I know I am on here a lot with different things,but I just need to reassurance that I will be ok.I had a really bad day today.It started this morning at 4:30 with panic,adrenaline,racing thoughts and just gloom.I got up and calmed down and thought I would be ok.Started school with my kids and became increasingly agitated for no reason.I have the sweetest kids and my frustration turned to guilt for being irritated.I walked to my moms and had a mini breakdown.I can't get a grip in all these different emotions that come so quickly.First agitation,then sadness,crying and depressed.I was fine yesterday and actually had a good day.Then today was total sadness thinking I can't do this anymore.Some comforting words would be appreciated.
Hey Beth. Sorry you had such a trying day. It's SO common. I broke down crying when I saw my gyn a few months ago. He gave me a rx to induce a bleed. I've been almost a year with no period. Went to the gp today. He gave me a rx for a non addictive anti anxiety anxiety med, which I begged for. I've felt SO guilty. Like I'm not a good mom, etc. That's JUST not true! We ARE good parents. This is a horrible ride!!! Do you still cycle? How old are you? Just curious. Hang in there. I do believe it gets better. I have hope. Just try not to beat yourself up. Not all women go through this like we do. And I've yet to find a doc who gets it. Focus on the positives. You made it to your mom's. That's progress! Hugs to you. Message me any time. You are not alone!☺
I get all of this and much more. Dizziness, balance issues, anxiety, adrenaline rush, sadness, depression, hot flashes, irritability and more. I take it one day at a time. Sometimes a moment at a time. Best to keep busy, get sufficient sleep, exercise, eat healthy, do your hobbies, etc. I’m 56 and have had the really, really tough stuff I mentioned above for over 4 years now (started menopause when I was 48, only had hot flashes up until 4 years ago then the anxiety, dizzy etc started.). Stay on this forum for support. Also, find a good friend to be your support through the rough times. You need support and you will get through this!
Hi Beth...So sorry you had a hellish day. It happens to all of us! I have a husband and 2 children. I put up with eye rolls, attitude and ignore it... then other times I find a cheerio on the floor and I am fit to be tied! Last week at this time I was laying in my bed crying in the fetal position. Had a ripping migraine, and I broke my cell phone while running for my life as my crazy rooster attacked me...BAD day! Today...pretty OK day. I am so glad you can have a breakdown in front of your mom. Mine thinks I am from another planet right now! You’ll be ok! No shame in having a good cry every now and then! Hugs to you🤗🤗
I'm so sorry you're having a horrible day. I think all of us know how you're feeling. for me, when I have several good days and then a really bad day it's so much worse. I dont have the anxiety that seems to plague a lot of women in this forum and I'm grateful for that! symptoms for me as of late are a racing heart and shortness of breathe, not at the same time but it's so frustrating. I make myself push through it because I refuse to let menopause win. unlike so many, I do not have children at home and I can't imagine how hard that is to take care of them when some days you can't take care of yourself. my hat is off to all of you that do it. I have an amazing support system and dr, and I think that is a huge part of getting through this. hang in there and know you are not a bad person or parent, you are not crazy and you are not wrong for how you feel sometimes. hugs and prayers for a better day tomorrow!
I sobbed all night about three months ago, absolutely inconsolable cinvinced I had MS and actually that is when my non twitching started.
I'm still stressed , but the grip of dark sadness is just starting to lift., Ive withdrawn socially so much ,it's ridiculous.
The last four years have been a roller coaster of physical and emotioal ups and downs (the latter being dominant).
Even if the Neuro gives me the all clear, I still will be far removed from my old self. I just take it day by day and tell myself this in the scheme of things, will be a temporary speed bump in my life.
When I feel bad and upset I have taken to writing in a Thoughts Journal. It is just so freeing. Just writing those thoughts and feelings down helps to get them out and it feels as if I've let go. And it brings peace of mind. Knowing also that this journal is only mine to see is a good thing too. Hope you can find time to write.
I also find songs on the radio that I love to listen to and write them down so later I can add them to my I-pod. I love music and just admire those that can sing so much. I can't and it makes me so happy to hear it from others.
What you are experiencing is totally normal for perimenopause. I can remember a couple of months back when my lovely mother came for dinner. I was feeling strong enough, at the time, to organize a dinner for us. It has been so tough to feel so fragile! Anyways, just after supper, I because highly irritated by the mere sound of her voice, which is totally unlike me. Seconds later, I broke down sobbing inconsolably. Then, seconds after that, I felt a smile developing on my face, and I was happy and peaceful. My poor mum sat there the whole time and witnessed the various expressions on my face, as I went through these different emotions, My mum said that if she hadn't witnessed it with her own eyes, she wouldn't have believed that that was possible!
Hi Beth Just want to send you lots of hugs and love. I know it may feel like its overwhelming ...I know the feeling. But We are here for you .everyone on this forum understand.❤
All I can tell you is that I am experiencing the same thing. I am better than I was when this first started but I've noticed lately the down feeling has increased but I don't know why. I just keep praying and reading my Bible and just try to be grateful for all the blessings I have.
You sound so similar to myself. I have the sweetest kids but get frustrated too. I think it's just natural.
I completely get what you're going through right now. You are NOT alone. This is a community of women supporting each other especially in the worst of time. I, myself have been suffering from the results of my partial hysterectomy from 2 years ago and open heart and breast surgeries last year. Until now my anxiety is off the roof. I found myself some helpful remedies like meditation, essential oil, praying and.....surprise!!!!. Turmeric Oil for the pain . It will get better. Hang in there. We have each other. Message me too anytime. 😘
I am soon to be 43.I have had messed up periods for years.They were every 28 days but now every 26 days.I will bleed for several days,stop bleed again,and then spot different shades til I ovulate.Then nothing til next period.Told gyn,ct showed mild thickening of uterine lining.I don't know if stress has brought this on so sudden,but I have been having hormonal symptoms for years,and then bam 2 months ago,all these crazy emotions,they are the worst.I will take physical symptoms anyday.
I'm supposed to cook dinner for my dad Wednesday,and I'm thinking will I get through this.You made me laugh,it's like we are possessed.If it wasn't so terrible it would be a comedy.I love this forum.
Hi Beth - I’d like to say that unfortunately what you are experiencing is “normal”. I have become “psycho” Mom more than once in my life...I called my son a “stupid idiot”because he didn’t put the the pillow back on the couch after watching TV. This is from someone who never even raised my voice with my kids. After that episode I then broke out into “ugly crying” & my husband & son looked at me like I was possessed. Frankly, we are possessed, not sure what this is supposed to prove except if your children are old enough to understand “hormonal changes” now is the time to have the conversation. I remember reading about woman doing crazy things like I won’t even mention, but now I don’t judge, because I have had those crazy “out of body” moments. My demented 17 year old devoted cat, whom I love, can make me “flip” in a nanosecond with his blood curdling meow. Oh God, help me! 🙏
Hi Beth, you are normal. Yesterday I was so low I thought I wasn't going to make it. Laid across the bed and cried, on my birthday no less. Made it to work today, wanted to kill everyone. Now this evening I'm okay. Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde that's me.🙄
You will continue make it. God and this forum have been my saving grace.
I turned 29 LOL!!!!(59). I don't know why I was so low. On the 22nd my BFF took me to the movies and out to lunch and gave me a wonderful gift (more of a blessing really). My coworker baked me chocolate cupcakes! My timeline on Facebook was full of birthday wishes. Another BFF took me to brunch and gave me some awesome gifts. My nephews gave me gifts and my sisters and my niece came by bearing gifts and cards. I did get a chance to talk to my niece (she's 47 and had had a full hysterectomy, so she gets it). I did feel better after we talked. Today I'm still getting belated birthday wishes.
Now when I look at all I have written why was I laying on my bed crying on my birthday? Because meno depression. That's why. Because when I read what I've written you I really had a great birthday.
I too experience anxiety - worst in the morning as I wake up with racing heart and being fearful about what symptoms the day will bring. It is absolutely horrible!!! It's been like this for a month now and I have contacted a therapist for help to cope with my anxiety.
I am 46 and have loads of peri-symptoms: Anxiety, digestive/bowel issues (gas, loose stools, stomach pain), irregular periods, hot flushes, lower back pain, sleep disorders, memory lapses, mood swings, irregular heartbeat.
I guess when you are low with this memo depression, it doesn't really matter who give you what, it's terrible and it's a sin that we are bearing this kind of cross.
I know what you mean..unfortunately.
One thing is being down, but that's not what this is. Nowhere near close.
My heart goes out. Atleast you've got tons of support, n people around you that care, but like you say, it doesnt tak away the mood.