I feel like a 44 y/o good for nothing most days....and it can be so depressing when I start thinking I'm too young to feel this way! Y'all are my support system. Thank God I have y'all to vent to. I just have no motivation. I think about redecorating a room and then I don't feel like it. I think of lots of stuff I could do, but no I think I will just sit here and watch tv....and watch my life go by. I go to cbt, but I don't feel like I really progress out of my rut. I just keep repeating the same behaviors. Sorry, I just needing to vent and have someone to talk to! Thanks for listening sweet ladies!
I could be writing your post. I cabbage out all day, beating myself up for not doing anything but unable to do anything about it. Let's just hope one day we look back on this and laugh. You are not alone.
Thanks Christine. How old are you? Do you have kids/work?
Hi...same here!!! I could have written your post..its 3 years for me so far..can anyone tell us PLEASE when does this end...??? No motivation whatsoever I was NEVER a couch potato and now all I want to do is lie on my bed and surf the net or go on facebook...not even interested in watching tv..
.Ive totally stopped exercisong and of course have put on pounds..I feel useless and depressed....there are soooo many things I have to do but i dont feel like it!!!! HELP!!!! I WANT THIS TO GO AWAY!!!!
Cleo. Thank you for responding. I am running out of things to watch tv and since I don't do Facebook...sometimes I browse Pinterest. The fam is the only thing that keeps me moving. Laundry etc. thank God for that, or I might not get up. I truly believe staying active keeps us healthy, so that just makes it worse that I don't feel like doing anything. I do have to force myself though. I too used to always be working in my flower beds, or shopping for things to make my house look nice. When how does the hormones settling bring all that back. Please tell me that comes back!
Hang in there. I'm 47 and i feel the same way. Think positive and keep it moving. I'm not giving up and neither should you. Praying for you.
I truly dont know how hormones can do this to us..at least we know that others experienc e this..and we"re not alone!! Oh god yes I hope we get our motivation back...just when you you think youve got a break in life with kids all grown up amd out of the nest..MENOPAUSE HITS!!!!
I just started walking on the treadmill yesterday so i can lose weight and exercise. And keep motivated. I have had no energy for a year so i know i have to keep moving.
Hi I'm 54 don't work and still have a son at home. My husband works away and only comes home every other weekend so I have to keep trying but it is soooo hard. I used to work full time, managed to bring my son up virtually single handed, exercised & studied and now....... Takes all my energy to put one foot in front of the other. No social life, no exercise, no major house maintenance, nothing. It is so depressing.
Hello, you are definitely not alone. Im feeling this way myself today. We moved into a new house and I look at the boxes and think I should empty those......then the icky feeling kicks in and I decide not to 
This is miserable but I have had good days too. They say we will get through this..... until then Im praying for all of us every day. Take care!
Thank you Carmen. I do not want to give up. Some days I just have to accept that I am going to feel like this today and hope tomorrow is better
Hey Becky. I am supposed to be looking for a house right now. I should be excited, right? Not so much. So many women I'm sure suffer in silence. I sometimes wonder if my granny felt like this.
Thank you for responding Cleo. It really does help to know we are not alone. I still have 1 at home. Probably helps more than I realize.
My GP doesn't have a clue about this stuff.
Its tough right now to get excited about anything....I hope that you do find away to be happy looking for a new house. I find myself looking at different ladies saying she got through it. She looks happy. Ugh! If your granny felt this way and Im sure suffered in silence shes my hero! I hope that I come out on the other side..happy. Try to stay positive and have a good day. Btw way are you in the US?
You're welcome and i feel the same way most days. I will feel good and bad in the same day. But i keep pushing. I know there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Funny how you think its just hot flashes, night sweats and skipped periods. It is definitely a lot more than that. HORMONES are crazy. More drs need to study this so women know. I have told a lot of my friends what they might have to look forward too. I hope they don't get it as bad as i've had it. We got this
Thanks for letting me know I am not alone today. Ugh. It must be hard with your husbands work schedule like that. Do you think you will ever go back to work? And did you stop bc of all this stuff or other reasons? I try to go to a bible study once a week. I am always glad that I made myself go bc it is good to get around some positive energy. No one there seems to feel like I do, but I'm sure there is at least one. Right?
Hi Chr,
You are not alone my friend. I'm suffering with severe anxiety today, but I tell the girls at work how I feel. Some are my age and don't have these severe symtoms. One woman now in her 60's understands because she went through this. I'm panicky and worry about finances, trying to Maintain my home. I live alone and have a very large lot, and I need some repairs and although I work 6 days a week, I don't have the money. I'm also having a hard time accomplishing simple chores I was always able to complete. I used to clean my entire home, do all my laundry make dinner and many more things in one given day. Nowadays I will have a clean dishwasher for multiple days, clean clothes sitting in the dryer. I feel like I lost many friends, and don't socialize anymore. I'm single now so I don't cook because I lack the energy and ambition. My entire world has fallen apart. I used to have so much motivation and zest for life, but this change of life has taken all that away from me. I was prescribed Prometrium, but was afraid to start it two months ago, and last week when I was supposed to begin, I felt ok, but now I'm regretting never starting it. I'm on a high dose of cymbalta which isn't doing anything. I'm PMS and it 100x worse then before. I'm really scared today
Hey Colleen. Thank you for sharing. I know this seems like we are drowning sometimes. But our God is bigger than this and we will make it through. 2thes 3:3. He is faithful. I'm glad you work. That gets you out of the house. We need something. Are you going to start the prometrium? Is that a pill? I'm glad you have the one lady at work that can relate.
Yes its a pill but requesting to see a doc at a place referred from a hs friend who swears that this doc gave her a life back. He spends an hour with his patients after a blood draw and injects bio Identical hormones every few months and the results are quick
Ok ladies I relate to some of your systems. But I did get some relief from drinking soy milk(chocolate for me), flax seed in yogurt , and mult vitamin , plus a b complex , plus a d vitamin. Are ladies taking anything??? I am going to Doctor in November hoping for cream to help with more relief. I don't like medicine(. Pills like Xanax , I have never taken anything like that before and I don't want to start). I had a baby at 42 and it threw me into perimenopause . I have anxiety , crying spells, heart racing, weight gain, angry easily .So this has helped me. Sometimes I could even feel like I could fall asleep during the day.And I use to be like the energizer bunny. Restless nights. And so on. Sometimes I get a moment when I get anxiety and I feel really funny for about five to ten mins and I start taking my stuff. I have even had dump dreams and unwanted thoughts. Not all at once. Some people said magnesium . I am gonna try this. I hope all of you feel better.