin or down there. I was going crazy. I mean the bumps did come after i shave and i always get bumps so i itched them too much and irritated the skin... but i never had problem getting up or peeing, i would be fine. So i'm confused.
I am so glad that you feel okay now and sounds you dont have to nothing to worry aboutfor me. May be you are just thinking too much. HSV1 is much more coomon than HSV2. But you need to careful when you have cold sores. it can easily speread to your eyes. and try to prevent having sex when you have an outbreak.
And next time when something bad happen to you dont say that you give up on your life. I am sure you are lot better than that. x